What is Gods Plan For Me?

On October3 2008, I married my best friend he was simply the world to me we were truly soul mates. We were every blessed to have a wonderful daughter and everything perfect. After a little family trip we noticed my husband wasn't feeling well he had a heart transplant when he was only 20 years old so we figured it could be some complications with that. After only a few days in the hospital my daughter and I watched as my husband flat lined on there table. Out of know where God decided his journey was over. He was gone. I was left no will no answers on why no income, just my 18 month old daughter and I.
After living moment by moment to regain strength and hope I started working, trying to make a life for our little girl, I just did day by day and minutes at a time. Keeping my head held high through the days and falling apart at home after she was tucked in bed. After about a year life was into the new normal as you could call it. During my best friends wedding I walked with her step brother down the isle and we began a great friendship. His sister had died in a car wreck and his dad instantly passed away so we were able to heal with each other. After a year and a half about of dating one another my social security ran out so I had to move and with no luck on trying to find a house we ended up moving in with each other. Surprising to me that has gone really well we rarely argue and never fight. The problem is I feel very much its a huge sin to be living all 3 under one roof where were not married. Every time I bring it up he gets very upset and doesn't understand why it has to happen right now. He thinks Im searching to get back what was taken from me which I do agree. But on the other hand I don't want to waste my time. I don't know why god would have brought him into my life if he didn't want us together. I have prayed and prayed but feel like Im missing something.
Does he have a plan for us? He Took the man I was going to be with forever away and now gave me another one who im living with in sin? Please help Im so torn on what to do Ive been through so much and just want to be happy again.

Proverbs 3:5-6

My sister....I'm so sorry for your struggles......when I lost my young son......I could hardly imagine ever moving on......my life was crushed ......never to be the same......I was searching daily for answers to how to find joy onceagain......I had a young daughter who needed me......she deserved a happy childhood......one full of giggles andmagic moments..,.....and I was all she had to depend on......so I had to become strong...reliant.... at peace...I think maybe you jumped the gun......there is a process to grieving and I don't think you or this man have completed...you are substituting one relationship for another......to base a relationship on rebound only brings pain......Get with God.......find a place you can live in peace......finish your grieving....although at times its so painful.....coming through it brings relief......start your own life and when God says your ready for a new marriage.....then you will have a marriage that will succeed.....try to find you.....and then you can find a partner.....peace....jo

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Firstly, I am so sorry for what you and your daughter have gone through.

I wouldn't necessarily say that God put him in your life. You have likely met lots of people in the past six years or so... did God put each one of them in your life? If so, then how do you know you should date this one? I'm just saying, please don't get hung up on God bringing this man to you, or gloss over other options that you ought to be looking into. I do think God guides us but we are able to make our own decisions, either for or against what God desires for us. So just because you two are dating, doesn't necessarily mean that God's hand is or was in it.

I'm not going to tell you what to do here, but I will absolutely pray that you know exactly what you should do. I wish you and your daughter the best.

something really really hard for me to understand and do, everything is just so boring now, I have no idea what to even do, I'm really really tired of thinking.

I lost my late wife early last year. She was in declining health but still died suddenly from a pulmonary embolism. I was lonely and devastated until I met a wonderful woman who is now my wife. You can never get back what you are missing but God can provide something new and wonderful. Why not just say a prayer and then elope?

Welcome to CC.

Shortstuff, God is Good and we can trust and follow. He brings us out of the pit of darkness, He changes seasons and can change your present situation . Please keep your faith upon the Lord and you will never be ashamed.
Lets pray. Heavenly father we come before and pray for shortstuff, she had hone through tough times, Lord we pray you be with her and strengthen her , bless her daughter and also the friend who is now with her as a partner. Lord you bless them with your peace and mercy. God come in their lives and you be glorified. Let the power of darkness be gone from them. LORD TURN THEIR SORROWS INTO JOY. Yes Lord we pray for her and this prayer request, bless them . In Jesus graciou name, Amen!

Thank You all for your kind words and inspiration. Please pray I truly can find giddiness and peace. I know god has a plan, I know he is with me, I know his future for me is more then I could every imagine for myself and my child. I really do love both of these men that have come into my life more then words can describe but only time will tell if I did rush into the second relationship or if god is even part of it.