Christian advice needed

Hi all. I am new to this site and am in need of some sound biblical advice regarding my spouse.
Is anyone else out there married but their spouse gives more affection to the family pet than to their spouse?
I have been struggling with this for some time and would like to know if anyone else is in this conundrum and how they dealt and or are dealing with it......thanks!
God bless.

Nunsuch1979, stick around and meet some people, Welcome to the cc!

Will do! Thanks!

Throughout my marriage I too was physically neglected. Are you familiar with the different languages of love? For some men they don't naturally express love through physical demonstration, but through being responsible and being a provider elsewhere. Other men express love verbally, physically, or a combination of ways. Sometimes it takes your initiating affection and just giving a little squeeze without hanging on a guy. Always, though, you should talk with your husband about your desire... not with a raging heart but a sweet heart. Often times a man has to be INTENTIONAL in his affection because it doesn't come naturally. Just talk to him about it and be patient. When he fails to hug you or sweep you off your feet the way you are dreaming of, just forgive him in your heart; pray for peace; thank the Lord for what your husband DOES do; and keep loving him. It's easy to fall into the mindset that your spouse OWES you something... but true love means unconditional sacrifice in things that are not moral issues.

You can always post in the Family Forum as well. Welcome to CC



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Hey, I'm sorry that you're going through a rough time in your relationship. I wish I was more knowledgeable to help, but I just wanted to let you know I'm still praying for you and your relationship. Like DuchessAimee said, the family forum's probably a go to. Welcome to CC.

Welcome to Christian Chat, Nunsuch. I’m not married. I might take the liberty of pointing out that some people do have a strong affection for their pets. I suspect your real problem is that you’d like your wife to have more affection for YOU. I suppose the first step is to talk with her about it. You might need to exert some pressure.

lol Just realized you are the husband, so I apologize for any confusion. The fact still stands, however, that different people desire or simply express love differently than others.

Thanks for all the answers. I have initialized conversation pertaining to this situation but to no avail. She just laughs and says,"so you're jealous of a dog?!" and she goes about her business. I have also been the one to go the extra mile and increase my physical affection toward her but that also had no results. She finally came out and said that she is not one to be to physical......how hypocritical that is when she clearly babies the dog when he is sick,has a limp or is just in need of attention which is always. My wife and I are never truly alone,the dog is always with us or around her. So in intimate moments he is right there and it's extremely uncomfortable....yet she finds no fault with it. I just want her to want to be affectionate with me and to put my affectionate needs before the dogs....is that asking too much? Thank you for your prayers, I have to turn it over to God. I guess I need help in learning how to cope with this.

You need not to stress yourself, all you have to do is to pray unto the Lord not just a prayer but a challenging one which will arouse God is heaven. Know this that God is the founder of marriage, He found it not for anyone to suffer <husband or wife> but to help each other in all raminification because the bible says two is better than one. Knowing this, challenge God who is the founder of marriage to plead your cause and to intervene in your matrimonial home and you will see the goodness that will spring forth. God bless you. Inquiries and information, you can write me at [email protected]. Heaven is our focus.