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Oh Princess of my King! I know that your pain in your heart. It hurts soon much . I can't give words that would ease this sadness only from what I've been through . And this is what kept me grounded He is able more then able to do much more then i can dream He is able to make me what He wants me to be ! If this is without your husband then He is more then able trust in Him he will give you all you need and more far beyond what you can imagine or think. Your tears are counted and never fall in vain when you belong to Jesus.
I know sweet sister. You are not alone precious child of my Lord.
I know sweet sister. You are not alone precious child of my Lord.
No matter what happens, because you have children with this man, your lives will be tied together. You have not said how old they are, but even if they are teens, you are still both parents of those kids, and they still need guidance and direction through life, and will always look to their parents as some kind of role model.
I have been through breakups that felt like the world was going to end, where was in so much emotional pain I wanted my life to end, and I was young enough at the time and stupid enough at the time that it almost did end on numerous occasions, though never intentionally. What happened instead was I learned coping skills, not right away, because I can be a slow learner sometimes. So I do know some of the pain you are experiencing, for it goes to the depth of who we are and shakes us at the core of our being, but God goes even deeper.
It may be one of the reasons we are told to renew our minds constantly in His Word, because we are prone to forgetfulness and losing our way. You have the advantage of age and life experience already, though it may also be helpful for you to seek extra outside help in the way of a grief support group or something similar. You may also benefit from a twelve step group. I have attended twelve step meetings for almost thirty years, and I cannot tell you how much they have helped me in so many ways, even to the point of seeking truth and finding God. Listening to others who are going through the same things you are can be invaluable, as well as having people to talk to outside your normal contacts. I find listening to people really helps me feel connected to God, too
Have you ever read Kahlil Gibran? I read his book called The Prophet when I was sixteen, and was incredibly moved by it. Here is what he had to say on Joy and Sorrow:
Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.
And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises
was oftentimes filled with your tears.
And how else can it be?
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being,
the more joy you can contain.
Is not the cup that holds your wine
the very cup that was burned in the potter's oven?
And is not the lute that soothes your spirit,
the very wood that was hollowed with knives?
When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find
it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see
that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.
Some of you say, "Joy is greater than sorrow,"
and others say, "Nay, sorrow is the greater."
But I say unto you, they are inseparable.
Together they come, and when one sits, alone with you at your
board, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed.
Verily you are suspended like scales between your sorrow and your joy.
I have been through breakups that felt like the world was going to end, where was in so much emotional pain I wanted my life to end, and I was young enough at the time and stupid enough at the time that it almost did end on numerous occasions, though never intentionally. What happened instead was I learned coping skills, not right away, because I can be a slow learner sometimes. So I do know some of the pain you are experiencing, for it goes to the depth of who we are and shakes us at the core of our being, but God goes even deeper.
It may be one of the reasons we are told to renew our minds constantly in His Word, because we are prone to forgetfulness and losing our way. You have the advantage of age and life experience already, though it may also be helpful for you to seek extra outside help in the way of a grief support group or something similar. You may also benefit from a twelve step group. I have attended twelve step meetings for almost thirty years, and I cannot tell you how much they have helped me in so many ways, even to the point of seeking truth and finding God. Listening to others who are going through the same things you are can be invaluable, as well as having people to talk to outside your normal contacts. I find listening to people really helps me feel connected to God, too
Have you ever read Kahlil Gibran? I read his book called The Prophet when I was sixteen, and was incredibly moved by it. Here is what he had to say on Joy and Sorrow:
Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.
And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises
was oftentimes filled with your tears.
And how else can it be?
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being,
the more joy you can contain.
Is not the cup that holds your wine
the very cup that was burned in the potter's oven?
And is not the lute that soothes your spirit,
the very wood that was hollowed with knives?
When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find
it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see
that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.
Some of you say, "Joy is greater than sorrow,"
and others say, "Nay, sorrow is the greater."
But I say unto you, they are inseparable.
Together they come, and when one sits, alone with you at your
board, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed.
Verily you are suspended like scales between your sorrow and your joy.
The Lord will be her faithful bridegroom (Jer 31:3, Re 19:11).Her husband is in big trouble, however (Ro 14:12). When he faces a holy God without his אִשָּׁה [ʾishshah'] (fire of life) [Mal 2:5, 16, Heb 10:31, 12:29, 13:4, 1Pe 3:7], he is left with only a consumning fire.
Good luck with that.
She will be rewarded for her faithfulness (Ru 1:14–18, 1 Pe 1:16, 1 Jn3:14, Re 20:6). The Lord remains in her covenant (Rom. 7:2, 3, Mt 19:11).
In this culture—not a bad idea (Jer 16:2).
Yes. Stay off social media (not here—your brethern in the Lord love you [1 Jn 3:14]). Guard your heart (Pr 4:23).
See:
Divorce & Re
marriage:A Position Paper by John Piper
Recommend book:
The Divorce Myth by J. Carl Laney
Good luck with that.
She will be rewarded for her faithfulness (Ru 1:14–18, 1 Pe 1:16, 1 Jn3:14, Re 20:6). The Lord remains in her covenant (Rom. 7:2, 3, Mt 19:11).
In this culture—not a bad idea (Jer 16:2).
Yes. Stay off social media (not here—your brethern in the Lord love you [1 Jn 3:14]). Guard your heart (Pr 4:23).
See:
Divorce & Re
Recommend book:
The Divorce Myth by J. Carl Laney
Praying for you. All of God's promises are for you (Eph. 3:1–6). Don't let the enemy tell you differently.
Maybe listen to the Psalms through the night?
Maybe listen to the Psalms through the night?
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Good morning, brokenmomof2, I was thinking of you this morning, and said a prayer for you when I got out of bed and onto my knees. I hope you feel better equipped to face the challenges of the day. It is going to take some time. My closest sister was in a similar situation after twenty years of marriage and four children: her husband decided he had never loved her and left. She endured a prolonged and fairly nasty divorce because he did not want to pay support even though he was incredibly well off. That was a few years ago now and she is coping and managing so much better, even after having gone through cancer and two major surgeries. Sin drives all the drama, pain, and suffering in this world. I hope your suffering lessens greatly, and that you are able to find moments of peace and joy. Peace especially. It is precious. Here is my favorite piece by Kahlil Gibran. I hope you don't mind my sharing it with you
Kahlil Gibran on Love
When love beckons to you, follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep.
And when his wings enfold you yield to him,
Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you.
And when he speaks to you believe in him,
Though his voice may shatter your dreams
as the north wind lays waste the garden.
For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you.
Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.
Even as he ascends to your height and caresses
your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun,
So shall he descend to your roots and
shake them in their clinging to the earth.
Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself.
He threshes you to make you naked.
He sifts you to free you from your husks.
He grinds you to whiteness.
He kneads you until you are pliant;
And then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you
may become sacred bread for God's sacred feast.
All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets
of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life's heart.
But if in your fear you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure,
Then it is better for you that you cover your
nakedness and pass out of love's threshing-floor,
Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not
all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.
Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.
Love possesses not nor would it be possessed;
For love is sufficient unto love.
When you love you should not say, "God is in my heart,"
but rather, "I am in the heart of God."
And think not you can direct the course of love,
for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.
But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
To wake at dawn with a winged heart and
give thanks for another day of loving;
To rest at the noon hour and meditate love's ecstasy;
To return home at eventide with gratitude;
And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in
your heart and a song of praise upon your lips.
Kahlil Gibran on Love
When love beckons to you, follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep.
And when his wings enfold you yield to him,
Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you.
And when he speaks to you believe in him,
Though his voice may shatter your dreams
as the north wind lays waste the garden.
For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you.
Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.
Even as he ascends to your height and caresses
your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun,
So shall he descend to your roots and
shake them in their clinging to the earth.
Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself.
He threshes you to make you naked.
He sifts you to free you from your husks.
He grinds you to whiteness.
He kneads you until you are pliant;
And then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you
may become sacred bread for God's sacred feast.
All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets
of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life's heart.
But if in your fear you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure,
Then it is better for you that you cover your
nakedness and pass out of love's threshing-floor,
Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not
all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.
Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.
Love possesses not nor would it be possessed;
For love is sufficient unto love.
When you love you should not say, "God is in my heart,"
but rather, "I am in the heart of God."
And think not you can direct the course of love,
for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.
But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
To wake at dawn with a winged heart and
give thanks for another day of loving;
To rest at the noon hour and meditate love's ecstasy;
To return home at eventide with gratitude;
And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in
your heart and a song of praise upon your lips.
[Husband leaves his post] They may still look to him for support and guidance. He is still their father no matter what
See:
Judge Rightly Is Not Some Guy's Name by Bob Enyart
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