Just a quick one as I understand this may be a momentary phase but for the past couple of days my boyfriend has been acting strangely uptight about me.... And saying he's been having a 'feeling'. A bad 'feeling' which seems to be centered when he sees me. This should scare me as I'm the most anxious person in the world (I know we shouldnt be but given the world circumstances) but somehow I feel he will get over it. He says when be gets this feeling it's as if he did something bad, or something is gonna happen....and that it makes his stomach turn and makes him feel acidic and sick and just generally unwell. That scares me a bit until I realise I have been through something similar over a year ago where I had obsessive bad thoughts about my loved ones. The thoughts gripped me and I do believe it was the devil and after a few months I was fine again but still get very obsessive when I'm stressed.
He claims it was since the Paris attacks and I noticed his appetite decreased since it happened (I live in a city between Liverpool and Manchester which are supposedly big threats) and I understand so many people have it worse than us but I notice some people are very sensitive to these things and I know my sleep has been interrupted.
I tried to get him to confess whatever had him worried sick (literally) and he told me there was literally nothing he had to admit... He recently started work at a posh hotel in town and told me there were 5 or 6 girls who seemed nice but who I 'shouldnt worry about'... I obviously did as he said he felt similar when he broke up with his ex girlfriend and that scared me but it all seemed to be something to do with his stomach and he even said at one point 'I don't even know if I feel weird about us or my stomach' ....so it left me confused and Ive put it down to a small bug but he can eat and has managed a sandwich and some pasta and has seemed to be fine all day until he saw me again and said 'I feel the fear again like something's gonna happen to us'. I asked him if it was thoughts about rape or murder and he said 'Not at all' and just said its a 'gut feeling' ....
I feel as though what I've been through is similar and told him maybe we need some time apart (we live together and spend all our time together) as this is what helped me when I worried about my mum every second during that bad time I had last year. I went back to my university home and took my mind off it and when I returned I found the thoughts and worries eased.
Ive been praying for him as I know what its like to feel 'anxious about being anxious' and my parents have suggested he goes to see a counsellor at a local church but I believe it's just a bit of post traumatic stress.
Any advice?
Prayers appreciated, cheers folks.
He claims it was since the Paris attacks and I noticed his appetite decreased since it happened (I live in a city between Liverpool and Manchester which are supposedly big threats) and I understand so many people have it worse than us but I notice some people are very sensitive to these things and I know my sleep has been interrupted.
I tried to get him to confess whatever had him worried sick (literally) and he told me there was literally nothing he had to admit... He recently started work at a posh hotel in town and told me there were 5 or 6 girls who seemed nice but who I 'shouldnt worry about'... I obviously did as he said he felt similar when he broke up with his ex girlfriend and that scared me but it all seemed to be something to do with his stomach and he even said at one point 'I don't even know if I feel weird about us or my stomach' ....so it left me confused and Ive put it down to a small bug but he can eat and has managed a sandwich and some pasta and has seemed to be fine all day until he saw me again and said 'I feel the fear again like something's gonna happen to us'. I asked him if it was thoughts about rape or murder and he said 'Not at all' and just said its a 'gut feeling' ....
I feel as though what I've been through is similar and told him maybe we need some time apart (we live together and spend all our time together) as this is what helped me when I worried about my mum every second during that bad time I had last year. I went back to my university home and took my mind off it and when I returned I found the thoughts and worries eased.
Ive been praying for him as I know what its like to feel 'anxious about being anxious' and my parents have suggested he goes to see a counsellor at a local church but I believe it's just a bit of post traumatic stress.
Any advice?
Prayers appreciated, cheers folks.
