Betrayal and Lies

In the beginning of our relationship I found out my boyfriend watched some really disturbing types of porn. I'm against porn in a relationship and asked him to stop. He promised me he would. 9 months later he confessed to me that he'd been watching it again for a few months, and lying to me about it. I was devastated. He promised me again that he would stop. Now 6 months later, I recently found out that he'd watched it again. When I asked him about it he denied it and said he hasn't been watching it and hasn't watched it since he last promised me. I need prayers for him to stop watching porn and stop lying to me. I am so hurt. Every day I am scared, anxious, and worried that he's gonna do it again and just continue betraying his promise to me and lying to me. I don't want to leave him, but I also don't want to be lied to my whole life. Besides this one thing, he's an incredible guy! He is loving, sweet, caring, romantic, supportive, giving, compassionate, funny, and more..

He has an addiction, and is too embarrassed to say anything to you about it. Tell him lovingly but firmly he has a problem, and he needs to go to treatment for it.. All the while you'll stand by him as he goes.. But he needs to get help..

He absolutely has an addiction. A poll conducted by one of the world's most visited Christian website indicates a surprising number of Christians are addicted to pornography.

"The poll results indicate that 50% of all Christian men and 20% of all Christian women are addicted to pornography.

The group defines "addicted" as applied to pornography as use on an ongoing basis.

"We are seeing an escalation to the problem in both men and women who regularly attend church," said Bill Cooper, President of ChristiaNet.com.

"No one is immunized against the vice-grip clutches of sexual addictive behaviors," reads a release issued by the site. "The people who struggle with the repeated pursuit of sexual gratification include church members, deacons, staff, and yes, even clergy."

How many Christians (especially) men can honestly say, "whenever I am tempted to lust, I NEVER give in." I have 100% conquered that sin. No problem?

If David, who was “a man after God’s own heart,” and many other strong men and women of faith yielded to sexual temptation, it could happen to any of us. Pornography may be the new addiction of this new century. Researchers are finding that when people indulge in porn, they release powerful chemicals in their brain and body. Mark Kastleman, author of The Drug of the New Millennium, said, "There are a growing number of therapists and psychologists who are saying that this is as addictive as cocaine," or alcohol, or even heroin. He explained that, when people view porn, "It causes the brain to release what we call endogenous drugs or endogenous chemicals. 'Endogenous' meaning 'produced from within.' So where cocaine or alcohol seek to mimic the brain's natural chemicals, pornography releases the real deal. And so we have things like adrenaline, epinephrine, ACTH."

I'll add on to that, and say that some people use it as a way of coping in substitute of something like drugs or alcohol. Thinking "I'm not hurting anyone or my body since I'm not drinking or drugging.. This is just a video.." It slowly messes your mind, overtime.

Lord we pray for Amanda919's husband please make him free from this porn addiction, and let your be worshipped in his heart. bless this husband and wife, and let all the filthy things be gone. yes Lord bless them both and you be glorified in their lives, in Jesus precious name, Amen!