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Welcome to CC The pain you're going through now is from your girlfriend leaving, correct? Unfortunately there's no easy fix there, you just have to go through it. It's brutal (I went through a similar experience 4 years ago and couldn't see how the pain didn't kill me.) While this sounds cliché and it's incredibly hard to imagine, it will get better but it takes time. I was not walking with God and didn't lean on Him when I was going through it. I wish I had a better answer for you but it's something you just have to get through. Keep seeking God. I can't stress that enough.
You said you're having a hard time hearing God. I find when I can't hear Him usually one of two things is happening - either I didn't do the last thing He told me to or I'm not being still (something I struggle with!!) I'm guessing your mind is racing, replaying everything to figure out why she left. The reality of that is you may never know for sure. In reality, it doesn't matter why she did, it really won't change anything for you. Your challenge now is to move forward and for me, that was really overwhelming because just getting through each day was all I could do. But I did get through each and I did move forward. There's hope, I promise.
When you pray, tell God what your struggle is and ask Him for scripture. Countless times I've done this and He'd led me to scripture that was, of course, exactly what I needed.
Do you use the YouVersion Bible app? It has thousands of awesome Bible studies and I find those so helpful as well.
Pain go now in Jesus name. All emotional and physical pain go now in Jesus name. Be healed and whole, physically and emotionally in Jesus name.
I'm praying for you.
You said you're having a hard time hearing God. I find when I can't hear Him usually one of two things is happening - either I didn't do the last thing He told me to or I'm not being still (something I struggle with!!) I'm guessing your mind is racing, replaying everything to figure out why she left. The reality of that is you may never know for sure. In reality, it doesn't matter why she did, it really won't change anything for you. Your challenge now is to move forward and for me, that was really overwhelming because just getting through each day was all I could do. But I did get through each and I did move forward. There's hope, I promise.
When you pray, tell God what your struggle is and ask Him for scripture. Countless times I've done this and He'd led me to scripture that was, of course, exactly what I needed.
Do you use the YouVersion Bible app? It has thousands of awesome Bible studies and I find those so helpful as well.
Pain go now in Jesus name. All emotional and physical pain go now in Jesus name. Be healed and whole, physically and emotionally in Jesus name.
I'm praying for you.
Hello DeQuon, my name is Dan. It is nice to meet you! I sense you are a person who has been going thru something in life but someone who has yet to come to the end of their ropes; their wits end, as it were. Is that accurate? The Hope Jesus has left us is the hope in Him alone, and not in getting thru the wringers of life viz., His blessings.
On the one hand it is God who gives life, and is life, and who grows us up along the way. But God also commissions His Children to follow Him in discipling others. To let God in, in other words, personally first via righteousness, and then to let God use us to invest in peoples lives as God goes before us opening the doors thru discussions and discoveries experientially as we walk with people where the rubber meets the road.
This is and always will be, God first, working in both lives, but it is God who has ordained us as spiritual humans to invest in lives eternally via God's will - This is the Church, but it is more as well; It is a personal choice and commitment to follow Christ and parent those who are babies in Christ, having His saints lift Him up, while He draws all men to Himself.
The cool thing about discipling others is that both parties grow up in Christ and benefit from each other, even though they may be at different maturity levels, because God is leading it all relationally; from where both parties where once found dead in their transgressions and sins.
But today, out of our desire to win converts we often try to make Jesus more convenient. That’s what our culture is all about. So watering down the Gospel to reflect the culture can be an easy trap to fall into. We often make following Jesus comfortable and easy, reducing the expectations: You don’t have to do anything different. Just believe.
Dying to the right to ourselves, and carrying our cross has been reduced from a radical relationship of self-sacrificing love and humility to cheap advertisements with bracelets, jewelry and bumper stickers. We turned following Jesus into little more than eternal “fire” insurance. In so doing we made Him something He is not: safe.
“When Christ calls a man, he bids him come and die." "Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it." (Matthew 10:39). Life is not about God adding to your life, what can you add to death? it is about understanding that your life is no more! And the New Life God offers you is in Jesus Christ alone. This is where the Life is! There is where the real answers are to your plights in life as well.
When we sell people on a Jesus, who is easy to follow, can we really blame them for bailing out or drifting off when things don’t go smoothly?
It shouldn’t be surprising living in a consumer-based culture, that many times people bring the same attitudes into church: It’s my way, my preferences, my desires that are important. If I don’t get my way, I’ll take my business elsewhere.
In watering down the Gospel we have taken what is all about Jesus and made it all about us. Jesus is a part of our lives when He should be our life. He is life. Following Him requires all our life. The disciples ate, drank, sweat and slept ministry from when Jesus called them to the day they died. Jesus wasn’t a part of their lives. He was their life.
We all are guilty of putting things above Jesus. Whether it’s health, wealth, comfort, causes, dreams, hobbies or interests, we all come to Jesus with expectations of what He will do for us. We all have our passions and causes. But Jesus didn’t come to take sides. Jesus came to take over. It is when we have tried everything else and have failed, that many of us begin to pray in earnest. But God would have us pray about everything always in earnest first.
I would love to talk in "PM" sometime too, just hit me up and we can break out the good book and let His Spirit show us the way - yes?
On the one hand it is God who gives life, and is life, and who grows us up along the way. But God also commissions His Children to follow Him in discipling others. To let God in, in other words, personally first via righteousness, and then to let God use us to invest in peoples lives as God goes before us opening the doors thru discussions and discoveries experientially as we walk with people where the rubber meets the road.
This is and always will be, God first, working in both lives, but it is God who has ordained us as spiritual humans to invest in lives eternally via God's will - This is the Church, but it is more as well; It is a personal choice and commitment to follow Christ and parent those who are babies in Christ, having His saints lift Him up, while He draws all men to Himself.
The cool thing about discipling others is that both parties grow up in Christ and benefit from each other, even though they may be at different maturity levels, because God is leading it all relationally; from where both parties where once found dead in their transgressions and sins.
But today, out of our desire to win converts we often try to make Jesus more convenient. That’s what our culture is all about. So watering down the Gospel to reflect the culture can be an easy trap to fall into. We often make following Jesus comfortable and easy, reducing the expectations: You don’t have to do anything different. Just believe.
Dying to the right to ourselves, and carrying our cross has been reduced from a radical relationship of self-sacrificing love and humility to cheap advertisements with bracelets, jewelry and bumper stickers. We turned following Jesus into little more than eternal “fire” insurance. In so doing we made Him something He is not: safe.
“When Christ calls a man, he bids him come and die." "Whoever finds his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life for my sake will find it." (Matthew 10:39). Life is not about God adding to your life, what can you add to death? it is about understanding that your life is no more! And the New Life God offers you is in Jesus Christ alone. This is where the Life is! There is where the real answers are to your plights in life as well.
When we sell people on a Jesus, who is easy to follow, can we really blame them for bailing out or drifting off when things don’t go smoothly?
It shouldn’t be surprising living in a consumer-based culture, that many times people bring the same attitudes into church: It’s my way, my preferences, my desires that are important. If I don’t get my way, I’ll take my business elsewhere.
In watering down the Gospel we have taken what is all about Jesus and made it all about us. Jesus is a part of our lives when He should be our life. He is life. Following Him requires all our life. The disciples ate, drank, sweat and slept ministry from when Jesus called them to the day they died. Jesus wasn’t a part of their lives. He was their life.
We all are guilty of putting things above Jesus. Whether it’s health, wealth, comfort, causes, dreams, hobbies or interests, we all come to Jesus with expectations of what He will do for us. We all have our passions and causes. But Jesus didn’t come to take sides. Jesus came to take over. It is when we have tried everything else and have failed, that many of us begin to pray in earnest. But God would have us pray about everything always in earnest first.
I would love to talk in "PM" sometime too, just hit me up and we can break out the good book and let His Spirit show us the way - yes?
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I can’t tell you thank you enough for taking the time out to reply to me. I’m trying so hard to move on it’s hard even when I’m working out or walking with my braces I think her and the fact that she left right before I was able to do the things I’m doing right now. When she cried her eyes out every night for me to get here. Last time I talked to her I noticed how lost she was in trying to find out who she is and her purpose in life so I don’t fault her at all for leaving I know that this isn’t just hard for me but her too. She lost her cousin and her only support is now paralyzed and can’t be there how she needs me to be there anymore. I do pray but read the Bible on the exact app you mentioned but I don’t know how to find those scriptures or stories that can relate to me to overcome this hard time.
God does not tell you what He is going to do - He reveals to you who He is. Do you believe in a miracle-working God, and will you “go out” in complete surrender to Him until you are not surprised in any way by anything He does?
The key is first sitting in Him then believing God is always the God you knew and know Him to be when you are nearest to Him smack dab in front of any trial whether it be emotional or circumstantial. Think, then, how unnecessary and disrespectful worry is! Let the attitude of your life be a continual willingness to “go out” in dependence upon God, and your life will have a sacred and inexpressible charm about it that is very satisfying to Jesus. You are seeking that answer - yes? Then continue seeking His face in His Word and prayerfully so as to find Him in the moments of challenge. You must learn to “go out” through your convictions, creeds, or experiences God has placed in you until you come to the point in your faith where there is nothing between yourself and God.
The key is first sitting in Him then believing God is always the God you knew and know Him to be when you are nearest to Him smack dab in front of any trial whether it be emotional or circumstantial. Think, then, how unnecessary and disrespectful worry is! Let the attitude of your life be a continual willingness to “go out” in dependence upon God, and your life will have a sacred and inexpressible charm about it that is very satisfying to Jesus. You are seeking that answer - yes? Then continue seeking His face in His Word and prayerfully so as to find Him in the moments of challenge. You must learn to “go out” through your convictions, creeds, or experiences God has placed in you until you come to the point in your faith where there is nothing between yourself and God.