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aworkinprogress

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I'm convinced there's nothing anyone can say to me or do for me to make me happy. I guess however happiness is suppose to be self-produced- I shouldn't rely on others. This is hard. I ask God for a deep joy that no one can take away but it seems that I'm still easily emotionally affected but what happens to me. I'm not sure what happiness feels like. I copy the emotions of what it looks like because I feel like that's trying. I tell some people of my feelings but It overwhelms them. I don't have true friends, interests, or passions. I'm indifferent to it all. I'll try anything that I know is not against my faith, I will make an effort to enjoy myself and sometimes I can trick myself into it for an hour then when the activity finishes I have the same feelings if being alone. I'm really just done. I feel terrible. I'm constantly in the word looking for answers living by it and talking to God about everything good and bad and just what happened in my day. Sometimes I feel he has left me. I'm terribly jealous. Making connections with other people or going through the steps of friendship is mentally exhausting, I'm am introvert. It's all so hard. Boo hoo. I'm sure in not the first just one of the many. I read that life isn't suppose to be easy that we aren't to take the easy way. But why is it painfully hard to live through day by day.
 

blue_ladybug

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I'm convinced there's nothing anyone can say to me or do for me to make me happy. I guess however happiness is suppose to be self-produced- I shouldn't rely on others. This is hard. I ask God for a deep joy that no one can take away but it seems that I'm still easily emotionally affected but what happens to me. I'm not sure what happiness feels like. I copy the emotions of what it looks like because I feel like that's trying. I tell some people of my feelings but It overwhelms them. I don't have true friends, interests, or passions. I'm indifferent to it all. I'll try anything that I know is not against my faith, I will make an effort to enjoy myself and sometimes I can trick myself into it for an hour then when the activity finishes I have the same feelings if being alone. I'm really just done. I feel terrible. I'm constantly in the word looking for answers living by it and talking to God about everything good and bad and just what happened in my day. Sometimes I feel he has left me. I'm terribly jealous. Making connections with other people or going through the steps of friendship is mentally exhausting, I'm am introvert. It's all so hard. Boo hoo. I'm sure in not the first just one of the many. I read that life isn't suppose to be easy that we aren't to take the easy way. But why is it painfully hard to live through day by day.
We are not the ones who can make ourselves happy. Only God has the power to do that. At times in their lives, everyone feels the way you do right now. I used to feel that way, there are days when I still do feel that way. God has NOT left you!! He never deserts us in our time of need. He is closer to you now, than ever before. I would like to suggest that you read my thread called "Depression: A Ladybug's True Story of Dark vs Light." It chronicles my struggle with life-long depression, and I give some good suggestions as to what I do (and others can do also) to stay in a more positive mindset. It is in the Miscellaneous forum. I would encourage you to read it because I really do think it would help you. :)

Ask God to take away these feelings of being alone, being jealous, etc. He will more than gladly remove them from you. Life is not meant to be easy, you are right about that. God gives us hardships to see how well or poorly we can handle what we're given. Alot of people have gone and are going through alot worse than what you describe here. They have'nt given up. YOU cant give up either. :)
 

tourist

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Believe me, I understand what you have written. Keep talking to God. I talk to God all day long in actual conversation. It does not kill the pain but it does bring it to a manageable level. I am an introvert also. Instead of trying to make friends try to have just one best friend. That is what I do. You need to allow God to place happiness inside of you. At least, that is what I tell myself.
 

jogoldie

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Happiness......its a matter of prospective......if your looking for others to make you happy.....that will.only lead
to disappointment.....you have to start with the little things in your life.....look around you.....God has showered
us with blessings we take for granted.....nature...flowers ...trees...the beach makes me stupid happy....
my escape from the world....my place where God and I have picnics...long chats....and yes sometimes correction...
How incrediable Gods creations are...happiness to me is my gradchildren and I sharing our icecream cones...
letting the baby feed me....making a mess of it.....priceless.....I was so tickled yesterday at the beach....
My grandbaby who is only a year and a half shared her cookie with me( forceably I might add)....sand and all....
she patted my face told
me ....I love you....and proceded to dig......if that doesnt make you laugh and cry at the same time.....
nothing will....dont focus on the grand prizes of happiness...start with the little things.....and work your
way up....once you recognize what happiness really is....you,ll never want to be miserable again...
stop focusing on tommarrow...what doom awaits...Gods already working on that....thank Him....and
move on prove your faith....we focus mostly on what we want or do not have......big mistake...
Focus on what is in front of you...reach for it....happiness is not a disease...its a state of mind....
 

Tinkerbell725

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I'm convinced there's nothing anyone can say to me or do for me to make me happy. I guess however happiness is suppose to be self-produced- I shouldn't rely on others. This is hard. I ask God for a deep joy that no one can take away but it seems that I'm still easily emotionally affected but what happens to me. I'm not sure what happiness feels like. I copy the emotions of what it looks like because I feel like that's trying. I tell some people of my feelings but It overwhelms them. I don't have true friends, interests, or passions. I'm indifferent to it all. I'll try anything that I know is not against my faith, I will make an effort to enjoy myself and sometimes I can trick myself into it for an hour then when the activity finishes I have the same feelings if being alone. I'm really just done. I feel terrible. I'm constantly in the word looking for answers living by it and talking to God about everything good and bad and just what happened in my day. Sometimes I feel he has left me. I'm terribly jealous. Making connections with other people or going through the steps of friendship is mentally exhausting, I'm am introvert. It's all so hard. Boo hoo. I'm sure in not the first just one of the many. I read that life isn't suppose to be easy that we aren't to take the easy way. But why is it painfully hard to live through day by day.


Pursuit of hapiness is like chasing the wind. Its all useless because of the ironic nature of human life.

Instead, have reverence for God, and obey his commands, because this is all that we are created for. God is going to judge evrything we do, whether good or bad, even things done in secret. ~ Ecclesiastes 12:13-14
 
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aworkinprogress

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Thank you everyone. Even today was just a much better day. Thank you all for your words of encouragement and prayers
 

MartyrNdaMaKn

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Hello and welcome, delighted to have you here. True happiness can only be found when we are one with God through Christ Jesus, then and only then will we know true peace. Keep your head up, for God is always near us, just waiting for us to seek him and commune with him. Also, may your stay be filled with the love of Christ and great fellowship. God Bless.
 
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Beca

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I understand how you feel, especially right now, just 2 days ago i kept thinking whats the point in life and started talking to God about it, I would like to become friends with you if that's possible :D I do need a friend that's close to God or believes in him. I do know that God however listens sometimes we just sin too much or put too much distance between us that he ends up feeling far but you can pray asking for forgiveness and to help you fix the wrong turns in your life to help you walk his way, to help you get closer to him. He listens, sometimes it just takes a lot of asking.
 
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aworkinprogress

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Hi Beca,

Yeah it's easy to get stick in the mindset of hopelessness.Thanks for the kind words. And yes I need more Christian friends as well . Message me !

Stay blessed.