need advice

i have a daughter who will be 20 in a month she just graduated from high school in june. she's only been with her boyfriend for a month and they are already talking about moving in together. i brought her up in church gave her the talk about pre marital sex being a sin. she knows right from wrong. besides all that i don't think it's a good idea for her to move in with someone she's dated a month. i really want her to be happy, but i also want her to be patient and trust that God will lead her in the right direction of the plan he has for her life. She is attending a local college in the fall and I really want to see her stay at home until she finishes school. she has our health insurance the va is paying for her school, she's driving our car, i've talked to her and tried to explain how much she has to loose if she moves out, and i don't think i got anywhere, i pray for her that she will make the right decision, i'm asking whom ever reads this to remember her in prayer that she will listen to God and let him lead her in life. Please also pray that he will give me the strength i need and give me the words i need when it comes to advising and giving an adult child the help they need without treating them like a child. Thank You

hi chelle
Sorry to hear about whats going on with your daughter. But wanted to give you a helpful tip on utilizing the forums better. You posted a greeting in this section, which was right, but after that you should take all other posts out of the 'New Users' section as this is not intended to be a prayer request/advice area. Only to introduce yourself.
Also, a lot less people read the New User section so you may get less responses. Advice on things like this would fit well in the 'Family' section, and we also have a section set aside just for prayer requests. You'll likely get more, and better responses by posting in the right sections. (=

thank you i had a littel trouble figuring it out at first but i did repost it under prayer request thanks again

It is not easy to control the youth today with such a heinous media leading the world. She is as old as you were when you were saved, i already know and i do not need to ask. At least it was a blessing that you have found God. I am not saying you are one of these people, but many religious people are really over religious when it comes to parenting. What i mean by this is that they will use always God as a means to justify their reasoning, this is okay for the wise and elderly, but for the youth will they only become angry at God for this and thus begin to rebel against all authority you hold. History may just as well repeat itself, but do not take this as your fault. The world has made it hard for anyone to live a rightful life, and no one has helped to give guidance to the faithful. I will have your daughter in my thoughts to do the right thing, but even if she doesn't all we can hope for in the end that she will acknowledge God and be with Him in her life at the end. Many people will disagree with me, but only those who want to be sinful will, that parents should have full authority by the law of their children until 21 years of age. If you have anyone to blame for all of your life problems it will be non other than those who support liberalism. Liberalism has destroyed mankind beyond anything else that has, it is truly a cunning ideology. No liberal can be a true Christian but only a false Christian.

Time is short and we can only do the best that we can, but things will get better. Yet nevertheless far worse in the end until everything is renewed. Try be there for your daughter, but be there as yourself and don't use God as a backup to justify yourself. Even if the worst happens, hopefully she will in the end find God. Better to stand with Him now with all the wrong that has given than to not stand with Him at all.

thank you all for the kind words and prayers. i wanted to report that i am making progress with her, she confessed to me yesterday that the main reason she wants to move out is because her boyfriend really needs to move out of where he is living now it's not a good situation, he does have the option to move back in with his parents but they just relocated to a smaller house which is less room because in addition to him and his mother and father their are still three other siblings at home. she wanted them to get a place together in hopes that she would find a job first and they both could work and pay bills. her heart is in the right place, i would just hate to see her loose touch with God and morals by moving in with someone she's not be with very long not to mention not married to. I try not to be preachy with her. I know she's an adult and she can make her own decisions but as a christian mother I have to tell her my opinions and expectations, what she decides to do with that is her decision to make, she knows I'm always going to love her and be her for her even if I don't approve of the choices she makes. It doesn't mean I condone to it, it just means she's still my daughter and a mother's love is never ending. I will continue to pray that she continues to see the light. Also my husband and I were talking about the situation and I'd really like other christian's opinion on this, we have a finished basement complete with kitchen and full bath and private entrance, we are tossing around the idea of him renting it from for not much money so he could save for his own place. It would take a lot of stress off of everyone involve. My daughter could still live at home, the could still visit in the main part of the house, go out etc. Nothing changes except he rents are basement apartment. Is this the right decision to make or is it condoning? Her boyfriend is not a stranger to us, I mentioned they have been together for a short while, but we have actually known him for over two years because they dated briefly sophomore year and have been friends ever since until recently getting back together as a couple. I appreciate your prayers and opinions. God Bless