Embarrassing Situation but It's Reality!

Yes, there is no "one way", and there is certainly no guarantee that God is going to just wave His hand, and it all goes away.

Matthew 13:45-46 Again, the kingdom of heaven is like unto a merchant man, seeking goodly pearls:
Who, when he had found one pearl of great price, went and sold all that he had, and bought it.

ransom isnt just giving your life to love to some. this where most believe and so it ok to have both. and where soldier die believe they will gi to heave and they think they love there family but they will go to hell.

Matthew 13:45-46 Again, the kingdom of heaven is like unto a merchant man, seeking goodly pearls:
Who, when he had found one pearl of great price, went and sold all that he had, and bought it.

ransom isnt just giving your life to love to some. this where most believe and so it ok to have both. and where soldier die believe they will gi to heave and they think they love there family but they will go to hell. GOD put us to the test of all our desires include our lives 100% ransom test of our love.
Luke 18:22-26 Now when Jesus heard these things, he said unto him, Yet lackest thou one thing: sell all that thou hast, and distribute unto the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come, follow me.
And when he heard this, he was very sorrowful: for he was very rich.
And when Jesus saw that he was very sorrowful, he said, How hardly shall they that have riches enter into the kingdom of God!
For it is easier for a camel to go through a needle's eye, than for a rich man to enter into the kingdom of God.
And they that heard it said, Who then can be saved?

Matthew 13:45-46 Again, the kingdom of heaven is like unto a merchant man, seeking goodly pearls:
Who, when he had found one pearl of great price, went and sold all that he had, and bought it.

ransom isnt just giving your life to love to some. this where most believe and so it ok to have both. and where soldier die believe they willing to give there life they will go to heaven andd they think they love there family but they wil go to hell. GOD put us to the test of all our desires include our lives 100% ransom test of our love.
Luke 18:22-26 Now when Jesus heard these things, he said unto him, Yet lackest thou one thing: sell all that thou hast, and distribute unto the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come, follow me.
And when he heard this, he was very sorrowful: for he was very rich.
And when Jesus saw that he was very sorrowful, he said, How hardly shall they that have riches enter into the kingdom of God!
For it is easier for a camel to go through a needle's eye, than for a rich man to enter into the kingdom of God.
And they that heard it said, Who then can be saved?

Matthew 5:27-30 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:
But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.
And if thy right hand offend thee, cut it off, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.

Lots of good advice, I'd just add don't make it a confrontation. This kind of battle is won by love and the Holy Spirit's wooing. Prayer is really your most effective lesson.

But let me add this to all that's been said:

CONGRATULATIONS on giving your heart and soul to Christ! That's awesome!!! Hugs sister!
(wish I knew how to make the sparkly lettering).

Just show the Biblical example in love and direction and you'll birth your hubby too!

How it's done

Much as I would like to believe it is merely a porn issue, Roxy has had affairs etc. so it is not just a one way street, and the whole issue is much more complex......

"The Bible said, "as some of you.... WERE."

I´d like to share some ideas on that portion you mentioned: "1Co 10:7 Neither be ye idolaters, as were some of them; as it is written, The people sat down to eat and drink, and rose up to play. " (Here Paul "says" he is holy, by the way)

The context of that letter shows Paul talking about sexual and spiritual Idolatry (1), adultery and fornication (2), and severaql other things that are awkward (because SEX is not the only embarassing thing a Christian could be backsliding:

Paul, there, talks about: Lust & Greed (1Co 10:6), Fornication (1Co 10:8), trials of the Lord (1 Co 10:9), Murmur and Gossiping (1 Co 10:10) (The easy way to "see" other´s faults and not assuming personal responsibility on my personal faults and SINS)

And hope that those thoughts share here may serve to heal or improve people´s standars and, with the same words paul wrote, I´d like you consider those who are suffereing their detrimentals, to avoid those who use the Scripture to diminish (or undermine) NEW believers:

"1Co 10:11 Now these things happened unto them by way of example; and they were written for our admonition, upon whom the ends of the ages are come. "

Peter, roxy repented when she got saved recently and she has been most honest and straightforward about it on here, that gives her much credit imo... Yes there might be more depth to the problem, but there doesnt have to be, she would have probably mentioned if so, he was likely addicted even before they married. And if she has contributed to this anyhow, that thought is her worst punishment right now, she rather needs to be uplifted now when she's turned to God, than reminded of it. None of us has a "turn back time" machine for our mistakes that we all make. And every thing and situation is "complex" but ultimately one chooses to do what they choose to do...

Your answer to give is in my relies from the first and the secound. im a really porn addict problwm them husband i could without no sleep nothing eat and drink all day and keep going. the truth why to understand it is wrong is is the only way to stop from doing that . you have to understand why it wrong before you want to stop. y before

Dont over look you answer right in front of you water down from all these other replies. first to do is for him is to understand this wrong against my wife

All we need to do is trust the Lord will break this, I know my God will deliver me from all bondages at His timing, and I believe that your husband will be delivered and saved by this Thursday.

When are these issues not complex? As SoulWeaver says, we were all guilty in our complex issues. But Roxy has as he said acknowledge her ways and repented. You know, repentance and forgiveness are two sides of a coin. We repent to God and He forgives us. Roxy, have you confessed and repented to your husband for your ways? He needs to forgive you too (and experience you asking), that's the first brick to come out of the wall. And again, don't push him. The Holy Spirit draws, not pushes, and that is what you need to do as well. If you see him porning, don't pounce on him like a ton of bricks. Calmly and sweetly suggest something else he might be doing, or 'honey can you come and unplug the sink?' Draw him away (not nag him away). Then when he does, be flirtascious and coy with him. You have to remember that part of this issue is the flesh - even when it's not being taunted by satan, it's still flesh and opposed to God. And we males are horribly afflicted with it. Where the porn girls have substituted for you, you need to substitute for them. And I'm not sayin' you should whore yourself, but there's a lot of legal fun to be had beyond the missionary position. I mean, who do you think invented all them nerve endings?

Men need sex. That's why Paul said it was better to marry than to burn for it. You can't starve your hubby then be surprised when he raids the refrigerator. And I'm not saying that's what's going on here, Just throwing it out for thought.

This is something I wrote some time back about sex and the flesh and God. Maybe there's something in there that can help you.

http://christianchat.com/blogs/rickyz/4636-sexuality-god.html

I repented my sins, I was told (and read) that once you confess all of your sins and asked to be forgiven, that God loves you and will forgive you. So I have been forgiven, or so I thought????? I am now reading the Bible, talked to God about it, talked to my friends about it, went to church this past Sunday and will continue going, and even have a meeting with my pastor this coming Thursday at 1pm. YESI WAS a horrible person in the past, however as much as I wish I could take it all back, I CANNOT. It took a lot of nerve for me to come out in the open and talk about my affair, so I honestly don't need to be frowned upon or made to feel guilty from someone else, especially when I currently am in an extremely fragile state as it is at this time in life. Let me ask you, PeterJens ... have you EVER sinned? Of course you did! Did you ask God for His forgiveness? I imagine that you did. Did God forgive you PeterJens? OF COURSE because our God is a forgiving God, that much I do know. I am new to the Christian scene, but now feel so belittled by your comments.

Amen Roxy. Don't let a few sour grapes spoil the wine!

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You were no horrible than anybody else. Once having repented of your sins, asked forgiveness and invited the Lord into our heart He remembers your sins no more. In God's eyes you are as pure as the driven snow. God will never frown upon you and that is all that really matters. You were once lost, but now found. God is with you and He will never forsake you.

Yes I am a horrible person for all the crap I've done in the past and feel so unworthy and just a burden to all. I know that I was being uplifted the past week or so, and now to be reminded of my past just put me right back where I started.

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Don't look back on the past. You don't need to be reminded of anything. These 'bad' things may still be in your memory but they are no longer in God's memory. If you were to talk to Him about it He would listen to you but truthfully, He would be scratching His head and trying to figure out what it was that you were talking about. You are not a horrible person. You must no longer allow yourself to think about yourself this way. You are a new creation.