I have a fetish, i want to get rid of if i hate it so much

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Noelle12

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so i have never told this to anyone but its eating away at me and i need help. I am so ashamed of it. im a 15 year old girl and i think i have a humiliation fetish. I cant stand it because i know im a nice person but it makes me
feel evil. I hate seeing people get embarrassed but for some reason if i think about it or watch videos about it sexually i can get off to it. I like
When people are happy so i dont know why i get pleasure from people beinng embarrassed. I hate it so much but i cant control it at all. I drifted away from god a little bit and i know i shouldn't be thinking about sex at all but right now i just want to get rid of my fetish. I can get off to normal sex but i still find myself coming abck to my fetish. I need help I want god to help me. Ever since i was about 6 when i went to sleep at night i used to think about myself getting embarrassed at school. I hate beig embarrassed but for some reason i loved thinking about it. I know think about girls (sometimes guys) being naked and having stuff happen to them that embarrasses them. ( i am straight) I feel so sick and i hate it and i dont like getting pleasure from this. I basically have the same problem as a pedophile has, i cant control my urges. Its just what turns me on i have no idea. How can i stop it?? My dad also had a fetish (i found out about) he used to abuse my mom and he likes when people are hurt. I always think how sick and disgusting he is but then i think that im no different, the only
Difference between us is that i am a nice person at heart and i Know for a fact he isnt. I sicken myself because of this, how can i get rid of it completely
 
blue_ladybug

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Noelle12 said:
so i have never told this to anyone but its eating away at me and i need help. I am so ashamed of it. im a 15 year old girl and i think i have a humiliation fetish. I cant stand it because i know im a nice person but it makes me
feel evil. I hate seeing people get embarrassed but for some reason if i think about it or watch videos about it sexually i can get off to it. I like
When people are happy so i dont know why i get pleasure from people beinng embarrassed. I hate it so much but i cant control it at all. I drifted away from god a little bit and i know i shouldn't be thinking about sex at all but right now i just want to get rid of my fetish. I can get off to normal sex but i still find myself coming abck to my fetish. I need help I want god to help me. Ever since i was about 6 when i went to sleep at night i used to think about myself getting embarrassed at school. I hate beig embarrassed but for some reason i loved thinking about it. I know think about girls (sometimes guys) being naked and having stuff happen to them that embarrasses them. ( i am straight) I feel so sick and i hate it and i dont like getting pleasure from this. I basically have the same problem as a pedophile has, i cant control my urges. Its just what turns me on i have no idea. How can i stop it?? My dad also had a fetish (i found out about) he used to abuse my mom and he likes when people are hurt. I always think how sick and disgusting he is but then i think that im no different, the only
Difference between us is that i am a nice person at heart and i Know for a fact he isnt. I sicken myself because of this, how can i get rid of it completely
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Noelle12, no one can really explain why they have certain likes or fetishes. Yours is quite unnatural for a 15 year old girl to be feeling. You should be enjoying school and hanging out with friends, not trying to come up with ways to humiliate people!! Believe me, people have no problems embarassing themselves without the help of others!! LOL. :) It sounds like maybe you and your family need some type of therapy to figure out what the root cause of this behavior is and how to stop it. Jesus says do unto others as you would want them to do to you. Would u want them to embarass you? Or know that they get off just thinking about it? I think your answer is a big fat NO. Pray to God to help take these urges away from you and restore your peace of mind.
 
Godslonelyhero

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hand it over to God in complete honesty and sincerity, he can remove it from you in an instant!
 
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Noelle12

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I dont think you fully understand i dont like embarrasing people at all i hate seeing someone embarrased in real life but its totally different when I'm trying to get off. Than i get like excited by it, i really wouldn't want to get therapy with my family because its really awkward and i never plan to tell anyone about it i just want to keep it inside of me. I really cant help it i hate it im not happy by the fact that i think like this but its so hard to stop, its hard for someone whos not like this to understand i guess
 
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Noelle12

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Do u think i will be able to fully get rid of it?
 
myfriendtiny

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I think you can..it will take some time to get rid of it..Just keep asking God and praying about it..I have had similar things happen to me but not exactly like yours..


God bless...
 
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Here is God's command.
Mark 12:31
The second is this: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.'
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It's not loving to want to see someone humiliated.

It sounds like you know God's command, and it sounds like you want to obey God's command to love.
Yet you are like the apostle Paul.

Romans 7
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21 So I find it to be a law that when I want to do right, evil lies close at hand.22 For I delight in the law of God, in my inner being,23 but I see in my members another law waging war against the law of my mind and making me captive to the law of sin that dwells in my members.24 Wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death?
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The answer?
Romans 7
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25 Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord!
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Romans 1
6 For I am not ashamed of the gospel, for it is the power of God for salvation to everyone who believes, to the Jew first and also to the Greek
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The Gospel is what's going to set you free.
You can't do it on your own.

Go to Jesus at the throne of grace and seek his power that comes through him and the Gospel.

Hebrews 4
14 Since then we have a great high priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus, the Son of God, let us hold fast our confession. 15 For we do not have a high priestwho is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin. 16 Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.
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You're welcome here. I have something sort of like that myself. I'm praying for you. God can and will help you with it. My inbox is always open if you need to talk.
 
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Chezz

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If you need someone to talk to PM me. Welcome to CC :)
 
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Noelle12 said:
so i have never told this to anyone but its eating away at me and i need help. I am so ashamed of it. im a 15 year old girl and i think i have a humiliation fetish. I cant stand it because i know im a nice person but it makes me
feel evil. I hate seeing people get embarrassed but for some reason if i think about it or watch videos about it sexually i can get off to it. I like
When people are happy so i dont know why i get pleasure from people beinng embarrassed. I hate it so much but i cant control it at all. I drifted away from god a little bit and i know i shouldn't be thinking about sex at all but right now i just want to get rid of my fetish. I can get off to normal sex but i still find myself coming abck to my fetish. I need help I want god to help me. Ever since i was about 6 when i went to sleep at night i used to think about myself getting embarrassed at school. I hate beig embarrassed but for some reason i loved thinking about it. I know think about girls (sometimes guys) being naked and having stuff happen to them that embarrasses them. ( i am straight) I feel so sick and i hate it and i dont like getting pleasure from this. I basically have the same problem as a pedophile has, i cant control my urges. Its just what turns me on i have no idea. How can i stop it?? My dad also had a fetish (i found out about) he used to abuse my mom and he likes when people are hurt. I always think how sick and disgusting he is but then i think that im no different, the only
Difference between us is that i am a nice person at heart and i Know for a fact he isnt. I sicken myself because of this, how can i get rid of it completely
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if i think about it or watch videos about it sexually i can get off to it.... you aint doing much to help yourself by watching videos of it... repent means to turn away but if your just gonnas feed the desires, well thats the wide path..
 
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