Wondering Gods Plan :( 17-18 year olds do you understand?

I feel like nobody knows my morals, Im 18 and never got in a serious relationship because I fear they will pressure me to do things I dont want to do, now I feel like im searching everywhere to find a guy I can connect with and its not working, wondering what Gods plan for me is I feel so lost and lonely after starting uni

Lonely, I totally understand and I feel much of the same. I am 23 and I too have never been in a serious relationship, partly for the fear of pressure that you talk about. My morals have even really even separated from many of the people I went to school with; when they went out doing drugs and drinking and having sex, I refused to go out with them because I know it was wrong and did not want to associate with that. This has been a decision I have got a lot of flack for. I get the Christians who say good for me to not putting myself in the situation to be tempted and other who ridicule me for not going to this parties and making a noticeable stand at this parties except for politely refusing and explaining I did not want to get into that stuff. With the relationships, I have been actively looking for someone to connect with and I have come up empty each and every time. I am not sure who God has in store for me but I know when I find her and connect, I will understand and God will bless me immensely and I know He will do the same for you. Trust me, I get so lonely and that I will never find anyone, especially in scenario's when it seems liek everyone my age and younger are with their spouses or bf/gf but we need to just find Comfort that God is control and He will provide when it is best for Him and not when we want it. If you ever need to talk, feel free to message me.

Hello! , U a welc. and nice to meet you. Pls relax for i think dat God has a plan for u, so don't miss it.
U have free liberty to interact wit any of us
for we al are brethren. 1 God, 1 love and 1
faith. We share our testimonies and also our
difficulties. We love u.

Welcome welcome welcome!

May I pontificate on your question?

My wife's first serious relationship was at age 24 when we married.

the most important part of God's plan is that you enter into a right relationship with Him through Jesus...you need to turn to Him in love and turn from your sins and then you can receive God's forgiveness through Jesus having been punished and dying for your sins and returning to life so that you may be in God's loving presence forever...the next part of God's plan is for you to completely submit to His will and that is to take on the mind and heart of Jesus...ask God daily what His will for you that day is and ask for Him to lead you, help you and guide you...do not expect that He will suddenly announce..here is your timetable for today..as long as you seek His will, do everything to the honour and glory of God rather than be doing your own thing or following the ways of the world, then you are within the will of GOd...God wants you to love Him with your entire heart, mind, strength and soul, seek Him and His wisdom and guidance..have the same attitudes, values and morals and love as Jesus

Don't worry about finding a man now. You're young, you need to focus on God, school, getting a career, and taking this time to also learn about marriage. Be content where you're at. God does not want us rushing into marriage. Don't let other people pressure you into things you aren't ready for, or that God may not even have intended for you right now.
Sounds to me like you're in no hurry to get married for your own sake, so stick with that. Be strong and stand up for yourself and when someone pressures you to date or start looking, don't be afraid to stand up and speak out and let them know that , no you will not be looking and that they need to back off and let you be happy and live your life. Other peoples plans and ideas cannot dictate your happiness.

Going to college involves quite an adjustment so be patient with yourself

Finding friends takes time....there probably is a Christian organization with your university so look into that....we all need the support of other Christians

Hi Lonely123, I pray God's peace and joy over you. Although it has been a very long time since I was 17 or 18, I completely understand. I have also made a lot of mistakes and bad decisions because I did not want to be lonely. The biggest ones being, I did not wait for the Lord to prepare me for a relationship, losing/lowering my standards, not communicating with my mate, mistaking sex for love and never thinking about my expectations and the plans God had for my life.

I love that you are wondering about God's plan for you. There are many books that you can read to assist you in this quest, I would recommend; "The Purpose Driven Life". As far as relationship books, I would recommend "Knight in Shining Armour" and "A Good Man is Hard to Find Unless You Put God at the Head of Your Search Committee". The most important book though is the Bible, read about Esther and Ruth.

As a single woman, whenever I get lonely, I think about all the ways that God has blessed me. Even though I wonder if the relationship that God meant for me passed me by because I was busy finding my own relationship(s), I am patiently waiting and expecting that God will send my Adam, the one whom I am perfectly designed to be his companion.

I want to encourage you to do one more thing. Have Faith and expect that He will bless you. You must speak things as though they already are. For instance Lonely123; if this is not how you plan to remain, you may want to consider a new name, like Expecting A Blessing 123

I almost forgot to say that you should surround yourself with like minded Christians and begin acquaintances, associations, friendships, ...... The relationship that is meant for you will eventually come.