Prayers needed for my 9 year old!

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butterflymom3

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This morning when getting my kids ready for school I found a little note in my 9 year old son's backpack. It was titled "My life" and he wrote about how his life is very hard at school because he doesn't get to do a lot, how he hates it and wants to leave it forever. It really saddened me because he has always loved school and is a smart boy, but he is unorganized. He doesn't turn in his homework and gets benched almost every day. He will often complete his homework then lose it, or just leave it at home. The note was very neatly written, and I took it as a cry for help, but I am not sure what to do next. Please pray that Jesse takes responsibility for his part in all of this, and that he enjoys school again. Thank you all and God bless.

Juanita
 
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MonicaR

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Juanita i am so sorry for what your son is going through. It must hurt you as well to know your son is hurting. I understand completly. And I will keep him in my prayers. You might want to see if something else is going on at school to make him lose his focus. That was the situation with my 5yr old. He too was good in school until suddenly he wasnt, turns out he was being pushed around at school by one little boy for being short! We put a stop to it and things have gotten better for him. But again I will keep him in my prayers.
 
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I am a mother of six children ages 26 to 4yrs old. Each child is so differnt in personality, but this advice might help you, Encourage him EVERYTIME he does something well no matter how small and be genuine about it, he hears enough of the 'bad' things he does all day and thats how he has come to see himself, SO unless its something that needs imediate correction let it go and focus on the AWSOME young man you have, You and your young man are in my prayers, you are blessed beyound measure

your sister, Theresa
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butterflymom3 said:
This morning when getting my kids ready for school I found a little note in my 9 year old son's backpack. It was titled "My life" and he wrote about how his life is very hard at school because he doesn't get to do a lot, how he hates it and wants to leave it forever. It really saddened me because he has always loved school and is a smart boy, but he is unorganized. He doesn't turn in his homework and gets benched almost every day. He will often complete his homework then lose it, or just leave it at home. The note was very neatly written, and I took it as a cry for help, but I am not sure what to do next. Please pray that Jesse takes responsibility for his part in all of this, and that he enjoys school again. Thank you all and God bless.

Juanita
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Dearest Juanita,

You and Jesse are in my prayers...my 12 yr old son has Attention Deficit, and he is constantly feeling down about the fact that he just can't seem to organize his school work! I've met with his teachers and keep in communication through school planners and notes, sometimes phone calls, and this helps...may I suggest making a chart out of cardboard (make it with him) full of fun images he loves and likes, and write on this chart what you think would help him be more organized, for instance, make it like a calendar, Monday Through Friday, and label it with things to do every day in the morning before school, and every afternoon when he gets home and before he goes to bed. I'm thinking of something like: Mornings: Take 10 mins to assure homework is inside folder, assure you have all of the materials needed for class, assure you have your lunch (if he takes one)...then for the afternoon, when he gets home, give him some time to unwind, eat, be with you, etc., and then have him look at his chart, which will say: assure homework is done and put away, assure you do your daily reading, assure you give me any paperwork to be signed from school, etc., etc. Then, for the night portion of the chart, assure you remembered to put away homework, assure your clothes are laid out for tomorrow morning, assure you have given me kisses and hugs, assure you thank God for everything wonderful in your life...
I did this for Nick a few years ago, and he like it. Also, when Jesse fulfills his responsibilities, make sure you have a point system of some type where he accumulates enough credits to get a treat on Fridays...maybe go out for icecream with you, go to the park, read a book together, you know, something he really likes, but that includes you also...
Don't worry, you read the note, and that's a good thing...now you can figure out what to do to help him get through this tough time! :)

I can come up with a chart design, if you'd like, and I can e-mail it to you in the form of an attachment...but the best thing about this chart idea is that you and Jesse get to create it together! :)
 
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yeah, this doeas sound like attention deficit, though it doesn't have to be of course

I had it as a kid. I loved school, yet I always forgot something, lost attention easily in class etc... have a talk with him and see what's on his mind. It could be something is bothering him big time, or it could be some small thing that's just getting in the way.

Will pray
 
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Like, iliveforhim I was going to recomend he be checked for ADD or Adhd. Three of my children have this and the symptoms sound possible.
If you find out it is one of these or another underlying issue feel free to pm me. There are many options other than medications and it helps to have a little feedback from a parent thats been there.
You and your son are in my prayers.
Hugs and God bless, pickles
 
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Lord God, thank you for all the blessed advice that was giving to your daughter, concerning her son.. Lord we thank you for sound wisdom that has been spoken and we ask that you give her the wisdom to work with and for her son, give her the knowledge to know how it should be done, and the understanding that she will know why it need to be done, Lord God anoint her to be will and always able to do what ever is need for him, and the strength to keep with it and the joy Lord that you give to let her know that it is finish and it is good.. for her son for you will equip her to give him and eqip him to receive from his mom as well as all you have and will put in his life to help him. Lord we thank you and prasie you for all you have done for him and all you are yet doing, and all you are about to do on his behalf as well as his mother. Father God we pray to you in the name of Christ Jesus..

I love the things they suggested you can do.. I wish I had someone to teach me those things when my sons was younger, I had the same problem.. but God has been and still is a faithful God,
 
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butterflymom3

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I did ask his teacher last year about ADD and she said she was pretty sure he didn't have it because he was able to concentrate when he really wanted to. He does have severe asthma and is always on medicine to control it. He has been in the ER many times with asthma attacks, and even rushed there by ambulance. So I always wonder if the meds could be affecting his behavior. This last year has actually been his healthiest, thank God. I appreciate all of your feedback!
 
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I think you may be very right about his asthma meds.
I know when my allergies flair and I need my asthma meds I feel like Im about to burst Im so ansy.
It is good that you are aware of this for him. So many times schools will say the child is acting out when there is a simple underlying cause.
He continues to be in my prayers.
God bless, pickles
 
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I am so sorry and will have my whole church congegration praying for your 9 year old
 
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iliveforHim

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cookie39 said:
Lord God, thank you for all the blessed advice that was giving to your daughter, concerning her son.. Lord we thank you for sound wisdom that has been spoken and we ask that you give her the wisdom to work with and for her son, give her the knowledge to know how it should be done, and the understanding that she will know why it need to be done, Lord God anoint her to be will and always able to do what ever is need for him, and the strength to keep with it and the joy Lord that you give to let her know that it is finish and it is good.. for her son for you will equip her to give him and eqip him to receive from his mom as well as all you have and will put in his life to help him. Lord we thank you and prasie you for all you have done for him and all you are yet doing, and all you are about to do on his behalf as well as his mother. Father God we pray to you in the name of Christ Jesus..

I love the things they suggested you can do.. I wish I had someone to teach me those things when my sons was younger, I had the same problem.. but God has been and still is a faithful God,
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Cookie,

I know I've told you before, but I'll say it again, I love your wonderful prayers!!! If ever I need anything, this Chat Room is one of the first places I will go to, and I will specifically be sending you and Pickles my prayer requests...you ladies are awesome!!!

:)

so is everyone else here...I mean that... :)
 
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butterflymom3 said:
I did ask his teacher last year about ADD and she said she was pretty sure he didn't have it because he was able to concentrate when he really wanted to. He does have severe asthma and is always on medicine to control it. He has been in the ER many times with asthma attacks, and even rushed there by ambulance. So I always wonder if the meds could be affecting his behavior. This last year has actually been his healthiest, thank God. I appreciate all of your feedback![/quote

I did want to let you know that children withh add can focus, in fact often the way to tell is the way they focus. My son when focusing on a game or other project would be so intent that you could drop a house on him and he would not notice.
There is a simple questionare that can help you determine if it should be a concern.
Im sure you could find it online or his dr can send it to you.
It is best to talk to a dr as too often teachers will miss a diag. or over diag. this issue.
There can be so many things that may be going on.
But with an open heart to Jesus all will be made good.
Jesus blessed your son by giving him to your care.
You are blessed to be given your son.
God bless, pickles
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butterflymom3 said:
This morning when getting my kids ready for school I found a little note in my 9 year old son's backpack. It was titled "My life" and he wrote about how his life is very hard at school because he doesn't get to do a lot, how he hates it and wants to leave it forever. It really saddened me because he has always loved school and is a smart boy, but he is unorganized. He doesn't turn in his homework and gets benched almost every day. He will often complete his homework then lose it, or just leave it at home. The note was very neatly written, and I took it as a cry for help, but I am not sure what to do next. Please pray that Jesse takes responsibility for his part in all of this, and that he enjoys school again. Thank you all and God bless.

Juanita
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Sounds awful, poor kid. School should be a safe, enjoyable place, the best place next to home.
Father in the name of Jesus please help out in this situation and protect our children and make school enjoyable, safe and a sanctary. Whatever is bothering this boy make it clear, bring it into the light and let it be worked through and solved in you. Amen.
 
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All of your prayers are greatly appreciated. We are so blessed to have this site available to us to do God's work!
 
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I am praying for Jesse, and you. I came from a family of really high expectations, and the one thing I always missed and still do is gratification. Thank yous. You'd be amazed at what a little "thank you" or "I love you" will do to a childs day. I'm not saying you don't love your children, just try to vocalize it in a genuine way, kids can tell if it's genuine or not, lol. I'll deffinatly be prayng though. God Bless you and your family.
 
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will remember you in our prayers.
 
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Juanita, Though your son is 9 and should be showing "some" responsibility for homework, it might work to his advantage if you reminded him to do his homework and then ask if it's in his backpack. After a few reminders, tell him that you want him to show you his homework each night (so you can see how well he's doing) and then you want him to remember to put it in his backpack. Praise him, reward him, do whatever it takes to make him fel good about himself and his schoolwork. It works. Got bless you both.
 
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