Confused on if to stand for marriage??

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Angel79

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[FONT=&quot]You know I came across a website Rejoice Marriage Ministries several months back. It's a Christian based website based on standing and praying for the restoration of your marriage. They have a section where you can put your court dates and folks will pray for you. I've had two court dates that I posted on the website and sure enough both court dates were continued to another court date. I ask myself is this a sign from GOD to continue to pray and stand for my marriage? My wife left 7 months ago and says she's happy and has moved on. We are a younger couple I'm 37 and she is 31. Not to sound conceited but both have good head on our shoulders, great jobs and both good looking people not hard to move on and find someone else. BUT I can't seem to move on. I really felt this girl and I were meant to spend out lives together. This was my first marriage BUT her second. We have a beautiful daughter together. I've been praying for a sign from GOD is there someone better for me to move on or do I continue to stay faithful and pray and stand for my marriage although she clearly has moved on dating and all? My family, friends even pastors from my church and other churches have told me to move on. So many times I've went to unsubscribe to rejoice marriage ministries daily emails but I haven't. I'm a lost soul at the moment just want to be happy.[/FONT]
 
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You didn't mention how long you have been married to her or why she wants to move on without you so it is hard to offer any advice. It is good of you to pray for your marriage but a marriage is between two individuals and she has to want the marriage to work too. You are not alone in marital troubles and I pray for God to provide you clarity of thought in how to proceed. Glad to have you join us. Welcome to CC.
 
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Ariel82

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Will pray.

Listen....what do you feel that God wants you to do?

fight to keep your daughter in your life. It may be too early to move on to a new relationship.
 
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Angel79

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We were together 7 years married 3.5. Basically she felt as if I favored my son over my step daughter and daughter along with a few other things like her having issues with my family and feeling as if I didn't have her back.
 
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Angel79

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We were together 7 years married 3.5. Basically she felt as if I favored my son over my step daughter and daughter along with a few other things like her having issues with my family and feeling as if I didn't have her back.
 
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AfterHisownheart50

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Marriage takes three: husband, wife, and God. I'm not saying God can't save your marriage. With any two willing partners, He certainly can. He can even turn your wife's heart back to you. Nothing is impossible with Him. My advice is to pray and earnestly seek His wisdom. Though reconciliation would certainly be His will, there may come a time when you must accept the circumstances, let her go, and move on. Pray that God will give you the wisdom to know when that time is if things don't change.
 
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Ugly

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Most people that have a spouse that leaves and is happier don't reconcile. And if she has moved on (a vague term open to interpretation) then all the more so.

But have you made consistent and active efforts to restore things? If yes, and she still is done, then perhaps it's time to let a person do what they want.
On the other hand if you've done little or nothing then how will you ever know anything for certain?
 
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Lord please hear this matter, and bless Angel79, yes Lord please help and guide. In Jesus name, Amen!
 
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So the divorce isn't final and pastors are telling you to move on? That does not sound Biblical. God hates divorce. That is in the Bible. Your reasons do not sound like like Scripturally-sound justifications for divorce either. I think you should share your opinion that maybe the court dates being moved is a sign from God that you two should stay married. Tell her you will try to work on your weaknesses. Even if she is dating, you should not date until the divorce is final. God can definitely save this marriage. No matter what happens, remember that your true value is found in being a child of God—not in being her husband or a husband at all. God wants you and loves you.
 
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iveseenworse

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i think marriage is temporary here, i think God is a jealous God. He wants children but don't know what else he wants. i know the marriage of christ to the church. i dont know if i'm cynical or what but at 58, a cheating wife, and then fiance, i'm good now, me and God. but at 37 i'm sure you've got different ideas. my experience and your wifes choice of words tells me shes not coming back. her and this generations values are twisted. good guys like you and me finish last. i'll pray for you both.
 
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