My mother has the Jezebel/narcissism spirit

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Flickers

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If anyone could pray for my mother? She has developed this over the years and abuses me every day. She thinks I'm crazy when I told her she has the Jezebel spirit and scoffed to herself. She has all but a few traits of narcissism. It's causing me so much pain, emptiness and low self esteem. I have prayed but she isn't changing. She is a Christian woman but can't see it. I don't want to be selfish to want it removed just for me, it just hurts to be treated like this. Her heart is rock solid which she admits. She has no love or respect for me and doesn't know how to be a mother. My heart has depression right now because of what I've been going through the psst few days.
 
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Holy Father, please let Your sovereign Hand be on this family. Reveal to them how much You love them, and please soften the hearts of those that need it. In Jesus Name I pray
 
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Lord let you remove the Jezebel spirit, and change the mother, for your glory, no more abuses, but love for Flickers, yes Lord, bless them, in Jesus name, AMen!
 
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Flickers said:
If anyone could pray for my mother? She has developed this over the years and abuses me every day. She thinks I'm crazy when I told her she has the Jezebel spirit and scoffed to herself. She has all but a few traits of narcissism. It's causing me so much pain, emptiness and low self esteem. I have prayed but she isn't changing. She is a Christian woman but can't see it. I don't want to be selfish to want it removed just for me, it just hurts to be treated like this. Her heart is rock solid which she admits. She has no love or respect for me and doesn't know how to be a mother. My heart has depression right now because of what I've been going through the psst few days.
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Which variation of this "Jezebel spirit" were you taught? There are so many varieties of it preached. Which, honestly, makes sense, since it's not Biblical.

And, if it's not for you, then why are you asking for prayers because you're abused, called crazy, in pain, empty, have low self-esteem, not selfish, hurt, not loved, not respected, not getting the mom you want, and depressed. I just listed everything you said about how you said it affected you, so I didn't really get much about how it's affecting anyone else.

But, you're right. You can't change her, so why did you come at her with this notion? If I told you that you were narcissistic, wouldn't you go somewhere between scoffing or telling me I'm crazy? It's a reasonable reaction.

You're right. You can't change her, but you can ask God to change you and change your reactions about what you think your mom does to you. I won't pray for something called a Jezebel Spirit, simply because that's some new invention. I will pray for you though.

Lord, please help Flicker see through you, react through you, and carry your heart of love and forgiveness so that you can bring her more toward what you'd like us to be. I know we rarely get our will, but I thank you, Lord, that you implant us with your will as we grow in you. For this I thank you, Lord. It is tough to divorce ourselves from what we want, but it feels so right when our wills do match yours. You're the only one who can give us that -- what we all desperately need. Thank you. Amen.
 
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Thank you for your prayers God is helping me with the emotional pain. It's easier to deal with. If you could help me to be able to no longer be codependent and to break free from her that would be wonderful :(
 
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Flickers said:
Thank you for your prayers God is helping me with the emotional pain. It's easier to deal with. If you could help me to be able to no longer be codependent and to break free from her that would be wonderful :(
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How about asking God? If some of your emotional pain was relieved, it wasn't from our prayers. It was the one we prayed to that did that. Just keep focusing on him and remembering he is your source of strength. (Which, honestly, is easier said than done, but we have a lifetime to work on it.)
 
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Psalms 37: 3Trust in the Lord and do good;
dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture.
4Take delight in the Lord,
and he will give you the desires of your heart.
5Commit your way to the Lord;
trust in him and he will do this:
6He will make your righteous reward shine like the dawn,
your vindication like the noonday sun.
7Be still before the Lord
and wait patiently for him;
do not fret when people succeed in their ways,
when they carry out their wicked schemes.
8Refrain from anger and turn from wrath.

Exodus 14:14 The LORD will fight for you; you need only to be still."
 
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Family issues are no joke. Whether or not one would agree with the exact terms you are using here, things like this can be very trying on us as believers. I'd wager some of us can probably relate more than you could know.

Keep praying, keep abiding in our King. He'll see you through somehow, he promises.

Be blessed. May the road lead you from glory to glory.
 
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Still needing prayer she won't change. I feel like God doesn't want me to call her a narcissist secretly in my heart and to not look for healing online. I felt an oppression and have been every time I think of how she treats me and I feel like he wants me to accept what she says about me and to just deal with it. But this can't be God's voice. But it seems like God's voice because I know it and try to listen to it. This same voice told me to give up bible study. I feel so confused with his voice. Maybe he just wants me to just cry in my room and not watch videos on narcissism and just hold it all inside. Maybe it encourages hate but I'm just so sick of my mother being so self centred and not caring about my feelings and having to constantly pretend I'm not hurting. I've tried sooooo many times talking to her but you just can't. The videos help me during one of her rampages. She doesn't love me truly and is emotionally manipulative. She is emotionally cold towards me. I have prayed and cried so many times. I feel like she knows how to get me and how to "win" and hurt me. I don't think it's truly her inside. Around her I'm walking on egg shells to please her with my facial emotions and listening to her latest thing. I have to be so perfect.

Last night I was under some attack too...I kept having demonic pictures and someone's face flash in front of me in my mind. Praying didn't make it go away. So I said the Lord's Prayer and it seemed to help a while later.
Ive been feeling so tired too. I don't know if it's health or demonic oppression because it stops me spending time with the LORD.
 
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You should find someone at church to pray with. If your mom is truly abusive you should move away.

Your profile says you are 24.

If you choose to stay, I would suggest counseling....actually finding someone to talk to weekly might help either way.

The voice trying to isolate you, keep you from seeking help or study the Bible is NOT God.

I have found playing gospel praise music helps and praying and telling God my,problems and reading the Bible.

May God surround you with His protection and open your eyes to the truth and your heart to His love. In Jesus name we pray, amen.
 
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Hi flickers, I was just concerned about your well being. Maybe your taking to much into your head. Tell your doctor how you feel and maybe they will be able to help your situation. I was diagnosed with schizophrenia in 1995 and stress made my illness worse. I've leant to cope better with low dosage meds. life will throw all sorts at us, but we must look after ourselves. I pray God will give you a clearer mind and a better thought pattern, then maybe someone can look into your lifestyle with your mum, and help you both. hope this helps flickers.
 
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Ariel82 said:
You should find someone at church to pray with. If your mom is truly abusive you should move away.

Your profile says you are 24.

If you choose to stay, I would suggest counseling....actually finding someone to talk to weekly might help either way.

The voice trying to isolate you, keep you from seeking help or study the Bible is NOT God.

I have found playing gospel praise music helps and praying and telling God my,problems and reading the Bible.

May God surround you with His protection and open your eyes to the truth and your heart to His love. In Jesus name we pray, amen.
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i wanted to give up because I'm making silly little mistakes. It's a correspondence course. The question I got wrong was like "the end" for me and I can't understand how I got it wrong. Now when I think of doing the course I feel strongly a "no" from God. I am still reading the bible but don't think I'll return to that course right now. Just to think of it I feel sore and sick in my chest. It won't stop me looking at the bible. I am trying to get counselling but it isn't happening snd I wish I could get Christian counselling.

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Hi flickers, I was just concerned about your well being. Maybe your taking to much into your head. Tell your doctor how you feel and maybe they will be able to help your situation. I was diagnosed with schizophrenia in 1995 and stress made my illness worse. I've leant to cope better with low dosage meds. life will throw all sorts at us, but we must look after ourselves. I pray God will give you a clearer mind and a better thought pattern, then maybe someone can look into your lifestyle with your mum, and help you both. hope this helps flickers.
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i think my mind is everywhere right now..actually it always is.
 
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Hey sweet, Bless you.. Ya know we shouldn't be naive to the fact that people possess spirits or spirits posses them.. I know it's hard when we discern things going on with our loved ones but let me be encourage you that nothing is impossible to our God.. It's only his love that shines on the darkness and causes it to flee... Keep continuing to pray for your mother and love her as she is.. I think sometimes we can cause more damage by telling a person that have spirits in them.. especially of it hasn't been revealed to them by the holy spirit. People will just think we a real crazy! I agree in prayer with you now that your mum would know the Love of Christ that surpasses all human knowledge. That she would receive the freedom that has been brought for her by the blood of Jesus. I pray healing and restoration in your family.. Carry on drawing nearer to the Lord and do not allow any human being. Mother or father sister or brother to snatch your identity.. It hurts I understand but in him you have life, he my darling is all you need. God bless you xxxx
 
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Wow spelling mistakes in that post haha. Sorry x
 
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You need to seek up a professional for both your mum and yourself. Seeing things that aren't there is NOT something you should ignore.
 
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Still needing prayer she won't change. I feel like God doesn't want me to call her a narcissist secretly in my heart and to not look for healing online. I felt an oppression and have been every time I think of how she treats me and I feel like he wants me to accept what she says about me and to just deal with it. But this can't be God's voice. But it seems like God's voice because I know it and try to listen to it. This same voice told me to give up bible study. I feel so confused with his voice. Maybe he just wants me to just cry in my room and not watch videos on narcissism and just hold it all inside. Maybe it encourages hate but I'm just so sick of my mother being so self centred and not caring about my feelings and having to constantly pretend I'm not hurting. I've tried sooooo many times talking to her but you just can't. The videos help me during one of her rampages. She doesn't love me truly and is emotionally manipulative. She is emotionally cold towards me. I have prayed and cried so many times. I feel like she knows how to get me and how to "win" and hurt me. I don't think it's truly her inside. Around her I'm walking on egg shells to please her with my facial emotions and listening to her latest thing. I have to be so perfect.

Last night I was under some attack too...I kept having demonic pictures and someone's face flash in front of me in my mind. Praying didn't make it go away. So I said the Lord's Prayer and it seemed to help a while later.
Ive been feeling so tired too. I don't know if it's health or demonic oppression because it stops me spending time with the LORD.
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No, you're under your own reigns. Here it is a week later, when I already told you that you're focusing too much on anything but you changing to God's good through his strength, and yet this is round 2 of about-you. Get over you and get on with God. And when you don't do this, stop blaming everyone and everything but yourself.
 
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Victim blaming.
 
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Flickers

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wwjd_kilden said:
You need to seek up a professional for both your mum and yourself. Seeing things that aren't there is NOT something you should ignore.
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What not seeing things that aren't there? What do you mean?
 
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i pray your mom gets closer to God and changes toward you and others. i pray you learn to get away from the abuse and be more free of her. i pray encouragers come into your life.
 
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