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Hi, I'm new here! First time ever being on a chat... So Bare with me I'm a 26 year old lady, married just 6 months ago. I found out just a couple months ago that my husband has depression. It's effecting our marriage and it just breaks my heart. 6 months of marriage and we alrasdy are holding on by a thread. He isn't leading our family spiritual, financially or anything. We argue and I often feel like giving up and running away. I don't understand depression, I'm an upbeat positive person so when he gets down and moody, I don't know how to react. Anyways, I'm looking forward to getting to know you all and getting and being am encouragement

You two need counseling. Individually.
I have had depression for 25 years. It is not a matter of someone just 'thinking wrong'. Lifelong depression is a problem with wiring in the brain. So a belief that someone with depression can 'get over it' or just 'think positive' is like telling someone with cancer to just get over it, or think positive. It won't change anything because something out of their control is guiding them.

Some things can help people with depression, though the level of effectiveness may vary depending on the severity of the depression. Eating right, a consistent sleep pattern and exercise. It sounds like a cliche answer but it has been proven effective in many cases.

The difficulty in this is depression makes it very difficult to have motivation. Things that 'normal' people do reflgularly feel like a lot if effort for those with depression. It affects sleep (too much or not enough), eating habits, the way you view yourself, the people around you, the world around you.
Many times people with depression feel like a burden to those they love and this can be a reason for isolating themselves. Depressed people want to love and be loved, this is why they enter relationships and then shut down once it gets serious.

I don't know the level of depression your husband has, but I encourage you to stay with him. And rather than bailing on someone you 'love' because things have become difficult, help become part of the solution. I find often many 'happy minded' people are quite ignorant of depression and unwilling to even try to learn and be understanding. Hopefully you won't fall into that stereotype.
If you love your husband then don't be so willing to remain ignorant and ditch him so quickly. Act in love, not fear and disappointment. If you are so willing to give up on him so quickly then why did you marry him? I can't help but wonder what's going on inside you that you are so quick to leave without making any real effort to improve things.
Love is sacrifice. If you leave someone behind for not fitting into your expectations or viewpoint then did you really love them at all?

Go read the love chapter in I Corinthians and ask yourself if that is how you are treating your husband.

Did you not know his condition before you married him? It is somewhat shocking
to think he may have hidden it from you but not altogether surprising that anyone
would marry under false pretenses and then hope to make you stay through guilt.

Welcome to CC I hope you are able to find some encouragement here...

****a doctor may recommend medication for depression for your husband---if your husband is not leading---help him out and make wise choices till he gets back on his feet---the trial your going through will probably mean a great deal to others going through similar trial down the road...Grace and Peace...

Welcome to CC.

Welcome to Christian Chat, Ttgirl90. Sometimes when people have marital problems, it seems to me that separation might be helpful, at least temporarily. I’m not talking about divorce – that is not allowed unless one of the two is involved in unchaste behavior.