Prayers for Rods health
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Heavenly come into this situation I ask, give both happy and Rod your
strength and calm. Bring people into their lives to encourage and help
at this time. Whatever is going on medically I pray for answers and solutions.
Show them you are a God who can be trusted, who is their Heavenly Father,
a God who wants a relationship with both of them.
Happy you and Rod are precious children in the eyes of God. Don't be afraid
to approach God and pray to Him and tell Him how you both feel, pour your
heart out to a Him. I don't know if Rod is a Christian but see if he will agree to
you both praying together and reading verses together.
You both need some thing positive to cling onto. Find verses which are meaningful
to you and speak then over yourselves, praying into them.
I know it's hard not to worry, I've done plenty of that over the years and I've had
plenty of crying out to God.
Write down your worries and show them to God.
As for the situation going on medically, ask as many questions as you can, find out
as much as you can as it will empower you and give you some control back.
God bless
strength and calm. Bring people into their lives to encourage and help
at this time. Whatever is going on medically I pray for answers and solutions.
Show them you are a God who can be trusted, who is their Heavenly Father,
a God who wants a relationship with both of them.
Happy you and Rod are precious children in the eyes of God. Don't be afraid
to approach God and pray to Him and tell Him how you both feel, pour your
heart out to a Him. I don't know if Rod is a Christian but see if he will agree to
you both praying together and reading verses together.
You both need some thing positive to cling onto. Find verses which are meaningful
to you and speak then over yourselves, praying into them.
I know it's hard not to worry, I've done plenty of that over the years and I've had
plenty of crying out to God.
Write down your worries and show them to God.
As for the situation going on medically, ask as many questions as you can, find out
as much as you can as it will empower you and give you some control back.
God bless
Thank you Miri, Today I am realising that Rod is not like myself, we are two different people. It's really is true. Rod is in denial in some ways, he's trying to see places in between, and I'm am a bit concerned. I'll tell you Miri, just on Wednesday at 1pm we set of to Cornwall and got there at 11.30pm at night. It was a big journey. We slept in the car, very little sleep and on Thursday Rod travel around seeing different places in Cornwall. Which was part of his venture. Then on Thursday night at 8pm he drove back to our home in Leyland. We was delayed by 2 junctions not being open on the motorway and had to do a big detour around Birmingham and crewe. I just don't know how Rod managed it. We got home at 8am on Friday morning. Rod is very unreal at times about his illness and we was both shattered sleeping all day Friday. I know he's poorly and in pain at times, and I try so hard to be strong. Reading the Bible isn't even in Rods mind, he can be so irratic. Thank you I do know I approach things differently to Rod now. My limitations don't help because I suffer with mental health problems and feet issues. But I've been the most faithful wife to Rod despite my paranoia when Rod talks about the neighbours being nosey etc. It's hard because I just don't know what he wants to do next. We have a pet budgie and a dog. I have had to get back for the budgie we took dog with us. I pray for support and over the years I've felt very isolated away from people. But I know I can't just trust anyone Rods learnt me that much. Rod puts me through a lot of anxiety with his trauma and ways but I understand more about him that he knows about himself. So your message was great but it's not that easy for me to talk to him. He gets so wound up he talks of killing himself and me keeping it to myself. He hates what he's going through and what may occur. He declines help etc at the moment because he's in shock. Prayers are all I have. I need help with Rods way of thinking. He's so brave but it's killing me to hear him. Please more prayers for Rod because he's in turmoil at times. It's such a bad time I can't express myself on here but I do need a friend.
M
Sometimes you have to take and stand and do what you know is right.
Rod may not want help, but if you need it, either just you or both of you,
then you may need to seek out that help yourself.
Maybe you could try the hospital chaplain services, or macmilions,
see the following link which has a free phone help line number.
https://www.macmillan.org.uk
Maybe speak again to the housing office about your housing needs and
explain the new issues which have arisen.
Its a sad fact that with more problems, seems to come more red tape,
and paperwork/phone calls to deal with. Sometimes it can help a bit though as
it can give you something to focus on, as long as it doesn't get too much.
Will continue to pray for you.
ps definitely try macmillons.
Rod may not want help, but if you need it, either just you or both of you,
then you may need to seek out that help yourself.
Maybe you could try the hospital chaplain services, or macmilions,
see the following link which has a free phone help line number.
https://www.macmillan.org.uk
Maybe speak again to the housing office about your housing needs and
explain the new issues which have arisen.
Its a sad fact that with more problems, seems to come more red tape,
and paperwork/phone calls to deal with. Sometimes it can help a bit though as
it can give you something to focus on, as long as it doesn't get too much.
Will continue to pray for you.
ps definitely try macmillons.
Hi Miri, Yes we are being referred to macmillans nurses. Rod is very conscience of his looks at the moment, being thin etc, he said hes not ready for macmillan yet, if they phone us he will see them when hes ready, hes in complete shock etc, and knows maybe his time is limited, hes a fighter in his own way, but it seems everything is getting on top of him. yes it hard. also he had a phone call from st catherines not sure who they are a hospice service, its to much for him to take in. Keep praying until he realises how poorly he is please, he hasn't had any treatment yet with chemo until they check his bowels with a camera on Monday then he see the cancer doctor the following week for results, he doesn't want to know the results, what hes got at the moment is bad enough, in his tummy and lungs, hes sinking everyday I see.
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It must be so hard for you and Rod. I think I am right in saying that MacMillan can also provide you with support not just Rod. You may find you need to talk to someone, about your fears in regard to the cancer etc. MacMillan do not provide physical nursing, but can help with advice and support including finacial support, where to get equipment, sometimes they also deal with pain relief. When my husband was ill I spoke to the care advisor from a charity related to his condition, I know I needed her support. You will find you both deal with things differently and need support differently.
Hospices aren't just for end of life. They have great expertise with symptom control. They also deal with the individual holistically. Some have day centres, and patients go to these for many years. They often offer things like aromatherapy as patients find these things relaxing.
You said that Rod doesn't want the results from the camera test, is that because he is scared of what it shows. What if the results aren't as bad as he thinks. Do you want or need to know the results, even though he doesn't want to know the results if you wanted to would he let you know the results. I needed to know my husbands results, we know his prognosis, how long the average life expectancy for his condition. I know not everyone would want to know, but we found it gave us freedom to get on with life. Ultimately God is control of our days and the time of our death.
I am praying for you and Rod.
Hospices aren't just for end of life. They have great expertise with symptom control. They also deal with the individual holistically. Some have day centres, and patients go to these for many years. They often offer things like aromatherapy as patients find these things relaxing.
You said that Rod doesn't want the results from the camera test, is that because he is scared of what it shows. What if the results aren't as bad as he thinks. Do you want or need to know the results, even though he doesn't want to know the results if you wanted to would he let you know the results. I needed to know my husbands results, we know his prognosis, how long the average life expectancy for his condition. I know not everyone would want to know, but we found it gave us freedom to get on with life. Ultimately God is control of our days and the time of our death.
I am praying for you and Rod.
D
It will make him feel poorly. It's cleaning out his bowels, and everything leaves at once. Rather violently too. I think that's the thing most people don't want to do for any colonoscopy.
As for sweating, that is a symptom of many things, including the emotions he's going through. Face this and you will sweat.
And he may do some weird stuff because of that. John was sweating before he let me take him to the hospital. Since he doesn't like sweating, he actually took a sponge bath before going. Totally useless, since he continued to sweat, but that was his form of taking control over something he had no control over.
I understand you are feeling completely depleted. And yet you keep going. Not you. God in you. Try to remember that and you will have that sense that God is with you. This is the Valley God preps us for. You aren't walking it alone.
As for sweating, that is a symptom of many things, including the emotions he's going through. Face this and you will sweat.
And he may do some weird stuff because of that. John was sweating before he let me take him to the hospital. Since he doesn't like sweating, he actually took a sponge bath before going. Totally useless, since he continued to sweat, but that was his form of taking control over something he had no control over.
I understand you are feeling completely depleted. And yet you keep going. Not you. God in you. Try to remember that and you will have that sense that God is with you. This is the Valley God preps us for. You aren't walking it alone.
Hi Lynn, Rod is seeing his oncology doctor on tues 21st, so don't know, but yes he's definitely got cancer because he is not eating as he should be etc. rod is so restless In this house, he feels he has to escape all the time in the car. Im dreading it when he cant drive, he hates where we live. and it makes me restless also.
Hi there, Rod is trying so hard to still drive, today we went to my parents 100 miles away. I feel rod tries to find me a place to settle as I'm on the housing list to be near my parents. I know I can't live in areas that I'm not from, it's hard now Rods poorly. I feel sometimes I don't belong anywhere, but seeing my mam today It made me happy. prayers rod slows down, and God watches over us to hopefully find a place near my family. I want to feel belonged somewhere.
I know no matter what I write on here Rod is dying. He's lost more weight and shouts a lot. He's going down. I wish this was a wasn't real but it is. I hope I can keep strong because what I share with you on here is like a cry for help. Rod does not know the anguish I'm feeling or loneliness. He just talks about the weight he's lost etc and snaps. I understand since the colonoscopy he's lost more weight and he's also anxious about tommorow seeing the oncology doctor. My life is just all over, and God is all I can turn to.