Tomboy Needing Help/Advice?

Hi.

So I'm not like most people who joined here in order to praise God for bringing him/her here. I actually joined in order to ask for some help and/or advice.

I grew up with only an Asian mother, who is very spiritual. I, myself, am Christian as well. As a result, I've been raised as most other Asian kids have been raised -- get good grades, be a good Christian, do well, excel at what you do, etc.

Unfortunately, I have this strange urge to dress as a boy. I am a tomboy, and most people who know me know that, as well. Everyone at school is fine with it, but the people at my church and in my family take it the wrong way. I cut my hair really short last summer, to the point that I was mistaken as a guy everywhere I went (even my friends couldn't recognize me for a while). Then, I got criticized by lots of my church members. I got sick of being harassed so I just told them that it was the hair stylist's fault and they cut it way too short and the whole situation calmed down. However, that suppresses my inner urges even more. I can't help but want to look like the opposite gender.

I remember in the beginning of high school, I went to a website that listed over 600 sins listed in the Bible; one of which was dressing in clothes that made you look the gender you aren't born to be. How should I cope with this? There's a really good Catholic friend of mine, who is a girl, but she dresses so boyish that I envy her so much. Her family seems fine with it and I don't hear people complain about her. Is it wrong to try to pursue looking like a boy?

Oh, and that's not the only problem. There are times when I want to dress really girly as well. I absolutely adore cute things, and so there are times when I just want to look as feminine as possible. I don't know if I have multiple personalities or something, but right now, I'm either trying to look like a guy or look like a girl.

Any help or advice?

Thanks a lot.

Don't worry what other people think be yourself! I dress in hoodies and skinny jeans most days with my hair in a pony tail but I'm not a tomboy. But there's nothing wrong with being a tomboy, its what you like people should stop concerning themselves about your appearance and dress sense and concentrate on their own

I'm praying for you to be comfortable with yourself, to be able to enjoy yourself without outside insults. You were made in Christ's image and that's how you should see yourself, but being human, we have limitations that prevent us from seeing the beautiful, amazing, Loved girl you are, Loved by God, your Creator. I believe that if you ask Him to give you peace about this area of your life, help you dress to glorify Him, and be comfortable with your appearance, He will hear you and answer you. Maybe there won't be a mystical, magical sparkly immediate experience, but I think weeks later something will happen, you'll remember when you felt rejected and down, and be amazed at the confidence and security you know, you'll own it, because God loves you just the way you are: with an appreciation for cool or comfortable clothing. We have a responsibility to guard hearts and minds. Please read Proverbs 4:23, 24:12, and Philippians 4:7. Oh and a great idea is to read a bit of scripture a day to fortify you. One practice is to read a chapter a day, another is a Proverb chapter a day based on the date, (ie: on the 27th read chapter 27). Always ask the Lord to give you understanding and strength to apply the Truth you learn to your life.
You, and Yours are in my heartfelt prayers

Thank you both very much for the comforting words. It really helps me feel a bit more secure and accepting towards what I wear.

Thanks, again!

You are in a struggle right now; you are either going to accept God's way or you are going to go your own way. It's your decision.

I don't see any issue with the "tomboy" look. Personally, I think the "princess" look is over-rated. Social pressures tell us what to wear, and it's not exactly right.