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Teenadreams

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I feel forgotten and unloved, I feel like I haven't been forgiven or that I will not be welcomed into heaven. I feel confused and uncertain. I am terribly scared of the unknown and
my uncertainty is causing me to fall into a depression which will have an impact on my family. I need help, I need prayer.

I grew up attending Catholic school but never paid much attention and although I was baptized my parents never read me his words or took me to church. I had basic knowledge of Jesus and of God so I guess it is fair to say I made my own beliefes. I'd pray before bed but I can't say I found a lot of comfort. As life went on I became rebellious, did what I wanted, smoked and drank. I did some pretty bad things I still regret. As I became older I believed that as long as you do well and treat people with respect Jesus will love you and you will one day join him in heaven.

I still believe in being a good person and that Jesus is the way to internal happiness but I can't live comfortably. I pray every night and try to go to church every week, I confess my sins and ask for strength but I still feel lost and not saved. It's causing me great anxiety. I tried to look up testimonies to help me find reassurance but I came across testimonies of people going to hell. I feel like everyone has a different opinion and I'm lost. I feel exhausted. Even the bible scares me because I don't know how to interpret it. So many people have talked about feeling Jesus or being saved, they have mentioned Jesus visiting them but then why do I feel forgotten and alone. Am I not worthy? Am I not saved?
 
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I feel forgotten and unloved, I feel like I haven't been forgiven or that I will not be welcomed into heaven. I feel confused and uncertain. I am terribly scared of the unknown and
my uncertainty is causing me to fall into a depression which will have an impact on my family. I need help, I need prayer.

I grew up attending Catholic school but never paid much attention and although I was baptized my parents never read me his words or took me to church. I had basic knowledge of Jesus and of God so I guess it is fair to say I made my own beliefes. I'd pray before bed but I can't say I found a lot of comfort. As life went on I became rebellious, did what I wanted, smoked and drank. I did some pretty bad things I still regret. As I became older I believed that as long as you do well and treat people with respect Jesus will love you and you will one day join him in heaven.

I still believe in being a good person and that Jesus is the way to internal happiness but I can't live comfortably. I pray every night and try to go to church every week, I confess my sins and ask for strength but I still feel lost and not saved. It's causing me great anxiety. I tried to look up testimonies to help me find reassurance but I came across testimonies of people going to hell. I feel like everyone has a different opinion and I'm lost. I feel exhausted. Even the bible scares me because I don't know how to interpret it. So many people have talked about feeling Jesus or being saved, they have mentioned Jesus visiting them but then why do I feel forgotten and alone. Am I not worthy? Am I not saved?
:smoke: well you really sounds like him :whistle:

:rofl: thou only a few men could be something like him . ...

:happy: please
:read:
Genesis: 27. 45. Until thy brother's anger turn away from thee, and he forget that which thou hast done to him: then I will send, and fetch thee from thence: why should I be deprived also of you both in one day?
~:» thoug it is written about rebecca . ...
it could be somehow be a guidance unto your searching
for the truth my sister . ... do not let the evil things take your emotions
you will find someone to bring you to those people
who could enlighten you and most of all do not forget your family first
and your true friends who will always there to support you
physicaly and spiritualy . ...

God bless us all always


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Ugly

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Sounds to me like you've found religion, but not God.
None of us are worthy. The bible says 'there is no one righteous, not even one'.
We don't get to heaven by being a good person. The bible says our good works are as filthy rags.
Truth is not subjective. You can't say you follow God and make up your own rules as to what that means. God left us His word as a guide on how to follow Him and live righteously.
Perhaps it's time to set down your ideas and find out Gods truth.

I don't know if you've ever hit a point in your life where you were truly saved. But I do know that living the Christian walk isn't about how we feel. That's what faith is all about. Believing in something, even when you can't see or feel it.
Persoanlly, and this is only my opinion, I may be wrong, it sounds like God is calling you but you're not answering. You want to, but something is holding you back.

If you want to know you are saved then it's as simple as acknowledging you are a sinner. Realizing your good works can't save you. Admitting that only through Christ's crucifixion can you be saved. Knowing that Jesus is the Only way to God. No saints. No Mary. No one but Jesus. And that living a life as He guides is the way you want to live.
If you believe this then confess it to God and cry out to Him. And if you are sincere He Will save you. Even if you don't feel like it, He still will.
If you want God it's time to start following His truth and living in His mercy and grace. Hope this helps.
 

Violet24

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Teenadreams... The Lord Loves you!!! & there is no escaping that Truth period! Jesus died on the cross for you, that you may have Life & have it more abundantly! The enemy comes to steal, kill & destroy, BUT! Jesus comes that You may have life. You are a child of the Most High God. Allow your spirit to be immersed in the Word & abide in Jesus daily. Take authority in Jesus name over your thought life & stand firm in the Truth of who you are in Christ Jesus. You have authority over the enemy! as you begin to claim the promises of God, you will begin to feel stronger in your spirit. You do not need to walk in defeat, but enjoy a life of Victory. Want to encourage your to read & meditate on this passage of scripture...

Psalms 139
O Lord, You have searched me and known me..
[SUP]2 [/SUP]You know my sitting down and my rising up;
You understand my thought afar off.
[SUP]3 [/SUP]You comprehend my path and my lying down,
And are acquainted with all my ways.
[SUP]4 [/SUP]For there is not a word on my tongue,
But behold, O Lord, You know it altogether.
[SUP]5 [/SUP]You have hedged me behind and before,
And laid Your hand upon me.
[SUP]6 [/SUP]Such knowledge is too wonderful for me;
It is high, I cannot attain it.


[SUP]7 [/SUP]Where can I go from Your Spirit?
Or where can I flee from Your presence?
[SUP]8 [/SUP]If I ascend into heaven, You are there;
If I make my bed in hell, behold, You are there.
[SUP]9 [/SUP]If I take the wings of the morning,
And dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea,
[SUP]10 [/SUP]Even there Your hand shall lead me,
And Your right hand shall hold me.
[SUP]11 [/SUP]If I say, “Surely the darkness shall fall[SUP][a][/SUP] on me,”
Even the night shall be light about me;
[SUP]12 [/SUP]Indeed, the darkness shall not hide from You,
But the night shines as the day;
The darkness and the light are both alike to You.


[SUP]13 [/SUP]For You formed my inward parts;
You covered me in my mother’s womb.
[SUP]14 [/SUP]I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;[SUP][b][/SUP]
Marvelous are Your works,
And that my soul knows very well.
[SUP]15 [/SUP]My frame was not hidden from You,
When I was made in secret,
And skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.
[SUP]16 [/SUP]Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed.
And in Your book they all were written,
The days fashioned for me,
When as yet there were none of them.


[SUP]17 [/SUP]How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God!
How great is the sum of them!
[SUP]18 [/SUP]If I should count them, they would be more in number than the sand;
When I awake, I am still with You.


[SUP]19 [/SUP]Oh, that You would slay the wicked, O God!
Depart from me, therefore, you bloodthirsty men.
[SUP]20 [/SUP]For they speak against You wickedly;
Your enemies take Your name in vain.[SUP][c][/SUP]
[SUP]21 [/SUP]Do I not hate them, O Lord, who hate You?
And do I not loathe those who rise up against You?
[SUP]22 [/SUP]I hate them with perfect hatred;
I count them my enemies.


[SUP]23 [/SUP]Search me, O God, and know my heart;
Try me, and know my anxieties;
[SUP]24 [/SUP]And see if there is any wicked way in me,
And lead me in the way everlasting.
 
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GodsGraceOnMe

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"If any man lacks wisdom let him ask it of God", Jesus Loves you.
 

RickyZ

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Ugly's first sentence mirrored my thoughts... you need to accept Jesus, not Christianity. Only Jesus saves. Christianity shows you how to live that salvation, but it alone does not bring it.

Also understand that accepting Jesus makes you an enemy of the world. As one saved you should have inner peace in your salvation, but in the world you will have tribulation. To wit:

James 4:4
Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? Whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.

1 John 2:15
Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.

John 15:19
If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you.

John 12:25
Anyone who loves their life will lose it, while anyone who hates their life in this world will keep it for eternal life.

2 Corinthians 10
That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

That would be the litmus test - have you confessed Christ as having died for your sins and risen for your salvation, and do you feel at home with the world. If you can answer yes to the first and no to the second, you're on the right track!
 
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Miri

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Hi teenadreams,

In some ways being born again (or being born anew in God) is the hardest
thing to explain to a person as it takes faith which is unseen. It can't be
bought it's not like going into a shop it's not like sitting a test and hoping
for a pass mark etc. But in other ways it is so simple that many people
miss it.

Let me see if I can explain. As human beings we are brought up in a
performance based world. If we do the right thing people nod and say
goods things about us, if we pass all those exams, people think we are
intelligent. If we get good jobs and pay the bills people think we are
good providers etc.

Equally if we mess up or make wrong decisions then people don't like that
and it lowers their opinion of us. So all of our lives we strive to do the right
thing and strive to make people like us, hoping that we are good enough to
please everyone around us, all the time getting disillusioned and disappointed when
we don't meet up to all those expectations.

For some people because they do not know any different, their relationship
with a God is exactly the same. As a young person I did wonder at times
if God was like this wise old man in the sky who smiled when I got it right
but was waiting to zap me if I got it wrong. :)

But God is not like that, he does not think like we do. The bible says his
thoughts and ways are higher than ours. Nothing you have done or can ever
do will shock or surprise God. He knows all about you, your struggles,
the way you try to do the right thing, the way you mess up, the deep deep
thoughts which only you know, your darkest secrets. Your talents, the things
that make you happy. There is nothing hidden from him about you.

Yet he is calling you by name to enter into a relationship with him. God knows
you by your name even if we don't. :) Here is another thing a belief in the
existence of God is not enough to. For example I could say I know the queen
of England and the Royal family, I can identify them, I can tell you where they
live, I know the queen likes corgis, etc. But that does not mean I really know them.
I don't , I am just going off second hand knowledge. Many people are like that
with God they have second hand knowledge of him, they hear other people
talk about God and decide to believe in him based on what others say.

But you can enter into an intimate knowledge with God though Jesus
Christ. He came into this world putting aside his glory in the form of a
tiny vulnerable baby. He grow up and knows what it is like to be a human
being with all the pressures of life, he experienced pain sorrow and joy.
He know what it was like to be the odd one out, to be rejected etc.
He did this out of love and that love led him to the cross. He did all that
just for you and now he wants to know you personally. The question is
do you want to know him personally. He rose again to show his victory
over death and in doing so, he paid the price for us all.

Here is the simple bit and this is why so many people miss it. We can't buy or
earn salvation, there is nothing we can do to be good enough, there is no test
to pass. All you have to do is want this - yes that's all. It's not a decision to
take lightly so don't do the following just because others want you to, this is
a big decision you have to make for yourself and be serious about it.
Even as you read this can you feel Jesus speaking to you and calling to you?

If you are truly serious about wanting to be born again. Then find a
quite place and time where there are no interruptions. Think about
what you want to do, if you have a bible look up a few verses, I have set
some out below for you. Read them, think about what they mean to you.
Invite the Holy Spirit to guide your thoughts. Then invite Jesus to be
Lord and Saviour of your life.

Ackowledge what Jesus has done for you and believe it in your heart.
Confess that there is nothing you can do to save yourself and call to
Jesus to ask him to walk with you and be part of your life - and believe that
your prayer has been answered.

Ps thank you for your message I have sent you a friend request.
Let us all know if you decide to take that leap of faith. :) Don't do it
though just to please us, do this for yourself.


Romans 10:9-11 NKJV
[9] that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your
heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. [10] For
with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth
confession is made unto salvation. [11] For the Scripture says, "Whoever
believes on Him will not be put to shame."





Isaiah 55:6-9 AMP
[6] Seek, inquire for, and require the Lord while He may be found claiming
Him by necessity and by right; call upon Him while He is near. [7] Let the
wicked forsake his way and the unrighteous man his thoughts; and let him
return to the Lord, and He will have love, pity, and mercy for him, and to
our God, for He will multiply to him His abundant pardon. [8] For My
thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways My ways, says
the Lord. [9] For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are
My ways higher than your ways and My thoughts than your thoughts.
 
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Miri

Guest
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Oh and if you did pray "that prayer" don't forget to thank God.
You are now a new creation. There was a spirit shaped hole inside
of you, now it's filled by the Holy Spirit. That might seem a strange
thing to say but it will make more sense as you start your new
journey of discovery. It's something you can't describe to another
person, you have to experience that for yourself.


2 Corinthians 5:17 AMP
[17] Therefore if any person is ingrafted in Christ (the Messiah) he
is a new creation (a new creature altogether); the old previous moral
and spiritual condition has passed away. Behold, the fresh and new
has come!


2 Corinthians 1:21-22 AMP
[21] But it is God Who confirms and makes us steadfast and establishes
us in joint fellowship with you in Christ, and has consecrated and anointed
us enduing us with the gifts of the Holy Spirit; [22] He has also
appropriated and acknowledged us as His by putting His seal upon us
and giving us His Holy Spirit in our hearts as the security deposit and
guarantee of the fulfillment of His promise.




2 Corinthians 1:20-22 NKJV
[20] For all the promises of God in Him are Yes, and in Him Amen, to the
glory of God through us. [21] Now He who establishes us with you in Christ
and has anointed us is God, [22] who also has sealed us and given us the
Spirit in our hearts as a guarantee.
 
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iveseenworse

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i pray for support, saints to encourage, to talk with you. i pray connection with a good church and wise words. relief from your pain.
 
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wwjd_kilden

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As others have said, it basically goes a bit like this:

Know and admit you are a sinner (looks like you've already done this)
Ask Jesus/God to forgive you (and you've done this too)
Ask Jesus to guide you in your life and grow closer to Him.

Matt 9.2
Some men brought to him a paralyzed man, lying on a mat. When Jesus saw their faith, he said to the man, "Take heart, son; your sins are forgiven.

Mark 2:
3Some men came, bringing to him a paralyzed man, carried by four of them. 4Since they could not get him to Jesus because of the crowd, they made an opening in the roof above Jesus by digging through it and then lowered the mat the man was lying on. 5When Jesus saw their faith, he said to the paralyzed man, “Son, your sins are forgiven.”

.........

Luke 7.47 (After the woman has washed Jesus' feet)

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“For this reason I say to you, her sins, which are many, have been forgiven, for she loved much; but he who is forgiven little, loves little.” 48Then He said to her, “Your sins have been forgiven.” 49Those who were reclining at the table with Him began to say to themselves, “Who is this man who even forgives sins?” 50And He said to the woman, “Your faith has saved you; go in peace.”


Note that, although we are saved by faith, not deeds, the bible often shows faith as action:
- The men broke the roof apart to get their friend to Jesus (!)
- The woman came and wept at Jesus feet, washing them
 

Ahwatukee

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I feel forgotten and unloved, I feel like I haven't been forgiven or that I will not be welcomed into heaven. I feel confused and uncertain. I am terribly scared of the unknown and
my uncertainty is causing me to fall into a depression which will have an impact on my family. I need help, I need prayer.

I grew up attending Catholic school but never paid much attention and although I was baptized my parents never read me his words or took me to church. I had basic knowledge of Jesus and of God so I guess it is fair to say I made my own beliefes. I'd pray before bed but I can't say I found a lot of comfort. As life went on I became rebellious, did what I wanted, smoked and drank. I did some pretty bad things I still regret. As I became older I believed that as long as you do well and treat people with respect Jesus will love you and you will one day join him in heaven.

I still believe in being a good person and that Jesus is the way to internal happiness but I can't live comfortably. I pray every night and try to go to church every week, I confess my sins and ask for strength but I still feel lost and not saved. It's causing me great anxiety. I tried to look up testimonies to help me find reassurance but I came across testimonies of people going to hell. I feel like everyone has a different opinion and I'm lost. I feel exhausted. Even the bible scares me because I don't know how to interpret it. So many people have talked about feeling Jesus or being saved, they have mentioned Jesus visiting them but then why do I feel forgotten and alone. Am I not worthy? Am I not saved?
Hello again Teenadreams,

Sister, we all go through what you are describing. Part of having faith is believing in what God's word says beyond what we are feeling, that is, we can't base the promises of God by how we feel or because of the circumstances that are facing us. When we say yes to Christ, his promise is that our sins are forgiven, completely and fully, as God does not keep a record of wrongs. When we sin and we confess our sins, scripture states that he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and cleanse us of all unrighteousness. Our part regarding that promise or any of his promises, is faith.

Again, we must override our feelings and our circumstances, as we cannot allow those things to dictate God's promises. Also, the powers of darkness will use our feelings and circumstances to cause us to doubt our salvation and the rest of God's promises. By the way, regarding being unworthy, we are unworthy, for it is by grace through faith that we are saved. Christ died for us while we were still sinners, not when we were worthy. Our faith in Christ should be that we are ready to be persecuted and to be put to death keeping our testimony of Christ and standing on the word of God, therefore everything else is less. I would suggest for you to look up the promises of God regarding salvation and use those for strengthening in times of weakness and doubt. I am going to provides some here so that you cam claim them and apply them to yourself:

"There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For the law of the Spirit of life has set you free in Christ Jesus from the law of sin and death." (Romans 8:1)

The very fact that you are concerned about your relationship with God shows that the Holy Spirit is with you, for unbelievers are not concerned with being right with God. And because you are in Christ, there is no longer any condemnation, for Christ's sacrifice has made atonement for you and all who believe in him. Atonement, being that the wrath that we deserve was placed on Christ and therefore the wrath due as a result of our sins have been satisfied by him. Therefore, everyone who believes in Jesus has been reconciled, that is, we have been brought back into a right relationship with God because of his grace and our faith in Jesus.

"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness." (1 John 1:9)

"Then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy-seven times." (Matt.18:21)

Above, the Lord is basically saying, as often as your brother asks to be forgiven, forgive him. By the Lord saying this, this is also how he forgives us as often as we go to him and ask and so we can have faith in his promise to forgive us and that because he cannot lie. No matter how many times you commit the same sins, confess them and ask for forgiveness. The powers of darkness are going to whisper in your spiritual ear telling you how unworthy you are and that God won't forgive you. You need to override that, as well as your feelings and any circumstances that would deny God's promise and continue to have faith.

As a believer in Christ, you can be assured that God's promises are for you personally, as well as all believers. You are not alone, for every believer is going through their own trials and circumstances. The key is continuing to have faith in your salvation through Christ which God promised to you and that because God said so. And because God cannot lie, you can count on what is written in his word. His promises are for you as a believer, so claim them! Make them yours, because they are.
 
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1faith

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Teenadreams,

Its simple - You must rightly divide the word of truth.
33,000 Christian denominations teaching contrary of this SAME spirit?
Give up your daily routine, is it working? Immerse yourself in Gods word. 3 yrs?

Understand "fully" obedience. Love for the trinity.

Only then will you "Mature" in the Holy Spirit.
God knowing your discipline will give you the tools AND armor to battle your despair.
All Christians believe, as do demons also.
You MUST!!! belong to the church that Jesus built.
No matter how many strip His name off it along with adding their own to it then, "malign" the way.
matt 16;18 "I will build My church.
Ephesians 4:5 One Lord, ONE FAITH.
 

levi85

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Lord bless Teenadreams with your love and peace. Bless her and help to walk in your ways. Yes lord shower your blessings upon her and you be glorified. In Jesus name, Amen!
 
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:smoke: 'there is no one righteous, not even one'.
in the eyes of men . . ..
BUT IN THE EYES OF
OUR LORD GOD THE FATHER ALMIGHTY WHO IS GOOD AND DOESN'T LIE
HE EVEN MADE ONE OF HIS SERVANT TO BE A GOD . ...
:read:
Exodus: 7. 1. And the LORD said unto Moses, See, I have made thee a god to Pharaoh: and Aaron thy brother shall be thy prophet.

:happy: who are we to question god's decision . ...
:rofl: as we remember some people before used to question us about this verses until those people realise unto themselves also not to question the decisions of god

: : REMEMBER THIS ALWAYS MY SISTER
THAT DO NOT BELIEVE IN EVERY WORDS OF HUMANS
EVEN THEY USED SOME VERSES FOR SOME HUMANS ARE USING THE WORDS OF GOD
FOR THEIR OWN BENEFITS BUT AS WE SAID
SOME OF THOSE HUMANS ONLY FOR SOME OF THEM WERE ALSO A VICTIM OF A MAN MADE DOCTRINES . . ..

:whistle: the doctrines are the most important
as it is written
:read:
1 Corinthians 4:6
And these matters, brothers, I have applied in a figure to myself and Apollos for your sakes, so that in us you might learn not to think beyond what is written, so that none of you be puffed up on behalf of one against the other.
1 Corinthians 4:7
For who makes you to differ? And what do you have that you did not receive? And if you did indeed receive it, why do you boast as if you had not received it?

`∞` even from every diffirent religion itself
:read:
James 1:26
If anyone among you thinks he is religious, and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his own heart, this one’s religion is worthless.

:ty:


God bless us all always
 
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jkalyna

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There's a story in the bible about a man, called Nicodemus. He came to Jesus, and asked Lord what must I do to enter into heaven. He had a lot of question too. The Lord said, you must be born again in your spirit. The man said, how could I be born again as a grown man, can I go back to my mother's womb. Jesus said, start a new, within, he does that and then we grow in him, we grow up in strength, within him. If you accepted Christ, as your savior, and asked him to forgive you, and he will come in as Galation 4:6 says, "I have set my son Jesus within your spirit, now you cry unto me Abba Father. The best thing to do, is listen to the Holy Spirit, read the word, and pray, you will find peace, and rest in his pasture.
 

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