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ndune

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hallo, am new here and believe it is the right place.

am a christian mum who is so heartbroken and now separated from my marriage of 15 years.

i know the church preaches against divorce but i am in so much pain in an abusive marriage ... kindly welcom me on board and make me feel better ..
 
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Chezz

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Welcome to CC! Sorry to hear anout that! I will be praying for you! :)
 
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amymine712

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hallo, am new here and believe it is the right place.

am a christian mum who is so heartbroken and now separated from my marriage of 15 years.

i know the church preaches against divorce but i am in so much pain in an abusive marriage ... kindly welcom me on board and make me feel better ..
Welcome! I am praying for you. If you are in an abusive marriage then you need to let it go. God doesn't expect you to remain in an unloving, ungodly, and abusive relationship.

God doesn't condone abuse.

And the Lord said, “Who then is the faithful and wise manager, whom his master will set over his household, to give them their portion of food at the proper time? Blessed is that servant whom his master will find so doing when he comes. Truly, I say to you, he will set him over all his possessions. But if that servant says to himself, ‘My master is delayed in coming,’ and begins to beat the male and female servants, and to eat and drink and get drunk, the master of that servant will come on a day when he does not expect him and at an hour he does not know, and will cut him in pieces and put him with the unfaithful. Luke 12:42-46 (ESV)


God commands us to walk in love.

A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another.” John 13:34

Husbands are to love their wives as Christ love the church.

Ephesians 5:25English Standard Version (ESV)

25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,
 

jogoldie

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Welcome my sister......years ago I too was in an abusive marriage..after.the separation happened
I started to change my routine.....with time....and of course Gods help.....it became easier....and my new
home was at peace.....and my children thrived........I know you are frightened
but sometimes we must trust God enough to do it afraid.....take that step my friend ....and dont look back...
God will provide for you....find peace in your decision ...and all will be well....
Im praying for you and your family.....and if you need someone to talk to i will be here for you....
May peace and love surround you.....jo
 

stefen

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As Jogoldie said, happened is happened. Do not worry about that. You cannot change the past by worrying or thinking about the past. Lets pray and plan for better future by believing in Christ, who has power to change your future.

So, Just believe Him and walk in the path of Christ lived in this world. Everything will be fine. You can post here for any prayer requests or troubles you are facing. Lot of friends here will advice you from their experience. Be blessed.
 

MartyrNdaMaKn

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Hello and welcome, delighted to have you here. Sorry, to hear you are not being treated right in your marriage, my prayer for you is that God will place compassion, humility, and love back into your husbands heart. Keeping you in my prayers. God Bless.
 
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ndune

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thank you Jogoldie, very encouraging, its not easy at all at all
i am in tears most of the nights, am feeling everything, from lonely to sad, emptyness to anger etc
i pray to be ok, it is looking so hard on my own, its not an official separation but job location separation. Divorce in not easy in my country and it is so involving and am thinking about it as i ponder the way forward.
Thanks for the invitation.
 
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ndune

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thank you all. keep praying for me

its not easy, got lots of different feelings which leave me lonely and soo down. its just so hard but God in control. Psalms 25 is my strength word for this period then i summarise with psalms 121
 

jogoldie

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Mar 20, 2014
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Day by day...thats Gods directon for us....each day you will get stronger and tears will fade.....keep yourself
busy and focused on God.....all you have to do is make it through one day at a time......and soon you will
find the days become easier and you wont believe you were ever afraid......your children will see strength in you
and respect you for your courage......you my sister are royality in Gods eyes.....and thats all that matters....
Be who God created you to be....a concourer and His loving daughter.......
and our sister.........peace.......im still here for you .....jo
 
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ndune

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I thank God for your love and encouragement.

One might underrate that comment she/he is making but it helps a lot to know others care to think and pray for ones situation. I am much better and look forward to getting and giving more support where appropriate.

God bless you so much my dear ones. Again THANk YOU