Help is very much needed

Hi guys, i really need some words of help.
I am 24 years old, i have fallen so badly.
I haven't gone to church in months, i have been sexually active with my other half, i feel lonely everyday, i have no friends to call on and i just feel like im doing everything wrong.
I know im not doing enough to change things but i feel like i dont know how to change things and become better.
I've going to church since I was 14 but its only the past few months that I've actually deciding to open my heart to jesus and boy am i struggling.
I honestly just don't know what to do. Or where to start.
Words of help would be some much appreciated as i am sooo lost.

Thank you so much

Hello hay24hay, you can start by discontinuing any sexual relations with your partner until you are married. Sex outside of marriage is considered a sin, God will forgive you if you ask for forgiveness. If there aren't any churches in your area i could refer you to online preachers i currently watch. You can try to read the bible and become familiar with Gods word.

Hello! Welcome to CC

The Christian life begins and ends with Who you are following, not what you are doing. Set your sights on Jesus, and He will show you what you need to change. You don't have to be "good enough"; God lived that life for you! But if we love Jesus Christ, you should be growing closer to Him. Find a church, pray (a LOT), read the Word, find an older Christian to mentor you and recommend theological books. God bless you!

Like PrynceNY has stated, discontinue having sex with your partner for starters. Feeling the way that you do there is no way being in a sexual relationship outside of marriage is doing you any good. If it's a bible believing church that preaches about salvation I would continue to attend and supplement this with prayer, bible study and reflection. This is where I would start at this crossroad you are in on your spiritual walk. By giving your heart to Jesus I take that to mean that you have repented of your sins and invited Jesus to live in your heart. Pray for the Holy Spirit to guide you on the path you must take to become a humble servant of the Lord. Glad to have you join us. Welcome to CC.

first of all I am glad you are deciding to walk with God again amen for that. Secondly it sounds like you have a lot going on. I suggest the first thing you do is ask yourself why you do some of the things you do and answer your self honestly. I think you said you do not have many friends etc... and that is okay. MAybe your looking for friends in the wrong places and they would not be good friends anyways.. Also I agree you need to stop being sexually active with this person maybe even end the relationship. If you do not even know yourself right now you can be in a relationship in a fair way. I say that because if you decide to walk with Christ forever and this man your with is unGodly or something like that then he is the wrong person for you anyways.. Also you should respect yourself enough to wait and find the guy who will be there for you and support your relationship with God. I think the best thing for you is to sit alone and reflect on what is going on in your life right now and ask these questions.. Are you happy with the way things are? Is there more you can get out of life right now? Is there something else you could be doing to better your self esteem and your own self right now? Also what can i be doing right now to better prepare myself for the future I want.
I suggest a lot of soul searching and praying along with reading the bible the King James Bible online allows you to looke up verses by topic like depression etc.... I suggest reading that bible online search topics about things you have questions about... I pray you keep strong and keep following God and find the answers you seek. God bless

It doesn't make sense that you are in Love and lonely at the same time. "Sin Shall not have dominion over you for you are not under the law but under grace. A sexual relationship is marriage. This is why we are told not to have sex with prostitutes. As we would be joining members of the body of Christ with false God's: liars.
I hope she acknowledges Jesus as well as you and that you can face this together with Him.
"All manner of sin shall be forgiven to man, but rejecting the Holy Ghost shall not be forgiven to man." He teaches to Love and forgive one another. "For if you forgive not neither will your Father in heaven forgive you."
There Is hope, I've done worse, way worse. I's not how bad you are or how good you are: Will you come to Him? for help.

I may as well go on to say that if you become good there may be less hope for you?

Only God is Good and we need to come to know Him, "Those who are well don't need a Physician but those who are sick."

Welcome here you can discuss with bible smart people and possibly make new friends,hope you like it here!

I want to thank all of you for your replys, my eyes have been opened more this afternoon and you have given me a lot to think about and question in myself

One thing you should surely do, is STOP HAVING KIDS WITH HIM. It's not fair to bring innocent kids into this mess... You can't help him unless he WANTS to be helped. By staying, you're allowing him to make a fool out of you time and again....

blue did you mis this thread up with the other one? this girl said nothing about having kids in this post..

Great advice from Tourist and others.

Sounds like you're being convicted of your sin, which is actually a good thing- a sign that The Spirit if God is living in you! Just like all of us, you need to rely on God's strength to help you change. His strength is made perfect in your weakness (2 Cor 12:8-10)!

Like most everyone else, I would encourage you to get involved in your/ another church. You might even meet new friends you didn't have before.

I struggled with some sins the first few months I came to Jesus too, so you're not alone in that. At the same time it's critical when we become aware of them, we turn from them and run to Jesus.

Hope you enjoy your time here on CC. Here, we are all just sinners saved by grace.

Hay, for some reason had the impression you were a man, sorry miss-understanding. Now understand how you can be in love and lonely at the same time. A woman gives sex to get love, a man gives friendship to get sex, that is, if you can excuse the crude language, he did not give friendship and your lonely, that changes everything. A woman should wait until friendship is established, to get married, not to get hurt. A man may not know the difference until afterwards;being drawn sexually overlooks everything: first love being in the wrong place. I will not advise you, Your in a good place with God as you seek Him first the rest will follow. You have power over this man and can do with him as you see fit as you wait on the Lord, your the one who has His authority to decide if he is pleased to stay in the relationship. "If the unbelieving departs the believer is not under bondage in such circumstances."