tom, waiting to get married, and so lonely

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tom39

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I don't even know if this is something I should really be spending my time on, but I have to talk to someone, and if the internet is the only thing that will be there when I need it, I have to try.

So, I currently live about 1,000 miles from my fiancé. It didn't start that way, we both had to move for different reasons. (we weren't engaged when we moved though) I moved to Atlanta to go back to college and she moved to Kansas because her family did. I flew out and proposed in July, and we were going to get married in December when the semester ends. Because of financial reasons, we have decided to postpone it until April next year. (spring break)

I have always been a loner and never had trouble living by myself. But in the three years I have known her, I have changed. Now I can't stand being in a room alone. Because she is in a different time zone, and has no real personal space, our schedules are very different and we can't talk as much as we used to. So, I am looking at the reality of spending 231 days almost completely alone, and I can't stand it.
 
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FITSEA

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Remember Jesus said. "I will never be alone.", this means you too my friend, God is invisible. Don't worry it does not add a single day to your life. Keep going. Don't give up. Love never fails. Love Fitsea. I hope this helps. Ps Stand your ground when the day of evil comes.
Who ever stands there ground till the end will be saved.
 
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tom39

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Thanks, that helps, fitsea
 
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Zi

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Find something to occupy you.. get your mind off of it... good convo with some of the good men here.. gettn advice from the married ones..

Also welcome to cc!!
tom39 said:
I don't even know if this is something I should really be spending my time on, but I have to talk to someone, and if the internet is the only thing that will be there when I need it, I have to try.

So, I currently live about 1,000 miles from my fiancé. It didn't start that way, we both had to move for different reasons. (we weren't engaged when we moved though) I moved to Atlanta to go back to college and she moved to Kansas because her family did. I flew out and proposed in July, and we were going to get married in December when the semester ends. Because of financial reasons, we have decided to postpone it until April next year. (spring break)

I have always been a loner and never had trouble living by myself. But in the three years I have known her, I have changed. Now I can't stand being in a room alone. Because she is in a different time zone, and has no real personal space, our schedules are very different and we can't talk as much as we used to. So, I am looking at the reality of spending 231 days almost completely alone, and I can't stand it.
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Praying for you. As the Lord and with Him. You are never alone. Bear in mind. Just let you follow your heart as the Lord leads you there. God bless!
 
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tom39 said:
I don't even know if this is something I should really be spending my time on, but I have to talk to someone, and if the internet is the only thing that will be there when I need it, I have to try.

So, I currently live about 1,000 miles from my fiancé. It didn't start that way, we both had to move for different reasons. (we weren't engaged when we moved though) I moved to Atlanta to go back to college and she moved to Kansas because her family did. I flew out and proposed in July, and we were going to get married in December when the semester ends. Because of financial reasons, we have decided to postpone it until April next year. (spring break)

I have always been a loner and never had trouble living by myself. But in the three years I have known her, I have changed. Now I can't stand being in a room alone. Because she is in a different time zone, and has no real personal space, our schedules are very different and we can't talk as much as we used to. So, I am looking at the reality of spending 231 days almost completely alone, and I can't stand it.
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Skype or Facetime on a cell phone or laptop isn't an option?

That's mainly how I communicated with my gf for the many months before she moved 1800 miles to be in the same apartment building I live in. Now she's a floor above me.
 
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joefizz

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Welcome here you can discuss with bible smart people and possibly make new friends,hope you like it here!
 
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Hello Tom, it is nice to meet you! Its interesting how you went from loner to a person who appreciates her all the more, and wants social interactions all the more. Thats how God works thru crisis' doesn't He?! Does the phrase, "Absence makes the heart grow stronger," ring more true to you now experientially? Has your relationship grown apart? Or has it actually grown more determined and absolute, growing more established in the love you have for her and her you? If so, Scripture tells us to find joy in our circumstances so as to grow from them in Character as God is in control of all things and is an investor in your person; not a thief of character in a person, as is the other Spirit's character to do to you.

But realize as you go thru this process that a crisis does not make Character, only God does, as we obey Him; a crisis only reveals Character....we all say, "If I had been in your place, I should have done so and so." You have no means of knowing what you would of done; the nature of a crisis is that it takes you unaware, it happens suddenly, and I sense thru your words the impact of that suddenness and conflict therein to this situation. The line you take now will reveal your character.....the crisis is always the judgement. So be encouraged to live out in faith thru righteousness your trust in Him. And indeed also in your faithfulness to her.

God is altering you even now....give into that which He has in store for you to gain in character. He has brought you to this venture, see that you take it. We are tempted to act like pagans in a crisis; be that one out the crowd who is willing to bank his faith in the Character of God. He never promised a lack of conflicts, but He did promise that He will never forsake you, nor leave you even forever.

But one thing we as a group can do is pray for you. And I will do just that.May God move you thru this as you gain in knowing Him more and in your own character being developed all the more forged in Him. May God be praised in all that happens here in this situation because He wills it and because you and we have been faithful to Him as well. May God richly Bless you both thru all of this. (Dan).
 
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mar09

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Welcome, and come again, tom!
 
blue_ladybug

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Welcome to CC. You may want to post this in the Family forum. New members forum is specifically for introducing yourself..
 
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