Guidance

I am preparing to have a heart to heart talk with my husband about his porn addiction. And I want to do so in a gentle manner, but without the Lords help my emotions will come into play, please pray for me. Also pray for my husband to overcome this and accept help from some men of my church, and to be willing to admit to them. And for me to keep trusting The Lord with my life because I feel like this problem has faltered my faith I'm beginning to become careless. Thank you and God bless you all

24 and we are newly weds as of may 2nd, I've known of his addiction since before I started dating him three years ago and love him no less than I would if he didn't do it. But I really want him to overcome this because I know he wants to quit but its got him trapped, and it ruins the Intimacy between me and him and also between him and God. Also I'm pregnant with his son and want him to set a good example for our boy.

if you tell him (or ask him) not to do something, anything, it will facilitate him (unwittingly) to try to do it more, and maybe "hide" it when he does.

i'm sorry this isn't much help in knowing what to do. everything you try to do, will make it worse,
(maybe "less is more" - in Jesus Grace)..... (the less you do(related to changing him), the more Jesus will do, and HE is WILLING).


meanwhile, be learning from Jesus His Plan and His Purpose,
as
in the books
"total woman" and "total joy" by marabel something.... (online amazon etc)....

to find and have and receive and be filled with JOY, PEACE, and RIGHTEOUSNESS in JESUS with ETERNAL LIFE,

as IT IS WRITTEN IN HIS WORD. (HIS WAY).

I am not going to tell him to stop anything, I am going to suggest that if he is ready he get help from some elder who has been through the same type of thing and overcame it. If I continue to do nothing and keep silent nothing will get better and perhaps it could get worse, marriage needs communication and if I were to stay silent that would be building a wall between us, if we aren't able to talk through this imagine if something worse happens! I am not going to convict him I only want him to know that I am here with him not against him, I'm here to be his helper to support and honor him and he already knows that I know he already tries to hide it from me and for a long time I told him and myself that if he is going to do it I do not want to know, but I keep accidentally coming across something and I believe that sometimes God forces it to be found out. Marriage shouldn't be built on only one tall pillar I shouldn't be scared to move an inch. I trust in the Lord to deal with this but marriage is a three cord strand.

re only : "If I continue to do nothing and keep silent nothing will get better and perhaps it could get worse"

in the 2 books by marabel something ('total woman' and 'total joy')

she refers to Scripture entirely for motive, and actions, and hopes, all in JESUS and what GOD SAYS>

one of those PROMISES (or assurances, helps, hope?)
is
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1 Peter 3:1-2English Standard Version (ESV)


Wives and Husbands

3 Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, [SUP]2 [/SUP]when they see your respectful and pure conduct.

Cross references:

1. 1 Peter 3:1 : See Gen. 3:16
2. 1 Peter 3:1 : 1 Cor. 7:16
3. 1 Peter 3:1 : Matt. 18:15; 1 Cor. 9:19-22
4. 1 Peter 3:2 : Titus 2:5

English Standard Version (ESV) The Holy Bible, English Standard Version Copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers.







this is NOT a guarantee of results - as Jesus told HIS disciples, "DO what your FATHER in heaven tells you do do" , it is not for you(disciples) to know if a few or many or any will be saved...


but when we as his disciples DO what he says, that is the BEST WE CAN DO regarding anyone or any thing. after all GOD KNOWS PERFECTLY and TOTALLY BEST.

and GOD always HONORS HIS WORD, even MORE THAN HE HONORS HIS OWN NAME.

Thank you for your advise I see what you are saying now. But my husband is already a man of God he just needs to surrender his life fully to the Lord so I guess the better prayer request would be " Pray for my husband to give his life fully to God through daily bible study prayer and turning to him in everything. I just recently ( a few weeks ago) fully surrendered to God after a year of being saved but not obeying. So please pray for him in whatever way you see would help this situation and pray for me to do the right thing for I'm having a hard time deciding thank you and God bless <3

Thank you so much! Your advise was very helpful to me, especially when on my other threads I feel as if I'm being attacked rather than advised they judged my choice to continue on with our marriage and that now I am asking for advise when I knew what I was in for, i guess they don't understand that I love him unconditionally and only want to help him if and when he is ready. God bless you! And I thank God for the wisdom in your words

Lord give your knowledge, wisdom and strength, and victory, bless Godgoeson and her husband, in Jesus precious name, Amen!

I just prayed.

I had this problem and it really hurt me we are totally back on track now the secret is dont make it into a big deal it is very common spice things up between the two of you so that when he is away from you hes not thinking about porn hes thinking about you It really is that simple if you make him feel ashamed he will go further away from you and more into his porn trust me xxxxx

I too am recently married and go threw the same thing. When it comes to the subject we are polar opposites but men our age are very sexualy active. From my point of view I crave it from my wife. I get that it can be bad but its a way of release. I would much rather it from my wife. However she does not see it the same way. I've been on both sides of the fence and it is a struggle. God does helpand prayer can too but untill he gets his fill from you or finds a way in God to fill that you won't break his habits. Don't attack him because it will drive a wedge but try spicing things up in the bedroom and honest flirting but also keep him busy. Church function and contact busy work helps the mind to not wonder.