So I tried to do something nice for someone that's been staying in my home. This person has been sleeping on my couch for years and storing clothes in my garage. He kept complaining he needs a room of his own because he was tired of clothes in garage and sleeping in couch. So me and my grandkids cleared closet for him and soon will be adding a bed for him in one of the rooms but it's been 4 days and he hasn't used closet and kids keep asking to help put his stuff in closet but he makes excuses to put it off. My feelings are hurt because I thought we where doing something nice and it seems he is unappreciative of it. I don't know what I did wrong but I was just trying to do the right thing and it hurts I was wrong. I'm not going to ask no more and now I'm feeling like I shouldn't even do the adding a bed to a room thing.. I don't want to bring it up to him because I donto want him to do it because he feels he has to. Am I wrong how I feel?
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If he needs a room of his own, why doesn't he get his own place?
Does he pay rent,or contribute to the,household by paying bills or is he just a mooch?
Don't know your situation, but years sleeping on someone's couch?
Why doesn't he buy his own bed?
There is a difference between helping someone and being codependent enabler of sloth.
Does he pay rent,or contribute to the,household by paying bills or is he just a mooch?
Don't know your situation, but years sleeping on someone's couch?
Why doesn't he buy his own bed?
There is a difference between helping someone and being codependent enabler of sloth.
This is disfunctional behaviour. You are giving only a small part of a story. Food, work, relationships, future.
A person who is in this situation is looking for a better future, but it sounds like this individual is stuck and using you as the excuse for saying why they are stuck. It has nothing to do with a room etc. but what they are doing with their life and how they can blame others for their failures.
They definately need intervention and counselling, to see their strengths and what they can offer others, which will build up their self-worth and give them something to focus on.
A person who is in this situation is looking for a better future, but it sounds like this individual is stuck and using you as the excuse for saying why they are stuck. It has nothing to do with a room etc. but what they are doing with their life and how they can blame others for their failures.
They definately need intervention and counselling, to see their strengths and what they can offer others, which will build up their self-worth and give them something to focus on.
