Teen modesty....

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Alyd20

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I hear from my nephews, who are teens, and the kids their age are a lot wilder than when I went to school, which doesn't seem that long ago as I graduated in 2010. But yes, I suppose I am getting old now. I just hit 30 and need an excellent mid-life crisis, possibly buy a boat lol. The point is, I never imagined how fast the culture changed just within 11 years. These teens now seem to have no boundaries. I volunteer with our church youth group, so I am hoping that will help me connect with my daughter once she hits that age. She is six now.
I graduated from high school 2 years ago I am definitely agree with you on how the kids act when I was in high school they cussed all of the time. I pray that your daughter knows that she is a daughter of kings of kings lords of lords my prayer that she always knows that especially when she hit teens that she has reminder after it but I’m praying for her and my hope that she knows how much she is loved.
 
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Alyd20

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Boy did I have a crush on Taylor Swift in High School. But she broke my heart when she started supporting abortion, lgbt, and and wanted to vote for Hillar Clinton. Oh well, I met the perfect women in high school and now married, so unfortunate that she let her career take her so far from God's Word.
Same I loved when I was a kid and saw every single concert but she broke my heart when she supported the devil when I was in high school. I almost meet her story time letter I guess. I love her from 2008 to 2017.
 
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Alyd20

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I am so glad that I re dedicated my life back to Jesus on April 1st 2017 I was a 17 year old girl not sure if following Jesus again was worth it but I was wrong because our creator wanted me to come back home again he was crying because he loved me so much he hated me living in the world and but on April 1st he hugged me I felt his love like never before in my life it changed me and I have been closer to him ever since 3 years since that day I was just being a teenager questioning my faith. My friends helped me to find Jesus again and they prayed for me and they were excited about putting Jesus back into my life I remember seeing them cry Julia grace Taylor Angie pagie and Meg all cried at School when they find out;
 

Roughsoul1991

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I graduated from high school 2 years ago I am definitely agree with you on how the kids act when I was in high school they cussed all of the time. I pray that your daughter knows that she is a daughter of kings of kings lords of lords my prayer that she always knows that especially when she hit teens that she has reminder after it but I’m praying for her and my hope that she knows how much she is loved.
Thank you, your words are exactly what I hope to instill in her and it is people like you that always bring encouragement to me as it is always the evidence of God moving in each generation.
 

Roughsoul1991

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I am so glad that I re dedicated my life back to Jesus on April 1st 2017 I was a 17 year old girl not sure if following Jesus again was worth it but I was wrong because our creator wanted me to come back home again he was crying because he loved me so much he hated me living in the world and but on April 1st he hugged me I felt his love like never before in my life it changed me and I have been closer to him ever since 3 years since that day I was just being a teenager questioning my faith. My friends helped me to find Jesus again and they prayed for me and they were excited about putting Jesus back into my life I remember seeing them cry Julia grace Taylor Angie pagie and Meg all cried at School when they find out;
The best part is, the way you write portrays the love and fire within you. Never let that fade, grow stagnant, or quench the power of the Holy Spirit.
 
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Alyd20

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Thank you, your words are exactly what I hope to instill in her and it is people like you that always bring encouragement to me as it is always the evidence of God moving in each generation.
Thanks. I can’t wait to meet her in heaven but until that time I hope that she knows who is and whose she is. I’m generation z I believe that revival is here because of our faith that is so strong that is happening it is the biggest revival that world has ever seen.
 

Roughsoul1991

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Aww stop making me cry
Well in many ways to us believers who see the culture especially the younger culture, it is truly us who have tears of joy knowing God is raising up an army of God-fearing Christians. It is as if we sometimes feel like Elijah in the wilderness. Sometimes getting overwhelmed by the ways evil, we have to be reminded that God will not leave us alone to carry on the fight.
 

Roughsoul1991

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Thanks. I can’t wait to meet her in heaven but until that time I hope that she knows who is and whose she is. I’m generation z I believe that revival is here because of our faith that is so strong that is happening it is the biggest revival that world has ever seen.
I pray you are right. There is a massive shift in the church right now and ways of doing church. It is meeting people due to the Internet in ways we can not even begin to see the outcome due to covid.
 
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Alyd20

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I pray you are right. There is a massive shift in the church right now and ways of doing church. It is meeting people due to the Internet in ways we can not even begin to see the outcome due to covid.
Amen
 
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Alyd20

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Well in many ways to us believers who see the culture especially the younger culture, it is truly us who have tears of joy knowing God is raising up an army of God-fearing Christians. It is as if we sometimes feel like Elijah in the wilderness. Sometimes getting overwhelmed by the ways evil, we have to be reminded that God will not leave us alone to carry on the fight.
Amen because of tick tok Christian preaching because of my generation z
 

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I was just out of my teenage years I remember in high school my friend of mine said to me don’t dress modestly wear a crop top to school but I don’t my advice is that let your daughter defend her faith and show the girls that modestly is cool I mean in a nice possible way but If you need any help or advice from a former teen.
THis may be true. However, it’s important to remember that a lot of kids have a really hard time withstanding peer pressure and will often give in just because it seems cool. I know this from experience, I think in general it is wiser to give yourself (or your child) specific boundaries, and perhaps have a friend and/or mentor to keep you accountable. I found this to be really helpful!
 
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Alyd20

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THis may be true. However, it’s important to remember that a lot of kids have a really hard time withstanding peer pressure and will often give in just because it seems cool. I know this from experience, I think in general it is wiser to give yourself (or your child) specific boundaries, and perhaps have a friend and/or mentor to keep you accountable. I found this to be really helpful!
Thanks. I will use this advice for when I have a daughter someday.
For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.” Psalm 139:13-14 (ESV)
 
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Alyd20

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I think that being Gods daughter is a very cool experience and that I’m grateful for it and I mean I’m a princess to the best father ever I love him so much I mean I don’t deserve his love and grace but he paid it all for me.
Someday I will teach my daughter that she is a princess and she is a daughter of kings of kings lords of lords and she will a fearless child of God like her mother. I can’t wait for the day when I find out that I’m pregnant and watching God creating her inside of me.
For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.” Psalm 139:13-14 (ESV)
I am already praying for her and I can’t wait to see her and meet her someday.
 
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Alyd20

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I think that being Gods daughter is a very cool experience and that I’m grateful for it and I mean I’m a princess to the best father ever I love him so much I mean I don’t deserve his love and grace but he paid it all for me.
Someday I will teach my daughter that she is a princess and she is a daughter of kings of kings lords of lords and she will a fearless child of God like her mother. I can’t wait for the day when I find out that I’m pregnant and watching God creating her inside of me.
For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.” Psalm 139:13-14 (ESV)
I am already praying for her and I can’t wait to see her and meet her someday.
Hallelujah
 

Aldg19

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I think that being Gods daughter is a very cool experience and that I’m grateful for it and I mean I’m a princess to the best father ever I love him so much I mean I don’t deserve his love and grace but he paid it all for me.
Someday I will teach my daughter that she is a princess and she is a daughter of kings of kings lords of lords and she will a fearless child of God like her mother. I can’t wait for the day when I find out that I’m pregnant and watching God creating her inside of me.
For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.” Psalm 139:13-14 (ESV)
I am already praying for her and I can’t wait to see her and meet her someday.
Amen
 

Aldg19

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If anybody is struggling with self worth and or body image this is for you
 

Tararose

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The entire answer is pretty much summed up in this, love your neighbour as yourself...

don't be a stumbling block for guys (or girls who struggle with their sexuality.)

Basically, why are. you wearing what you are wearing? Is it motivated by love for your brothers and sisters? Does it honour God or does it draw attention to your figure? Does it expose thighs, bum and chest? Does it cling to them? Does it expose flesh around those areas? it is probably going to make the majority of men struggle with their thoughts, even believing men. If it makes a father feel uncomfortable, it is probably because he knows how guys think and doesn't want them to think that way about you.

It is hard because of the media and our society. The whole idea that women can wear what they like and men should simply just stop leering at them is not biblical. Sure they need to be self controlled, but even David who had a heart after Gods own heart fought with his eyes to not look at women in a day when they all wore baggy shapeless robes most of the time... how do you think he would have handled hot pants and crop tops!

The reason they sell is primarily because they are "sexy", and society is full of over sexualisation so it has been totally normalised, to the point they buy t-shirts for their little girls that say things like "so many boys but so little time"! It is considered cute or funny, when in reality it is neither. It is sick.

You can dress nicely without compromising, just above the knee is safest, but check how it fits when you sit or bend too as often things ride right up, check tops dont fall open when you bend over, dont wear clothes that look like you sprayed it on your body and leave nothing hidden, ask older Christian women who you feel dress nicely but modestly what would be appropriate if you have things you aren't sure about, hopefully they will be honest with you and leave you to make your own mind up.

I used to be so clueless in my teens, but looking back I wore what I wore because I felt it was fashionable and I felt I looked attractive. I did not understand that men mostly designed the clothes I was wearing and it was not because they were good men of God. It was because the media promoted sexy - and so they sold what was popular because it made money, and as we know in this world, sex sells.

I really commend your desire to be pleasing to God, it is a journey and I am sure you will progress well if your attitude stays this way :)
 
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Hello!
I'm new here (so hello everyone!)
I'm wondering your views on modesty. I am a teenage girl (enough said :ROFL:). Seriously though, I am fairly new to religion, and don't want to make any huge mistakes, but I am also aware of how it is actually quite difficult to be a devoted Christian in this day and age.

Soooo...
That being said, how far should modesty go? Is it bad to wear shorts, or certain dresses? And where do tight leggings go in all this?

Hope this makes sense and any advice is always appreciated! :)
I'm a teenager myself so I relate to your question completely. I used to struggle with modest dressing a lot. I was never one to wear revealing clothes or things that showed off my body too much. Just sweatpants and tank tops was my go to, and sometimes is now. But at one point I started to realize that I was wearing certain things because they would make certain parts of my body look good. When choosing clothes to wear, you shouldn't ask whether this type or that type of clothing is allowed, but instead you should ask yourself, "How are these clothes making me feel? What are my motivations for wearing them?" If you wear a tank top and decide that you're wearing it because it's very hot on that particular day, I don't see why you shouldn't. As long as your motivations are to please God, then I think that you're on the right path. Including in that list though is that your first thought shouldn't be, "Will this tempt someone?" If you've dressed in a certain way and know that it will please God, then in the same hand it shouldn't tempt someone. The sad reality is that young women are objectified and sexually assaulted regardless of what they wear at times. Some men are also tempted by girls who wear the baggiest of clothes! So make sure that your foremost priority of the clothing you pick is to please God and represent Him through your clothing, and essentially your whole being. God bless and lots of love to you!
 

Eagle05

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Hello!
I'm new here (so hello everyone!)
I'm wondering your views on modesty. I am a teenage girl (enough said :ROFL:). Seriously though, I am fairly new to religion, and don't want to make any huge mistakes, but I am also aware of how it is actually quite difficult to be a devoted Christian in this day and age.

Soooo...
That being said, how far should modesty go? Is it bad to wear shorts, or certain dresses? And where do tight leggings go in all this?

Hope this makes sense and any advice is always appreciated! :)

How do you like my epidermis? LMAO! I couldn't help myself but show a picture of me and some of my skin that goes with it. Is this modest enough? I know I am late to the game here but shorts and dresses are my thing, and I am a Christian :)
 

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