New member and husband left us

Hi I'm a new member and looking for support. My husband of 20 years had an affair and has PTSD and has now left me and my two girls. We are devastated. He claims to be a Christian but says he is unhappy and God does not want him to be that way so he must leave. I'm so heartbroken over all of it. We are currently trying to move back near my family so we can have some sort of support. The girls and I hate the area we are moving to but need that support. This whole thing is very hard on all of us. We are all getting depressed. Please send prayers and happiness our way!!

Welcome, sorry to hear about your marriage problems. I pray for you and your daughters may the Lord comfort you during this time. Your husband however needs to repent. For him to use God as an excuse to leave he will be judged. I understand this is a tough time for your family, please hold on to no bitterness towards your husband and forgive his wrongdoing. Continue to lean on the Lord and he will strengthen you. God bless

Thank you, I am becoming bitter but I'm trying not to. I've taken him back several times and he keeps leaving us. It's heartbreaking and I'm done being hurt.

Not sure what to say.
It is a nice day outside so relax.... Give the situation to Jesus. Let Jesus carry the burden. He is well able!

Welcome here you can discuss with bible smart people and possibly make new friends, hope you like it here!

Hi, I went through a very similar situation about five years ago. My wife left me and our daughter. She also had ptsd. She was miserable and making our lives miserable. She decided to leave us. I thought I should give her every chance to stay. So i asked her not to leave but she did anyway. I didn't believe in divorce but it was her decision. I'm going to pray for you and your children. God will take care of you.

The worse thing that a husband can do is cheat on his wife. A husband that loves his wife doesn't even think about cheating let alone actually do it. The trust he betrayed can never be restored. Under no circumstance should you take him back. If you do you're setting yourself up for even further devastation. You really need to consult with a divorce lawyer to ensure you get the support you're entitled too, including the children. I don't blame you being depressed. I have prayed for God to give you clarity of thought on how to proceed along with the means to do it. There are others on this site in the same situation so please know that you're not alone. Glad to have you join us. Welcome to CC.

You are correct, there most certainly is not.

Thank you everyone, I sincerely appreciate the prayers and advice.

That seems to be exactly what I'm going through. How are you doing now? And your daughter?

We are ok but when you are with someone that long it takes awhile to heal. I was also married for 20 years. It hurts me to hear about the depression. I'm sure part of it is moving to the new area. I'm hoping and praying that God will be with you during this process of transition.

Thank you, yes it will take a while to heal.

You and your family will be in my prayers. I am also going to be praying for your hubby, sounds like he needs it.
This may be of little if any comfort, yet we must keep in mind that we are to pray for them that use us. As well as our enemies. Forgiveness is the key to freeing ones self, of discouragement, and bitterness.

***(praying)...

If your husband has had an affair, then the marriage is broken. Don't listen to me or any teacher on this, read what Jesus says about adultery and marriage.

Make your future decisions based on his teachings rather than man's.

Hello Sd1071, welcome to CC! I hope you enjoy your time with us

I am so sorry to hear of the troubles you are experiencing
I hope you are able to find the comfort and support you need...

Welcome here.
Im so sorry to hear of your heartbreak.
Reaching out at this time is so hard but theres alot of love here for you and your family.im not on regularly but will commit to pray for you all.Theres a great christian site that I found helpful in my season of pain.they send emails daily which helped keep me going and let me know I was not alone.also tips and prayers.'rejoice ministries'.
I hope there is comfort here for you.
God Bless you and your family sister.
He promises to catch every tear, you are precious to the Lord.

Thank you! What is the site that sends emails every day?

The site is rejoice ministries .they are a site for christian spouses whose partner has left the marriage for various reasons.there are prayers which are based on Gods promises that you can pray also if you sign up they will send you an email a day for a whole year to encourage you and give you practical advice.They also have resources and you can ask for prayer too.they are creating an app too for people to connect with others.if you are based in US they also have groups in every state for you to join with other people who are hurting.I hope that there is comfort, direction and support for you there.the site was set up by a woman whose Husbsnd left her for another woman and he eventually came home.will also help you understand things from your husbands perspective which is important if you are seeking or even considering reconciliation.
God Bless you and your family.