Something Only God Can Pull Off

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I finally had the time to call Dad, who has dementia. He's in his new digs -- an assisted-living facility. It's a nice one. They give people things to do, and the funniest thing to do is classes on taking care of your parrot. (I find that hilarious. How many people living there have a parrot? lol)

Every time we call each other, we ask, "What's new?" Most of the years we've been asking there was nothing new, but I had to ask today.

He says he's bored. All they do is eat and watch TV. (I suggested taking a class on taking care of your parrot. lol) I told him, they really do have things to do there, but he has to get up and out of his room to meet people to find someone who shares his interests. His complaint? "I can't do any of the things I like to do." I told them they had cooking classes. Not interested. I told him he could probably find some card players. He doesn't remember how to play bridge and doubts anyone there has the mind to play anyway. "All they do is sit around and watch TV."

I told him, "Yeah, like you. But that's because no one talks to each other to see if there is something else they have in common."

This went round and round in circles like only someone with dementia can do. He will do nothing but eat and watch TV unless God plops something else on his lap. So, please pray that God plops it on his lap.
 
Tinkerbell725

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How about Chess? Crossword puzzles? Jigsaw puzzles? I heard its good for people with dementia. Or is it bad for them?

Praying for your dad.
 
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Tinkerbell725 said:
How about Chess? Crossword puzzles? Jigsaw puzzles? I heard its good for people with dementia. Or is it bad for them?

Praying for your dad.
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By the time you're in assisted-living for dementia it's way past any of those things. The last time we played cards together was three years ago. It was Uno, where the cards tell you what to do. ("Skip." "Reverse." "Play four cards.") Each time it was his turn, we had to tell him the choices he had. The only way he can play any card game now is if he plays with others that patient with him.
 
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i pray your dad meets many, with things to share.
 
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shebamo

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Pray for God to bring peace to his mind. Funny how many people without dementia do the same thing---eat and watch tv:)
 
Violet24

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Lord I lift up Depleted's Dad to you in prayer & ask you to help him find his days fulfilling. Bring laughter & joy throughout his days, even in the little things in life. Lord, you are with those who are lonely, bored & suffering from dementia. You love this dad, as he is never alone in this life. Most importantly, let him know your Love.. In Jesus name..
 
levi85

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yes Lord, please bless, in Jesus precious name, Amen!
 
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I found out Dad's still playing us. (He has a different game he plays with each of his kids to try and get his own way.) According to the nursing staff he is socializing. He's also asking for a beer, (and he never wants just one beer), in his continual-loop mode. (Since his memory really is shot, he'll repeat what he's saying up to three times in one minute anymore, since he doesn't remember what he's said.)

Despite that he can't remember the last thing he said, he does remember the last trick that worked on each one of us. That's pretty good, since I don't remember the last time he got his way through me. Then again, he always had me pegged as someone I'm not.

By now, I ask that God work it out that Dad's tricks won't work. He had talked my sister into taking him out for dinner yesterday. Bad plan. My sister is the one who brought him his beer for months, until my brother got him out of his house. Her plan was to simply tell the waiter/waitress not to give Dad a beer. Hello? Alcoholic, dementia, and OCD. Dad would have found a way to get the beer and probably get away from the restaurant. She's also ill-equipped to get Dad to go back into his new home. He wouldn't go willingly twice. Fortunately, the nursing staff called my brother, who put a stop on her actions.

Dad's going to continually loop on this one to wear her down again. Again, we'll need God to stop this. This is the first time in Dad's life where he is going through something he doesn't want, he can't ignore it by getting drunk, and he isn't going to get his own way.

Also prayers for my brother. He and Dad have a history of butting heads. My brother now thinks everything that Dad has done was to just screw us all over. It's not that. Everything Dad has ever done was all about Dad. He's OCD. We didn't know for most of our lives. I just figured that out a year or two ago. It was never dealt with and now it can't be. My brother was angry because Dad sold an heirloom desk and kept pictures of Mom. He didn't sell the desk. He gave it to my younger brother 30 years ago when he gave us all the furniture Mom wanted us to have. And, of course he kept pictures of Mom. To him, Mom was the love of his life. Just because Mom wanted a divorce before she died from cancer, (the cancer got her first), doesn't mean what Dad remembers isn't who he is. He really did love her, but he's OCD so there isn't much to show for being loved by him. This is who Dad has always been, but now my brother is taking it as a personal affront. So prayers for him too.
 
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My dear children, I write this to you so that you will not sin. But if anybody does sin, we have one who speaks to the Father in our defense — Jesus Christ, the Righteous One. He is the atoning sacrifice for our sins, and not only for ours but also for the sins of the whole world.
 
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kittycat7 said:
My dear children, I write this to you so that you will not sin. But if anybody does sin, we have one who speaks to the Father in our defense — Jesus Christ, the Righteous One. He is the atoning sacrifice for our sins, and not only for ours but also for the sins of the whole world.
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I'm sorry. I don't get the connection.
 
pickles

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Praying in Jesus.

God bless
pickles
 
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