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Hey I'm new.. I just happen to run across you guys.. I'm a Christian I believe in Jesus.. the thing is I'm not just hopelessly in love with him like everybody around me.. is that wrong? I struggle with loneliness, self worth, doubt,purpose, and basically feeling like I belong.. I dated a girl in my younger years and when I get lonely I wanna reach out to her I struggle daily.. being reformed is easy staying reformed is a struggle.. sometimes I feel like I'm missing out on life because I basically can't do the things that use to make me happy.. sometimes I feel like life is passing me by. How do I find a balance how can I be happy serving god and being me or just having fun.. there's gotta be more to life

Hello and welcome, delighted to have you here. God never said our walk with Christ would be easy, but he did say it would be worth it, since we would be giving eternal life to spend with him as his children. My suggestion, to you is to surround yourself with some biblically mature Christian to get you out of your loneliness state, being her right now is a very good start. Secondly, there is more to life, the world that we live in only provides temporary pleasure, were as if you follow Christ whole heartedly, you would know true joy, happiness, compassion, peace, love. Which in terms, relates to having an abundant life.

Welcome to the site

Thank u.. that really meant a lot to me..

You are welcome.

Hi kings
I can actually relate in many ways. I don't always feel this 'hopelessly in love' feeling with God either and i don't know why. Self doubt, purpose, all that stuff. But i've managed to keep moving on.
Part of the problem, i believe, with the 'world is passing me by' idea is that you are looking at those things as happiness. But in reality these people you see are not very happy people. This is why they are involved in so many activities that go against God. Because they're putting band aids on broken arms. Doing things we want doesn't make us happy people. It just makes us feel good at that moment. But when the moment passes we aren't happy anymore.
If you want to be happy and live life then you have to make a choice as to what is going to make you happy. Some people seem to have an easy time finding their purpose in God. It's like it falls in their lap. But others have to more actively seek our purpose and identity in God. It's not so clear. I struggle with this daily. So i'm not trying to make it sound easy. But if you want it are you fighting for it? Chasing after it? Or are you dwelling on what you don't have and wish you had and wondering why life is passing you by? If you want purpose and to live life then go to the source and maker of that life and pester Him about it. Get to know His purpose by getting to know Him more and invest your time and energy and effort into that relationship, instead of reaching out to someone who has already let you down in the past.

So true about your statement on looking at those things as bandaids. Theyre really only ephemeral and temporary things that leave you empty inside in the end. Its just difficult sometimes to keeo ourselves from being polluted by a world that is...well, spiritually polluted

You are welcome here. I think this is something all of us deal with on some level at different times in our lives. You're absolutely right, it is so difficult to keep with it. I'm praying for you in it. God's going to do his will in you, it's not just going to be from your own effort.

Also have you ever heard of a video called "God's Chisel"? I don't know if it'll be quite what you're looking for but it encouraged me a lot.

*hugs back*

Ur right I should work toward what I want because at times I feel like I'm half in and half not.. most times I feel I should just truly give god my heart u kno and just be all in and maybe then I'll find happiness in different things because all I kno now is what the world perception of happiness is.. I don't think I ever gave god a real chance focusing on my past and who I was instead of moving forward in him.

Thanx for Ur prayers and no I haven't saw Gods Chisel..