Offense

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I don't know why, but recently I've had a difficult time with offense. I don't want to be offended or hold anything against anyone. The thing is, the situation is silly to begin with and I feel that, even if I would be justified in my position, it is imperative to be able to overlook the offense and not let anything become a wall in a relationship.

I have a difficult time expressing myself, sometimes in fear of the other person's reaction, especially in negative situations.


It would be a lovely thing for conflict to not have to happen at all, but I know this side of Heaven, it will not be possible.

I want to let go of the situation, but it is difficult for me. I don't want to hold on, but yet I still am :(

I suppose I'm asking for prayer for wisdom in how to deal with situations when they arise, grace to overlook an offense when it tries to come, and just the ability to avoid these situations as much as possible.

Thanks for hearin' me out guys.
 

Demi777

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Matthew 11:28-30
[FONT=&quot]28 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
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​Heyya brother I know the feeling. Did you ever try to bind it and tell it to go? I will definitely keep you in prayer! God bless you and keep you!
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AuntieAnt

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Wow, I admire your humble honesty. They say the first step in overcoming something is admitting there's a problem. You're an encouragement to me, as I struggle with that, too sometimes.

I know the Lord is faithful to hear the cries of your heart and will answer you. I'll be praying for you, young brother!

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Demi777

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Wow, I admire your humble honesty. They say the first step in overcoming something is admitting there's a problem. You're an encouragement to me, as I struggle with that, too sometimes.

I know the Lord is faithful to hear the cries of your heart and will answer you. I'll be praying for you, young brother!

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To be honest.. I even find it refreshing
 

KBond

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Lord, please heal the inner wounds of this person. Help them to let go of old things and new things they are holding onto that they should not. Increase this person's patience and ability to communicate in tender ways. Thank You, Lord, that You have brought these matters to their attention so that You can go in with Your spiritual scalpel and perform that healing surgery on their soul that will bring them utter joy. In Christ's Name, Amen.
 
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this world is so evil and full of deception, Christ and His Word are our only defense,
seek Him and allow Him to guide and keep you in His loving presence...
 
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Ariel82

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Ephesians 4:26King James Version (KJV)

26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:


**** the above Bible verse tells me that it's okay to be angry. Sometimes we have justified anger. However, before the sunsets and we go to bed, God wants us to give it to Him ..to trust God to be just. To forgive the offense, not because they deserve it, but because we were forgiven when we didnt deserve it.

We were given grace and should give others grace as well.
 

Violet24

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I just want to encourage you to bring this before the Lord in prayer. Jesus is so gracious and loving & a very good listener. He understands our heart issues, offences, hurts & heartaches. Forgiving someone who has deeply offended us can be a process with the Lord. Sometimes healing from hurt happens faster with the Lord, but often times its a process of letting go of anger & allowing the Lord to replace it with His love & peace. It can be difficult to move forward, without first letting the Lord begin inner healing within the heart, so we are able to forgive & love this person as Jesus does. Ezekiel 36:26 And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh.
 
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gessnermatt

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Heavenly father I pray that you may heal Aephus social anxiety and that he may have confidence in what you created him to be in Jesus name Amen.
 
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bikerchaz

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AuntieAnt and Demi777 have it to a tee, Your honesty and openness is refreshing and it is also something the Lord can use. When we come to Jesus in Spirit and truth, this is part of what that means.

You can now take it a little further yourself.

Pray this (Change the wording if necessary to fit your situation);

Jesus I am holding this offence and I do not want to. I want to forgive . . (this person) . . and in doing so receive your forgiveness for myself, so I will not be judged with the judgements I use, according to your word.

In all honesty I am finding it hard to truly forgive so I want you to take this offence from me. I now give it to you in your name, in Jesus name. I do not want it back again, and should I find myself picking it up, remind me by your Holy Spirit to bring it to you and Give it to you again.

In the place where this offence was within me, I ask you to fill me with your love and peace and Holy Spirit, and not to leave a swept empty place in me where it can take root again.

I receive your peace and Spirit in faith Lord, and thank you for your grace in my life.

In Jesus name Amen.
 

Demi777

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AuntieAnt and Demi777 have it to a tee, Your honesty and openness is refreshing and it is also something the Lord can use. When we come to Jesus in Spirit and truth, this is part of what that means.

You can now take it a little further yourself.

Pray this (Change the wording if necessary to fit your situation);

Jesus I am holding this offence and I do not want to. I want to forgive . . (this person) . . and in doing so receive your forgiveness for myself, so I will not be judged with the judgements I use, according to your word.

In all honesty I am finding it hard to truly forgive so I want you to take this offence from me. I now give it to you in your name, in Jesus name. I do not want it back again, and should I find myself picking it up, remind me by your Holy Spirit to bring it to you and Give it to you again.

In the place where this offence was within me, I ask you to fill me with your love and peace and Holy Spirit, and not to leave a swept empty place in me where it can take root again.

I receive your peace and Spirit in faith Lord, and thank you for your grace in my life.

In Jesus name Amen.

hello brother :) Let me tell you truly if I hadnt prayed this so many times I would not be at suh peace as I am lol! I pray (similar to this) every time I notice it lol Thanks for posting it though :) God bless you and keep you
 
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I don't know why, but recently I've had a difficult time with offense. I don't want to be offended or hold anything against anyone. The thing is, the situation is silly to begin with and I feel that, even if I would be justified in my position, it is imperative to be able to overlook the offense and not let anything become a wall in a relationship.

I have a difficult time expressing myself, sometimes in fear of the other person's reaction, especially in negative situations.


It would be a lovely thing for conflict to not have to happen at all, but I know this side of Heaven, it will not be possible.

I want to let go of the situation, but it is difficult for me. I don't want to hold on, but yet I still am :(

I suppose I'm asking for prayer for wisdom in how to deal with situations when they arise, grace to overlook an offense when it tries to come, and just the ability to avoid these situations as much as possible.

Thanks for hearin' me out guys.
Remember, brother, by letting go, you are the one who benefits more than anyone. I understand you're having a difficult time letting go, but if you keep in prayer about it, read Scripture, especially the Sermon on the Mount and what Demi shared, Matthew 11:28-30, and if you consciously diverge your thoughts by embracing positive things you like, it well help quell the storm inside. Praying for you, my brother. PM me anytime if you want to talk or share more.
 

blue_ladybug

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Handle it like a dog does: if you can't play with it or eat it, pee on it and walk away.. lol :eek:

Seriously though, I think we all could use wisdom in how to handle certain situations..
 
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Thank you everyone who responded and prayed for me :)
I truly feel that I am on the road to recovery in this.
May Jesus Christ bless you all immeasurably and draw you into a deeper, more intimate relationship with Him. :D
 
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I don't know why, but recently I've had a difficult time with offense. I don't want to be offended or hold anything against anyone. The thing is, the situation is silly to begin with and I feel that, even if I would be justified in my position, it is imperative to be able to overlook the offense and not let anything become a wall in a relationship.

I have a difficult time expressing myself, sometimes in fear of the other person's reaction, especially in negative situations.


It would be a lovely thing for conflict to not have to happen at all, but I know this side of Heaven, it will not be possible.

I want to let go of the situation, but it is difficult for me. I don't want to hold on, but yet I still am :(

I suppose I'm asking for prayer for wisdom in how to deal with situations when they arise, grace to overlook an offense when it tries to come, and just the ability to avoid these situations as much as possible.

Thanks for hearin' me out guys.
Matt. 6:12
 
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Handle it like a dog does: if you can't play with it or eat it, pee on it and walk away.. lol :eek:

Seriously though, I think we all could use wisdom in how to handle certain situations..

I'm so keeping you away from my stuffed animals. lol
 

levi85

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Lord please hear, and answer Aephus, Lord please bless, in Jesus gracious name, Amen!