How can I forgive my cheating husband?

Thank you Ery, I understand what you meant. As Lord ask me that question" Do u trust me?" and it implied that God asked me to trust HIM instead of anyone. And I'm not moved by any circumstances. The only thing I do now is keep obeying what God said. I'm not using my owe strength anymore. [h=3]Proverbs 3:5-6[/h]New International Version (NIV)

[SUP]5 [/SUP]Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
[SUP]6 [/SUP]in all your ways submit to him,
and he will make your paths straight.

I will be praying for you and your husband. The only way my wife was able to forgive my unfaithfulness was through the Lord. The love, grace, and forgivness I have received from her is probably what saved our marriage. She said one of the things that kept her from leaving me was remembering her vows. She said she made a covenant with the Lord when we got married and no matter what I did she was not going to break her covenant and she would do everything she could to help me be restored. It's been very difficult and painful for us both, but God is faithful and HE has brought about huge change in us both.

now I have been following this thread for some weeks now, ever since I found out my husband was seeing someone else. This has been hard because we have been married for 10 yrs with 4 kids. We only knew each other for about 7 months before marrying. Two week before I had my last baby I found he was texting (sexting if you will) a mutual friend of ours. I was sooo hurt and disappointment to found out he had done this especially at that time in our lives welcoming another baby that was already a surprise to us because I knew at that time things were not right in our marriage. After addressing the situation and talking about our marriage I forgave him and the healing and trusting process began.

My husband does not communicate. He does not talk to me about things. I am not a very affectionate person so for yrs he has been asking that of me. He just wants to be wanted by me. And even when I tried it just didn't feel natural he said it felt forced. And all these years I've been asking more of him as a father, as a man of valor, and as the head of the house. I am a stay at home mom, so I basically do everything and I mean everything you could think of. All he does is go and make the money. And I'm not complaining about that I just need more help from him. I am a very self motivated strong women and its been hard for me to submit to my husband because he is so passive and soft. So this has been our struggle through out the yrs. I'm by far not perfect I have talk to a male friend in the pass about my relationship with my husband which I know was wrong. But these are some of the things that led to the down fall of this marriage. Recently I have once again come across the setting again and this time is was someone that works near him that he sees often. I can't express how much hurt and pain I felt all over again especially since f r the pass couple of months I took a stand for our marriage and began to work hard at it. Just to find out he was doing the opposite. This has been so hard because we only have one car and I ask him to leave. I am at the house with the four kids with a 1 and 2 yr old at home with me. So I'm stressed and trying to not get depressed. I have talked to my pastor and that has helped but every keep saying at this point its not about us its about the kids. I understand that and let him back because of that but he s told to put guards up in his life to prevent this from happening and it will take a long time to build my trust. I went out of town this pass weekend and found out he went to see her. Once again here we are. I am so angry with him right now. My first reaction to this situation was weakness and vulnerable but now I have shut down towards him I put him out again and don't want to see him or talk to him. I am not sure how I'm going to do it but but heart is so harden towards him I can't even pray about because I am not sure I want this to work anymore. What am I to do? I'm so angry at him for putting me through this and his kids who keeps asking about him. I cry every night and want Christian counseling for both of us but not sure we can afford it being that I don't work. But I have been looking so that I can now provide for the kids and not need him. Someone help because my kids need me and I am a strong person but this one has taking a toll on my personality my character and my hurt. I don't want to be depressed and alone.

Hi there and welcome to the community. Please don't lose hope in God; many lose that and fall very deep (i know because i have done this in the past and it hurt a lot!). Stay strong with God and keep praying for he will bring you peace to your heart.

Soften your heart so that God can work in you and through you work with your husband, it never stops amazing me the stories that go around on some really broken marriages that have been fixed when both partners let God work in their marriage. I truly hope this is the case for you both!

Don't give hope and as for counseling, most christian churches as far as i am aware have free marriage counseling or some sort of counseling that can help you. Keep reaching out and don't give up hope and your love for God; believe me he is listening... and while he wont just spontaneously fix your marriage the next morning, he can provide the heart the healing needed so that the next step we take, be a good step in faith towards him and new things. Remember he always makes all things New!! God Bless Your Family and i will be praying for all of you!

I pray for you KWilliams, your situation, the heart of your husband and for your kids. ---God Bless You.

I just wanted to add my story to this thread in hopes that God will speak to the hearts of some who may be able to help somehow...
My husband and I have been married almost 2 years, together almost 7. We have a wonderful daughter (1.5) & one on the way. About 4 months ago I learned he'd basically been having an affair with my 16 yr old niece, who seemed angry that I dare confront her about it. My family more or less made it clear they felt they thought the marriage was over, but I felt God wanted me to stay. I felt I owed it to God and my daughter to work at it. My husband showed some effort to get closer to God by praying and reading the bible with me. Now about 2 weeks ago I learned that he was charged with solicitation for prostitution. It took about a week to extract that he had unprotected sex with at least 2 prostitutes knowing I was pregnant and then with me. I am angry, crushed, embarrassed, etc. He knew I was willing to accept his faults after my niece only to betray me further. As of now he has recently been saved but he lied to me about porn the day after he was saved. I have decided that at the very least we should separate just to keep my hands and words off of him, which makes me feel distant from God. Today I realized I've been consumed by all the negativity and not focusing on ALL the good in my life. I love my husband and even after all this I want us to be able to be honest with one another and let God direct every aspect of our family and our lives. Part of me fears that this is his way throwing me off his trail, after all he seems to be learning how to hide better. I want what God wants for me and I pray he gives me the patience and peace to deal with whatever he guides me to do.

Please pray for me and my family

I been with my Husband for 11 years married for 2 years we have 3 children together I found out he was talking to my little cousin I did my research with them I ask my cousin did she sleep with him and she said no she showed me numerous messages they have had I ask my husband and he denied talking to her and messaging her now I look thru his phone and seen messages and he was talking to her and meeting up with her he denies having sex he said he was wrong for talking to her now my cousin told my other cousins she slept with my husband and she told me no she didn't I'm so confused I believe something happen I want to leave him then again I want to stay because I feel like if I let someone break my marriage it was never worth being married what should I do

My father cheated on my mother, not once, not twice but more. He wasn't christian though. After we all got saved, my father repented and turned away from it. Is your husband saved? If no, then we'll pray for his salvation first. If yes, then, there's hope because the Holy Spirit lives in him. We'll pray for him to come back to God. And God will restore your marriage, as He did for my parents (10 years since salvation and loving each other more than ever).

Sounds like this is more than just a simple 'kissing cousins" episode. In fact, if the facts were written down, they would make a number one country hit on the charts! Not to sound flippant, but in all honesty, the doubt, the confusion and the matter of broken trust is exactly how satan works. He revels in breaking up marriages, especially CHRISTIANS who are married to other CHRISTIANS. Is your cheating hubby a CHRISTIAN, or does he profess to be? His spiritual life is the issue here. If he truly follows JESUS CHRIST, then he would not follow your cousin! HE needs a CHRISTIAN counselor (few and far between), but truly, if hubby repents to GOD and takes his wife's feelings into consideration and honors the marriage vows, then, YES...forgive him and move on and grow happier together. However, if he is in denial, and continues this behavior...you have NO choice. You cannot live in misery and stay focused on raising family and walking with CHRIST. The Misery has to GO......in fact...that should be the title of the next country hit "Misery Just Walked Out the Door"

Ive seena lot of trash on this site but you top them all off.

Praying for u and your marriage