Rewarded how? I know of no great reward promised for our daily obedience to God. Perhaps that was the problem for you. Your goal was reward and not a genuine heart seeking to do what's right for God. You can't have selfish intentions behind good actions and expect that to matter to God.
Also have you considered that the people that taught this were wrong? That the blame is focused in the wrong direction?
Honestly you sound as if your intentions are all selfish. You obey hoping for reward. And when you don't get a reward you throw a childish tantrum.
I was 13 when i lost my virginity. One of the biggest mistakes of my life that, even at 41, i still regret to this day. So don't give me this whole 'you don't know how it feels'. I KNOW regret pal. I know it WELL. I have a long list of regrets because i made stupid, selfish choices. And Because of that choice at 13 i have battled ever since with sexual desire. Because i DO know what i'm missing. It's YOU that are the clueless one. And i have known many who were virgins and struggled as well. So i'm aware of both sides of the coin, so don't presume you know anything about Anyone on this site and that they don't understand. You're the one throwing a childish tantrum. So it's time to grow up, realize you aren't the only one struggling and decide what you really believe. Because if all you care about is what you can get from God then you have Never known Him to begin with. Following God isn't about reward, it's about a heart that desires to do right, whether you get a reward or you nothing or you get persecuted
There are people in this world being tortured and murdered because of their faith and you have the gall to throw a fit because God didn't buy you a puppy for not having sex. Grow up.