Prayers for an alcoholic with abuse issues

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inloveandhopless

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Please pray for my husband. We are separated and starting to talk to lawyers and split things up for a divorce. He is an alcoholic with other addiction problems. He has severe anger problems and problems forgiving. I have and do love him very much. More than anyone I have been in love with. I would like to reconcile our marriage or even speak with him. He hates me. Please pray for his issues and my marriage
 
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iveseenworse

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that's painful. yes, i'll talk to our father. i will pray for the two of you.
 
levi85

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Lord, we pray for inloveandhopless, let her husband return, God you can change him, please come in his life, and bring changes in his life and family, Lord you are their God help them, and protect them from the flaming arrows of the enemy , yes Lord Jesus reconcile these souls, to lead a worthy life for you, Bless them Lord, in Jesus name, Amen!
 
Jesus4ever

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May the Lord bless your husband and also your marriage, in order to save it.

In Jesus name, amen!
 
Violet24

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Jesus is our redeemer! There is no problem too big that He will not restore, but all He ask is that we give Him our hearts & lives completely. Trust in your Heavenly Father, to heal your life, restore & redeem all the brokenness. He's waiting for you to trust Him....
 
Wornwarrior

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Im so sorry inloveandhopeless. I am going through a separation from a man with anger issues too right now too so I can understand to an extent how much pain you are feeling. Its not easy when you love someone that doesn't return it. I wonder if that is how Jesus feels, when so many reject His love? God will bless you for your desire to reconcile and save your marriage. But its not always possible when one person doesn't want the same thing. I pray this is not the case for you, and that God will break the chains that have your husband ensnared, and release him into the Love of Christ. Seek the Living Well for strength daily and He is so faithful! I will be praying for you and your husband. *hugs* you are not alone in this.
 
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butterfly712

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Lord,Jesus please show inloveandhopeless's husband the way that he is going in life is wrong,and please show him the right path to go,in Jesus name,Amen.
 
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iveseenworse

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hi inlove, have you sought counseling? i started writing down request's cause i have time/disabled and thought i should be more sincere and followup. you've made several entries about hubby. forgive me i'm no analyst, but you seem too accommodating, a giver,he seems like a taker.
 
gypsygirl

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i'm so sorry to hear of your problems, inlove, and pray that you would find some peace and comfort during this time.

having grown up with a couple alcoholic stepdads, one with severe rage problems, i have a pretty good idea of what you've been going through and how entirely painful it is to love someone who is a jekyl and hyde, so loving one day, and so hurtful the next.

i also pray that you can find some healing and help to put your marriage back together. i pray that God can soften your hubsand's heart and that you two could start again on new, more stable ground. i have known of many families who have gone through this kind of situation, and i know with help and determination, it's definitely possible.

prayers for your hurting heart and your entire family. *hugs*
 
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inloveandhopless

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He is a taker and I am a giver. And in a healthy relationship it would be an ok mix. Ours is anything but healthy. I am currently with out insurance and waiting on a waiting list for counseling. I am in a domestic violence group however. I just continue to pray for him and his addictions. I don't know what else to do for him. We are separated and I love him deeply but know I can not live the way we have and stay alive. I was suicidal. He was abusive something worse will happen than what has. I was the one who snapped this time but next time it might be my life or his. I have come to god and am learning who I was before the abuse and who I want to be now. I still want to be with him but I want him healthy. So I pray each day for him and ask you to as well. He needs it. He has demons attached to him that he cant seem to battle away
 
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Gr8grace

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inloveandhopless said:
He is a taker and I am a giver. And in a healthy relationship it would be an ok mix. Ours is anything but healthy. I am currently with out insurance and waiting on a waiting list for counseling. I am in a domestic violence group however. I just continue to pray for him and his addictions. I don't know what else to do for him. We are separated and I love him deeply but know I can not live the way we have and stay alive. I was suicidal. He was abusive something worse will happen than what has. I was the one who snapped this time but next time it might be my life or his. I have come to god and am learning who I was before the abuse and who I want to be now. I still want to be with him but I want him healthy. So I pray each day for him and ask you to as well. He needs it. He has demons attached to him that he cant seem to battle away
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You do know that we do not need details of your husband for us to pray for him right? We should not know of his details unless he is here and wants to and can give his side of the story.

I will get pounded for this, but it is from experience. I,I,I,I,I,I was always involved in my problems and played a role in them. I,I,I,I,I,I was never completely innocent in my personal problems.

If you snapped and it might be His life taken...........LEAVE.

He is your husband and you have decided to stay. Ask for prayer for yourself and figure out why you would want stay with someone that you have described as a madman.
 
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Dear Father,

Please help this daughter of yours and her husband to relinquish their broken marriage. Bring him to an understanding of the cross and to repentance that he might serve you and your daughter in love and peace. Allow your daughter to grow in You as she waits upon you to bring her husband home; first to her here on earth and finally to a place in heaven. Amen
 
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Practice-English

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Hi to you!
I'll share that
I don't have enough faith
to pray to our God.
I read your situation
and I agree that it's really
not evident and simple.
So what can I do is
to post you a encouragement
verse that I Think it will help you
and your husband.
Remember that life is complicated.
We're all Sinful and have Bad Desires.
Only Jesus is perfect!!!!


1 Corinthians 13
verse 4-5

Love is kind and patient,
never jealous, boastful,
proud, or rude.
Love isn't selfish
or quick tempered.
It doesn't keep a record
of wrongs that others do.

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gypsygirl

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Gr8grace said:
You do know that we do not need details of your husband for us to pray for him right? We should not know of his details unless he is here and wants to and can give his side of the story.

I will get pounded for this, but it is from experience. I,I,I,I,I,I was always involved in my problems and played a role in them. I,I,I,I,I,I was never completely innocent in my personal problems.

If you snapped and it might be His life taken...........LEAVE.

He is your husband and you have decided to stay. Ask for prayer for yourself and figure out why you would want stay with someone that you have described as a madman.
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i think this is the least helpful way to engage someone who is clearly in pain and dealing with suffering during this time when her marriage is in tatters.

i don't think she was bashing her husband any more than she was negating her role in these matters.

i had posted about my own experiences with alcoholism in the family, and i think that was probably why she shared more--because i engaged her. further, what she shared was relevant to her prayer request.

this forum is a place for people who are hurting, frightened (among others) and in a state of suffering who are asking their brothers and sisters for prayer, not skepticism and sharp criticism.

the fact that you said you'd get "pounded" for this tells me you already knew it was a poor idea respond to/treat this sister with such harsh words.
 
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inloveandhopless

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One we are not together we are split up. And two I take responsibility for my share of all of this. It takes two. But I am also the only one doing that and getting help
 
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inloveandhopless

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Gr8grace said:
You do know that we do not need details of your husband for us to pray for him right? We should not know of his details unless he is here and wants to and can give his side of the story.

I will get pounded for this, but it is from experience. I,I,I,I,I,I was always involved in my problems and played a role in them. I,I,I,I,I,I was never completely innocent in my personal problems.

If you snapped and it might be His life taken...........LEAVE.

He is your husband and you have decided to stay. Ask for prayer for yourself and figure out why you would want stay with someone that you have described as a madman.
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if you notice I say we are seperated, it could be my life or his. We have anything but a healthy relationship. I'm getting help and I worry about his health. Never once did I say I was innocent I admitted I snapped. Never once did I give the details of the complete situation. I asked for prayers for him and I both and I have been praying for myske as well as him. I agree the fact that you said you would get pounded in this leads one to believe that you knew I your response was not the one to make. Before you respond you should re read the details. You are not required to pray for me or my situation if you do not want to. You are not required to agree with me or my husband. You are also not competent to be my or his judge only God is and that is who we will face with our sins and mistakes. I know I made many mistakes and am praying each and every day regarding those
 
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