Need prayer for a complicated situation

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Silverwings

Silverwings

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My sister feels that I owe her, because my life has been more successful than hers. I think that is wrong thinking on her part, and it has caused great conflict over the years. She was homeless for most of last year, and I have a mobile home that I rent, when it became available, I encouraged her to move into it. Mistake.

At first she was very greatful for a decent place to live, but that soon changed, she is back into the stinking thinking that I should provide her a place to live for free. She draws a check and is able to pay, she chooses not to. And a bad concequence of her thinking is that her son is now the same way. He is a bright young man, but has adopted his mothers attitude that he is owed something by those around him.

I do not want to have to be forced into doing something like evicting her, or turning off her hot water, or her water , because I am having to pay for both plus her garbage removal.

She is the only sister that I have, and has been a pain in the hiney all her life. She absolutely refuses to grow up and take responsibilty for her self. I love her, but cannot accept this behavior.

I appreciate any counsel that you feel led to share, and I def. desire your prayers concerning this.

Thank you & God Bless, for your time and effort on our behalf.
 
resurrection33

resurrection33

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Silverwings said:
My sister feels that I owe her, because my life has been more successful than hers. I think that is wrong thinking on her part, and it has caused great conflict over the years. She was homeless for most of last year, and I have a mobile home that I rent, when it became available, I encouraged her to move into it. Mistake.

At first she was very greatful for a decent place to live, but that soon changed, she is back into the stinking thinking that I should provide her a place to live for free. She draws a check and is able to pay, she chooses not to. And a bad concequence of her thinking is that her son is now the same way. He is a bright young man, but has adopted his mothers attitude that he is owed something by those around him.

I do not want to have to be forced into doing something like evicting her, or turning off her hot water, or her water , because I am having to pay for both plus her garbage removal.

She is the only sister that I have, and has been a pain in the hiney all her life. She absolutely refuses to grow up and take responsibilty for her self. I love her, but cannot accept this behavior.

I appreciate any counsel that you feel led to share, and I def. desire your prayers concerning this.

Thank you & God Bless, for your time and effort on our behalf.
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I agree that you owe her nothing.
 
levi85

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Lord change the heart,mind and attitude of silverwings' sister and solve this matter and bless them both.yes Lord in Jesus name, Amen!
 
HS

HS

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Will pray that the situation changes. God bless you :)
 
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Silverwings said:
My sister feels that I owe her, because my life has been more successful than hers. I think that is wrong thinking on her part, and it has caused great conflict over the years. She was homeless for most of last year, and I have a mobile home that I rent, when it became available, I encouraged her to move into it. Mistake.

At first she was very greatful for a decent place to live, but that soon changed, she is back into the stinking thinking that I should provide her a place to live for free. She draws a check and is able to pay, she chooses not to. And a bad concequence of her thinking is that her son is now the same way. He is a bright young man, but has adopted his mothers attitude that he is owed something by those around him.

I do not want to have to be forced into doing something like evicting her, or turning off her hot water, or her water , because I am having to pay for both plus her garbage removal.

She is the only sister that I have, and has been a pain in the hiney all her life. She absolutely refuses to grow up and take responsibilty for her self. I love her, but cannot accept this behavior.

I appreciate any counsel that you feel led to share, and I def. desire your prayers concerning this.

Thank you & God Bless, for your time and effort on our behalf.
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Since you rent it, you probably already have the yearly contract ready to sign. Take it to her. You've got another problem. If she stays there for free so long, she has squatter's rights. This is business. Turn it back into business.
 
Silverwings

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The naieve part of me, wants to ask, " Why oh why does she put me in such a trying situation?",
but the adult in me says "because she chooses to thats why, and since she feels that I owe her, it is acceptable!!"

Lord, please help her to make things right, without having to force my hand. Amen.
 
Silverwings

Silverwings

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Over and over I try to help her and over and over she puts me in a bad way over it. Lord, help us both.
 
damombomb

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Thank you Father in advance for a solution to this in Jesus name. Amen
 
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Will pray.
 
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