Hi miri I'm finding that myself his temper is uncalled for. I know he builds up and yes a lot is to do with his stroke. His dad had a temper also. He just doesn't always see things in a calm way. I have to let him come around in his own way. Its hard because I feel very unloved at times. All this makes me very anxious. Its all about him. What hurts is I pray on here for him.
I had the same when my aunt came out of hospital. She was still very much out of
things due to two mild strokes, her blood chemistry being all over the place.
Daily she swore at me and accused me of the most awful things. I knew she
was ill so I put up with it, but it hurt a lot. Often I would just have to go out for a
walk to get out of the house and that atmosphere. But as her physical condition
improved, so did her mental condition. She can still get quiet nasty when her oxygen
levels are low, but she is not anywhere near as bad as before and I can cope with how
things are now, it's taken 8 months to get this far.
The reason I posted above is because you seemed to suggest there might be other
factors. Maybe if his dad had a bad temper there is learned behaviour in Rod which
needs to be dealt with. You both need to look at this, how much is illness related,
how much of this is just Rod, can you live like this if it does not improve.
Believe me, it's hard, I know from first hand experience.
One thing you should definately do is develope your own interests outside of the
home. Go to church on Sunday's even if Rod can't. Get involved in the women groups or
pray groups, or take up an outside hobby.
There are plenty of Carer's groups in the UK who do all sorts of activities for Carer's to
take breaks and get out a bit. They are all free. Your own doctor will be able to provide
you with a list of organisations and activities. My doctor did and I find getting out and
about and looking after myself is absolutely essential. It gives me the mental
stamina and energy I need and the break.
God bless