Hi there,


I'm a 26 year old single mom of two daughters and we reside in Texas. I found Christian Chat about two weeks ago and have been to the chat rooms a few times so decided to sign up. I love the Christian based forum and the fact that I can chat with like-minded adults who are on the same spiritual journal that I am on. I have always been in a Christian-based home. Although I've had my struggles over the years, I can finally say that I am learning, living and receiving many blessing in my life by leaning more on Him. I am still a newbie but I hope that this site provides me with the connections I long for to remain strong in the faith..


Over the years I have dealt with some anger issues. My dad died at the age of 14 and since then anger has been my close friend. However, with prayer I have come along way..but am not quiet there yet. Although I have had great friendships over the years, I notice that I have a pattern of alienating people and staying to myself. As I continue to grow spiritually daily, I still feel at times that that side of me, still wants to push forward. I am a fun, lovable, person and do have people in my life that love to be in my company. But, there are those times..where I feel that close buddy Anger wants to come out. How can I deal with this?? I pray daily, stay in the word and am getting more and more involved in my Church. This has been a long struggle for me..any advice on how to finally Let Go??..

Hi, I love your post since i can relate to this thing called 'anger'. Still learning at my age to 'let go' and honestly, I have accepted the fact that it is OK!! to be angry, when it wells up. It's important tho' what you do with that anger and how you channel it. What I do is I dwell on the present and the blessings in my life that I can enjoy now, rather than dwell on the past things that 'could've or should've' been. Don't be afraid to make friends. Don't let a past hurt direct what could be a good thing in the future. Remember that God uses his 'tools' (people) to bring good things into our lives so that we learn and grow. We cannot avoid loss or trials in life, but we can allow people to be there for us when we need support. I am much like you in the sense that I push people away, because I have had far too much loss in my life. God allows these things to happen, but what you do with your life "today" and how you live it, is most important to God.

Blessings to you, sis.

Welcome to cc & bless your heart! I too have struggled & continue to struggle 20 years later with anger. I've definitely come a long way but am not where I need to be in that regard. Some things I do is chart my anger (mine is around my cycle.) I red flag the calendar so I am aware that i am a crazy person & to beware so it doesnt sneak up & bite those around me in the face. Its important to to humble yourself with those you love after you hurt them. its easy to do a mindful justification of your own reaction but that reacting is in and of itself of the flesh. Apology is necessary when you hurt and removing yourself is necessary to avoid the hurt when you can not control yourself. Of course I hurt with words but that is so not cool & many a time i've asked myself "where exactly is that beautiful christian lady I desire to be" where was she in that???? Like i said, we gotta work on it & the first step is acknowledgement & i suspect that in your case, its kinda like a self defense thing... if you hurt someone & they go away then you never have to worry about them hurting you... would that be a correct suspicion? That you are protecting yourself in this way? Well just so you know you are not alone in this and I look forward to fellowship on here. Joyce meier says I'm not where i need to be but i'm not where I used to be. I think this can be said of every Christian! Bless your heart & those who love it.

Welcome to CC, Blendedlove.