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NotHere

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Hi, I'm new here. I am a wife and mother of 3 little girls. I am confused with how I feel spiritually and emotionally. I'm unsure if I really believe there is a God out there who really cares about each and every person. I feel that if there is, He would overlook me as I'm not as important as everyone else. I know what the bible says. I know it says He cares, I just have a problem believing he would care about someone as insignificant as me. Anyway just wanted to say Hi and that I hope to get to know a lot of people here.
 

Desertsrose

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Hi Nothere,

You can be assured he cares for you.

Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you at the proper time, casting all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you. 1 Peter 5:6,7

Psalm 139:1-16
O Lord, You have looked through me and have known me. You know when I sit down and when I get up. You understand my thoughts from far away. You look over my path and my lying down. You know all my ways very well. Even before I speak a word, O Lord, You know it all.

You have closed me in from behind and in front. And You have laid Your hand upon me.
All You know is too great for me. It is too much for me to understand.
Where can I go from Your Spirit? Or where can I run away from where You are? If I go up to heaven, You are there! If I make my bed in the place of the dead, You are there! If I take the wings of the morning or live in the farthest part of the sea, even there Your hand will lead me and Your right hand will hold me.

If I say, “For sure the darkness will cover me and the light around me will be night,” even the darkness is not dark to You. And the night is as bright as the day. Darkness and light are the same to You.

For You made the parts inside me. You put me together inside my mother. I will give thanks to You, for the greatness of the way I was made brings fear. Your works are great and my soul knows it very well.

My bones were not hidden from You when I was made in secret and put together with care in the deep part of the earth. Your eyes saw me before I was put together. And all the days of my life were written in Your book before any of them came to be.

Welcome to CC!
 
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Welcome, Yes there is a God & he does love you. In fact he knows everything about you including the number of hairs on your head. He would never overlook you & you are important in his eyes including your daughters.
 

Magenta

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Welcome to CC, NotHere :) It is easy to feel small and insignificant in such a large and busy world, but rest assured that God knows exactly who you are and how you feel. Your sense of lack of importance may actually save you from some of the sins of pride that God finds so grievous. God gives grace to the humble! He also draws near to the broken hearted. Not that you said that was your state, but it must be difficult to feel so disconnected from a sense of meaning and purpose, especially when you have three wee ones depending on you at this point in their lives for their love, meaning, and purpose. Lay all your cares on Him, for He cares for you. May you seek God with an open heart, as trusting as a child, knowing that He loves you with an everlasting undying love. He gave the life of His only begotten Son that you might have a life more abundant.

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Hi, I'm new here. I am a wife and mother of 3 little girls. I am confused with how I feel spiritually and emotionally. I'm unsure if I really believe there is a God out there who really cares about each and every person. I feel that if there is, He would overlook me as I'm not as important as everyone else. I know what the bible says. I know it says He cares, I just have a problem believing he would care about someone as insignificant as me. Anyway just wanted to say Hi and that I hope to get to know a lot of people here.
**** do you care about your 3 little ones---- embrace and follow Christ--- seek after Him---- He cares for you MORE than you love your own children...
 
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Welcome to Christian Chat, NotHere. The Lord believes in justice, and that means he loves us all equally.
 
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NotHere

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It's not that I don't believe in God but that a God, who created everything, would care so much about me. I've made so many mistakes, been diagnosed with depression and anxiety. It's difficult for me when I know everything I've done, thought and lived through, to believe that God could care about me when He also knows everything I've said, done and thought. I live as though I believe he does care about me, I go through the motions (I guess you can say) but it is so hard for me to believe and comprehend it.
 

Magenta

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It's not that I don't believe in God but that a God, who created everything, would care so much about me. I've made so many mistakes, been diagnosed with depression and anxiety. It's difficult for me when I know everything I've done, thought and lived through, to believe that God could care about me when He also knows everything I've said, done and thought. I live as though I believe he does care about me, I go through the motions (I guess you can say) but it is so hard for me to believe and comprehend it.
Jesus knew the state of humanity before He gave His life for us, and still, He gave His life for us. He knows everything you have ever said, thought, or done, and still loves you, would still have decided to take the punishment and hang on that cross just to save you from yourself. We have all made mistakes, some of them quite harmful to others and ourselves as well. Though it is best not to compare ourselves to others, we often do it anyways, and to our detriment. Still, I would bet (if I was a betting person) that much of what you have done that you think to be so bad is really not as bad as you might think, for we are usually our own worst critics. Do you have friends you can be yourself with, without fear of needing to censor yourself? People who know who you are and love and accept you for who you are? Or any kind of support groups you attend? Are you able to have breaks from the responsibility of bringing up your children? You have not mentioned your husband...
 

student

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It's not that I don't believe in God but that a God, who created everything, would care so much about me. I've made so many mistakes, been diagnosed with depression and anxiety. It's difficult for me when I know everything I've done, thought and lived through, to believe that God could care about me when He also knows everything I've said, done and thought. I live as though I believe he does care about me, I go through the motions (I guess you can say) but it is so hard for me to believe and comprehend it.
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You believe in God, you must also believe in Satan. God is no respecter of persons, meaning we are all as loved as another. If you look at the characters in the bible, Mary was the best one, perhaps... Paul who was formerly "Saul" was a murderer, a Sanhedrin who persecuted Christians until Jesus met him on the road to Damascus. Paul went from a blind encounter with our Lord to writing 2/3 of the New Testament. (That's only one amazing thing in that beautiful bible). Many of the heroes of the bible are the youngest, David, Joseph, Isaac was a half brother as his father Abraham made a mistake. God loves each of these as though there were only one of these. He loves you the same. Meanness is not a favorite of God's. Ask the reprimanded Pharisees whom he called, "You whitewashed tombs!" He referred here to how they worried more about the status of their immaculate 'resting places' than their fellow man. Does that mean he didn't love them? To the contrary, He used words that cut them to show them he loved them. "Whom God loves, he disciplines."

As for the 'world', one quote suggests there are a lot of lonely people in 'it'. I was one and thought I alone suffered until I found one who suffered more than I did. You are a young mother of 3 children. If you are a stay at home Mom, that's hard, especially with 3 children. Many needs. Not at all implying your mothering is inadequate, not at all... I was a stay at home of 2 and I remember the depression. Satan worked hard to try to destroy me. God met me at the crossroads. I work for God now. I'm 'employed' by others, but my real 'work' is changing lives, including my own. It takes time and you're never alone.

Ask God to show you. Ask Him into your heart. You're beautiful and He wants to tell you so himself. Here's an example, "Dearest Father, I want to know you better. I have sinned and want to grow in you. I accept your forgiveness and pray you will lead me and guide me to an ever more fruitful life and, eventually, to a world with you." Amen. That's not the status prayer usually prayed, its a 'placebo' of sorts...God loves you. The prayer will work and God loves you so very much! Love -student
 
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NotHere

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I really hope you guys do not take my saying all this as an attack at what you believe. I really want to know what that feels like to be so sure in your faith, to be so sure that He does in fact care. I'm sure you are right, I've just never actually felt it myself yet. I am definitely my own worst critic. I do feel like I am doing a terrible job with my girls, as a wife and a person in general.

Growing up, I had a lot of issues with my parents. My parents really messed me up. We lived with my great grandma and she would take us to church. Around the age of 6, my dad started touching my older sister and I inappropriately. My sister was 9 at the time. About 2 years later, he started taking pictures of her and posting them online. This went on for a couple more years. My mom knowingly let all this happen. They went to jail when I was 10. I guess I've just never felt that kind of love from a parent before that everyone says God's love is like. We went to live with my grandma at that time. I still talk to my mom, she's changed and apologized but I just have a hard time forgiving her. I do not have a relationship with my dad.

In high school, I went to a church that the youth leaders split from the church. They started taking in kids with terrible home lives. They were nice people but they looked at themselves and others as they were better than others. It is very hard to explain. I left that group very broken. I lost a lot of friends when I started hanging out with them because they considered themselves very "radical." I quit spending so much time with them at about 17.

At 17, I started at another church and fell into the same issues only these youth leaders where my cousins and began getting to know the other youth group leaders previously mentioned. So began the issue all over again. They too split from the church they were associated with. I quite going to church after this. I still read the bible, which is why I said I know what it says. I just have never actually felt that love and caring myself before though I want to.

I met my husband at 17 through a mutual friend (he's 4 years older than me). He believes in God, that he does care about each and every person and creature. He is an amazing husband and father. He's just not home much since he works about 70 hours a week. I started working a few hours a week at a grocery store, just so I can get out and be away from the kids. I'm an introvert. If I don't do this I'm just going to sit at home and not have human interaction except with my kids and husband. I've done that for the past 5 years now.

I don't have anyone other than my husband that I can talk to and feel like I can be myself around...growing up I was told who I am isn't good enough. I think I have had my depression for a long time. I just didn't realize it until after my third kid when my doctor diagnosed me with ppd and ppa. I've always been able to detach myself from any and all situations. Like it's not happening to me. It's happening to someone else and I am just on the outside watching...which might be why I have a hard time believing in all this.
 
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Ariel82

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Welcome to CC. Hope you make friends here
 

Isny

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Welcome. You will find many caring friends here at Christian chat. There is so much to learn from others.
 
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NotHere

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Thank you guys. I'm really hoping to find people to talk to and learn from.
 

blue_ladybug

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Please read my depression testimony. Go to the Blog tab in my profile. :)
 
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Outcast4TheMessiah

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I can tell you that God shaped you in your mother's womb; you were not randomly placed here. He put you in this earth for a purpose and a good reason. He loves you so much that His own Son was worth it to save your soul and to make you his daughter. He knows every hair on your head, He knows the deepest parts of your soul and your heart. He knows your pain, He knows the bad choices your parents made and those who were in your life. And even at rock bottom, He's waiting to pick you up, love you, heal you and make you the woman He has planned you to be. All you need to do is give Him your heart, TRUST Him (Which can be hard, but from personal experience, I can say He's never late and ALL things... (even through the hell itself) He can work for your good.) It's not about religion (That's man made), it's knowing The One who made you, made all things and sustains all things. God does love you and if you seek Him with all your heart and desire Him wholeheartedly, He WILL COME and Be with you! Just be open and honest with Him. Cry to Him, just be you...with none of the masks, none of the words that would disguise how you really feel. He will answer you. :)

God bless you...



I really hope you guys do not take my saying all this as an attack at what you believe. I really want to know what that feels like to be so sure in your faith, to be so sure that He does in fact care. I'm sure you are right, I've just never actually felt it myself yet. I am definitely my own worst critic. I do feel like I am doing a terrible job with my girls, as a wife and a person in general.

Growing up, I had a lot of issues with my parents. My parents really messed me up. We lived with my great grandma and she would take us to church. Around the age of 6, my dad started touching my older sister and I inappropriately. My sister was 9 at the time. About 2 years later, he started taking pictures of her and posting them online. This went on for a couple more years. My mom knowingly let all this happen. They went to jail when I was 10. I guess I've just never felt that kind of love from a parent before that everyone says God's love is like. We went to live with my grandma at that time. I still talk to my mom, she's changed and apologized but I just have a hard time forgiving her. I do not have a relationship with my dad.

In high school, I went to a church that the youth leaders split from the church. They started taking in kids with terrible home lives. They were nice people but they looked at themselves and others as they were better than others. It is very hard to explain. I left that group very broken. I lost a lot of friends when I started hanging out with them because they considered themselves very "radical." I quit spending so much time with them at about 17.

At 17, I started at another church and fell into the same issues only these youth leaders where my cousins and began getting to know the other youth group leaders previously mentioned. So began the issue all over again. They too split from the church they were associated with. I quite going to church after this. I still read the bible, which is why I said I know what it says. I just have never actually felt that love and caring myself before though I want to.

I met my husband at 17 through a mutual friend (he's 4 years older than me). He believes in God, that he does care about each and every person and creature. He is an amazing husband and father. He's just not home much since he works about 70 hours a week. I started working a few hours a week at a grocery store, just so I can get out and be away from the kids. I'm an introvert. If I don't do this I'm just going to sit at home and not have human interaction except with my kids and husband. I've done that for the past 5 years now.

I don't have anyone other than my husband that I can talk to and feel like I can be myself around...growing up I was told who I am isn't good enough. I think I have had my depression for a long time. I just didn't realize it until after my third kid when my doctor diagnosed me with ppd and ppa. I've always been able to detach myself from any and all situations. Like it's not happening to me. It's happening to someone else and I am just on the outside watching...which might be why I have a hard time believing in all this.
 

student

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I really hope you guys do not take my saying all this as an attack at what you believe. I really want to know what that feels like to be so sure in your faith, to be so sure that He does in fact care. I'm sure you are right, I've just never actually felt it myself yet. I am definitely my own worst critic. I do feel like I am doing a terrible job with my girls, as a wife and a person in general.

Growing up, I had a lot of issues with my parents. My parents really messed me up. We lived with my great grandma and she would take us to church. Around the age of 6, my dad started touching my older sister and I inappropriately. My sister was 9 at the time. About 2 years later, he started taking pictures of her and posting them online. This went on for a couple more years. My mom knowingly let all this happen. They went to jail when I was 10. I guess I've just never felt that kind of love from a parent before that everyone says God's love is like. We went to live with my grandma at that time. I still talk to my mom, she's changed and apologized but I just have a hard time forgiving her. I do not have a relationship with my dad.

In high school, I went to a church that the youth leaders split from the church. They started taking in kids with terrible home lives. They were nice people but they looked at themselves and others as they were better than others. It is very hard to explain. I left that group very broken. I lost a lot of friends when I started hanging out with them because they considered themselves very "radical." I quit spending so much time with them at about 17.

At 17, I started at another church and fell into the same issues only these youth leaders where my cousins and began getting to know the other youth group leaders previously mentioned. So began the issue all over again. They too split from the church they were associated with. I quite going to church after this. I still read the bible, which is why I said I know what it says. I just have never actually felt that love and caring myself before though I want to.

I met my husband at 17 through a mutual friend (he's 4 years older than me). He believes in God, that he does care about each and every person and creature. He is an amazing husband and father. He's just not home much since he works about 70 hours a week. I started working a few hours a week at a grocery store, just so I can get out and be away from the kids. I'm an introvert. If I don't do this I'm just going to sit at home and not have human interaction except with my kids and husband. I've done that for the past 5 years now.

I don't have anyone other than my husband that I can talk to and feel like I can be myself around...growing up I was told who I am isn't good enough. I think I have had my depression for a long time. I just didn't realize it until after my third kid when my doctor diagnosed me with ppd and ppa. I've always been able to detach myself from any and all situations. Like it's not happening to me. It's happening to someone else and I am just on the outside watching...which might be why I have a hard time believing in all this.
God's got you. That's what matters. He's on the inside. PPD is familiar to me as well. I don't know what PPA is, I'm sorry. I've had anxiety if that's any indication. You can still detach from the outside...let God hold you on the inside. Play some Christian music and dance with Him. He's a good Father...brother and friend. I promise. He loves you. -student
 
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j-Rubix

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I will admit to you, it is very easy to feel insignificant in this world we live in. Also, in a world full of confusion from many areas, much of the same applies.

I would like to share a testimony with you. Two of them actually.

When I was about 14, I fell off of a two story balcony, and landed head first. It was probably about 15 feet. Many things had to happen just as they did for me to even survive form this. Now I don't remember the accident, or a few days beforehand. My father took the day off from work that day (he owned the business, so this happened maybe 3 times in 5 years, even if it was a "short day"), and he told my mom I must go to the hospital, as no one knew yet I had hit my head until later when a neighbor admitted to having seen it happen. After I got to the hospital, I had a seizure, related to the head trauma (haven't had one since, and I am sure I won't have any more of those). They took me by helicopter to one of the main hospitals in my metro area, and I was in a coma for 3 days or so, and I woke up 30 minutes before a major head surgery was to be done, to remove swelling. I woke up and I knew I would be fine, no matter what the doctors thought might still be wrong. So where is my testimony in this recovery? My mom, who does not have faith, asked her best friend, who is Christian, to put me on her prayer chain at her church. I had 900 christians praying for me, and I believe I survived and made a full recovery, because of those prayers. Last part of this testimony. Over the course of about 3 months or so after this, I probably told my story to at least a few hundred people. Each and every one of them, they all said exactly the same words, word for word. "Man, you must be here for a reason". Each and every person. Now, I did not grow up a christian, and I had no understanding of God whatsoever. This freaked me out greatly that everyone said exactly word for word the same thing.

Testimony two, this one is a bit shorter. I was 19. Another life or death situation, only it was someone else. I will not go into all of the specifics, but the person survived. What part of this is the testimony? Well, in this moment of emergency, Jesus came to me in a vision, as real as someone standing in front of me. He held out both of his hands, palms facing up, and asked me to "choose life or death". I said to Him, "I give you my life as savior". I never doubted Jesus as Lord ever again after that, and it changed my life.

Now me sharing these things might not directly address some of the things you are struggling with, but it is my hope that such a testimony would be a blessing to you.

God bless