Lust is destroying my marriage.

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lucyto

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I have been married for 7 years and the marriage has been full of thorns (planted by me). I'm so confused, frustrated, angry, scared so much that sometimes I just want to run away from it all. If it wasn't for my beautiful girls I would have long committed suicide.

From the beginning the marriage was bound to fail; who falls in love with another man barely a year after her wedding. I have cheated (which he doesn't know about - i think) and almost cheated (which he knows about). I did all these because I felt that my husband was mistreating me and if you asked me if he really did I would say I don't know because deep down I know he is a very good man. I know I love him but I can't feel it anymore. I'm always angry with him for no apparent reason. I'm in love with another man (not the same man that I fell in love after i just got married), this is the first boy I ever fell in love with when I was just 14. Please pray for me so that the Lord can break the chains of lust that are binding me. Deep down i know that it is lust that is causing all this and I wish with all my heart that God could help me love and respect my husband like I used to.

Another thing is I want to go back to the way I used to be; a God fearing and praying wife. I don't pray anymore because I've always told myself that I can not sin and kneel before God. I don't go to church anymore, it bothers me but I just can't. The thought of going to church and praying scares me, I would literally get frightened when I was about to kneel and pray so I just stopped. Please pray for me so that the Lord can release me from the bondage of sin and that I can be His servant again.

If you just read this and felt confused that is how confused I am and if you read this and you didn't find it complicated at all, my marriage/life is probably not as complicated as I think. I know prayer can help me get out these situations.
 
robustheologian

robustheologian

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Prayer isn't for perfect people...neither is church. Don't let guilt keep you away from both of them. Try reading the Word first. It should make getting on your knees to pray easier. I am praying for you though.
 
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kaylagrl

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lucyto said:
I have been married for 7 years and the marriage has been full of thorns (planted by me). I'm so confused, frustrated, angry, scared so much that sometimes I just want to run away from it all. If it wasn't for my beautiful girls I would have long committed suicide.

From the beginning the marriage was bound to fail; who falls in love with another man barely a year after her wedding. I have cheated (which he doesn't know about - i think) and almost cheated (which he knows about). I did all these because I felt that my husband was mistreating me and if you asked me if he really did I would say I don't know because deep down I know he is a very good man. I know I love him but I can't feel it anymore. I'm always angry with him for no apparent reason. I'm in love with another man (not the same man that I fell in love after i just got married), this is the first boy I ever fell in love with when I was just 14. Please pray for me so that the Lord can break the chains of lust that are binding me. Deep down i know that it is lust that is causing all this and I wish with all my heart that God could help me love and respect my husband like I used to.

Another thing is I want to go back to the way I used to be; a God fearing and praying wife. I don't pray anymore because I've always told myself that I can not sin and kneel before God. I don't go to church anymore, it bothers me but I just can't. The thought of going to church and praying scares me, I would literally get frightened when I was about to kneel and pray so I just stopped. Please pray for me so that the Lord can release me from the bondage of sin and that I can be His servant again.

If you just read this and felt confused that is how confused I am and if you read this and you didn't find it complicated at all, my marriage/life is probably not as complicated as I think. I know prayer can help me get out these situations.
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Lucyto you feel afraid to pray and go to church because of conviction.You answered your own problem with your signature "the devil is a liar".He doesn't want your marriage to work.He doesn't want you to pray and go to church.The best way to defeat him though is to do just that.Sin isolates us from God.God didn't move,you did.He's still there waiting for you to come back.He'll break the chains,step out of bondage Lucyto.What you fear the most is what you need the most.He'll forgive.And then you know what he'll do? Cast it into the sea never to be remembered again,like you'd never sinned.You'll feel clean again.You need to find a good councilor too,Christian if you can find one.Something in your past is making you seek love in the wrong places.You need to find out why.Dont let the devil keep you from God any longer.You will stay defeated until you reach out to Him.We've all gone though it,let sin confuse us and keep us from God.Dont do it anymore.Dont let the devil lie to you and take your life.Your daughters need you but the need a mom,happy and whole.The power is in your hands.Blessings on you!
 
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DyingToSelf

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LORD,

i pray for this sister's marriage. Help her to realise that this was not what You ordained for her life, that nothing is an excuse for breaking her vows for marriage. Father, thank You for forgiving all our sins by Your Son's sacrifice on the cross, that we may come boldly to You and claim the righteousness that Christ purchased for us with His blood. I thank You that You have said that You will no longer see our sins through the veil of Christ's blood that cleanses us continually.

Abba, I pray that You restore this sister's relationship with her husband, that You will take away the spirit of resentment and pride that has found it's way into her heart. I pray that You will remind her to be humble and to seek reconciliation with her husband. I pray that You will remind her husband to love her as Christ has loved the church and forgive her transgressions even as he asks her for forgiveness for the wrongs he has committed against her.

Remind this family that a marriage is like a thrice-wound cord and it needs You as the centre of it to strengthen and preserve it. Give them wisdom as they go through this time of need and preserve this family with Your unfailing protection, LORD. Thank You, Jesus, because You have come not to condemn and destroy but to give Life and Restoration.

Give Your peace to this family, O GOD, that they may rest in You and find comfort in their trials.

I believe in Your supernatural healing, we know that we only have Victory through Your Perfect and Finished Work.

I pray all this in Jesus name,

Amen
 
levi85

levi85

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" Behold old things are passed away, and you are a new creature in Christ"

Lord Jesus we pray for lucyto, forgive her from all mistakes, and give her your peace, bless her and every family members through her. Lord let your name be praised in her mouth and works, Bless her, AMen
 
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sveinen

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God Hopes For Life...!
Spirit Christ :)
 
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Sirk

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lucyto said:
I have been married for 7 years and the marriage has been full of thorns (planted by me). I'm so confused, frustrated, angry, scared so much that sometimes I just want to run away from it all. If it wasn't for my beautiful girls I would have long committed suicide.

From the beginning the marriage was bound to fail; who falls in love with another man barely a year after her wedding. I have cheated (which he doesn't know about - i think) and almost cheated (which he knows about). I did all these because I felt that my husband was mistreating me and if you asked me if he really did I would say I don't know because deep down I know he is a very good man. I know I love him but I can't feel it anymore. I'm always angry with him for no apparent reason. I'm in love with another man (not the same man that I fell in love after i just got married), this is the first boy I ever fell in love with when I was just 14. Please pray for me so that the Lord can break the chains of lust that are binding me. Deep down i know that it is lust that is causing all this and I wish with all my heart that God could help me love and respect my husband like I used to.

Another thing is I want to go back to the way I used to be; a God fearing and praying wife. I don't pray anymore because I've always told myself that I can not sin and kneel before God. I don't go to church anymore, it bothers me but I just can't. The thought of going to church and praying scares me, I would literally get frightened when I was about to kneel and pray so I just stopped. Please pray for me so that the Lord can release me from the bondage of sin and that I can be His servant again.

If you just read this and felt confused that is how confused I am and if you read this and you didn't find it complicated at all, my marriage/life is probably not as complicated as I think. I know prayer can help me get out these situations.
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You are stuck in the pain cycle.
 
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DyingToSelf

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Gracious Father,

I pray again for this sister, I thank You for giving her the strength to come and ask for prayer for her situation, this shows that she still acknowleges her need for You in her life. I pray that today she will have the peace of mind and wisdom to come to you and rest in Your word and find courage to do what she knows is right, to be obedient to the directions that You have already put in her heart. I pray that she will find strength to turn away from her own desires if they are not Your will.

Give her peace today,LORD, and remind her that she is not alone.

In Jesus name,

Amen
 
KBond

KBond

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Lord, I pray You would reach out to Your daughter and deliver her from this bondage. I pray she would feel freedom from this lust. I pray she would turn and love and honor her husband as You would have her do. I pray You would hold her hand and lift her up so she can face you without fear. In Christ's Name, Amen.
 
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Tmb

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The word says come as you are...it says ask for forgiveness...repent...and he will forgive you...I am praying for you...trust in the Lord with all your heart...he wants us broken...then he can mold us...help us...remember to trust him...keep in the word...Satan comes to kill, steal, and destroy,...the confusion...complicated...don't understand...that is Satan...remember to also forgive your self..I will be praying for you..
 
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sveinen

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"can only mention repentance, love. go help somebody... it's not killing the unborn."
 
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