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    My wife and I have been married for 39 years; raised four great kids. She has been an alcoholic for the past nine years, it's like a wrecking ball in our family and has caused her and I to kind of separate (separate bedrooms). Have any other men had to deal with this? Thank you for your prayers. Didymus

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    I have not had your problem but have a brother who has been an alcoholic for over 45 years and have known others with this disease also. Unless she wants to help herself there is not much you can do besides pray for her and do want you need to do to survive. I have said a prayer for God to deliver your wife from this self-affliction. Glad to have you join us. Welcome to CC.
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    Thank you my brother/sister. Fervent prayer avails much.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Didymus View Post
    My wife and I have been married for 39 years; raised four great kids. She has been an alcoholic for the past nine years, it's like a wrecking ball in our family and has caused her and I to kind of separate (separate bedrooms). Have any other men had to deal with this? Thank you for your prayers. Didymus
    i agree with tourist not much can be done she needs to want to change. Maybe you should move to a different home. Sometimes losing things you love and help you are enough of a switch to change but alcohol is worse to break or just as bad as any other addiction the only thing is that you can die from alcohol detox if your not having it medically supervised. maybe write her little notes of encouragement and stick them around the house for her. I am not sure if you would want to repair a marriage with her if she stopped drinking or not that is up to you but do not give her false hope. DO not enable her either if she has two dollars and needs five bucks for alcohol say sorry i am broke go get two bucks worth. you need a balance of touch love and encouraging love and that is hard to do. Remind her of how things used to be sit down with her while she is some what sober show her what she had in the past while she was sober. pictures of the kids. pictures of the two of you. tell her it can be happy again and if she is willing you will hold her hand and help her out. Also kids have to show tough love as well she needs them to make it very clear they are not okay with her actions. That they are very hurt by them. If you try little things like that for say like 30 or 60 days and she does not respond well by saying I will try or maybe I will try then I think you all need to decide how much you will keep lettting your lives be destroyed by this. I will pray for your strength and for hers. I would also yourself go to some AA meetings to maybe get some ideas on how to maybe help her. how others got to the point they sought help. Maybe also get ideas of how the disease works and such... I am actually studying addiction this coming semester in school.
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    Father God, we pray for Didymus and his wife, to love and support one another. Lord we pray please strengthen and give understanding to Didymus' wife to say no to alcholo. Yes Lord please work in her life and bless her.Lord we pray please intervene in her life and bless them together. In Jesus name, Amen!
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    I’m so sorry to hear that, Didymus. I know how painful and confusing it must be for you. I just said a prayer for you and your wife, and I hope that God will provide the wisdom and help you need at this time. Have you ever considered talking with a counselor? Do you think that's something that might be helpful for you personally? I know your situation may seem impossible right now, but I do believe there is hope. Sending blessings & prayers your way!
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    Praying for you and your wife. <3
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    Quote Originally Posted by Didymus View Post
    My wife and I have been married for 39 years; raised four great kids. She has been an alcoholic for the past nine years, it's like a wrecking ball in our family and has caused her and I to kind of separate (separate bedrooms). Have any other men had to deal with this? Thank you for your prayers. Didymus
    I've always lived alone. Maybe you should try separate homes for a while, till she comes to her senses.
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    Thank you, Jennifer. This problem is very deeply rooted in sin. She has been to rehab twice, has a DUI, many other issues. When she is sober she is a wonderful woman; the alcohol makes her into something else. I am not moving out because I believe my marriage vows would not permit that- and I do not want to find her on the floor dead. She is getting a little better but she does not understand what a controlling demon alcohol can be. She won't go to counseling with me, and AA meetings are not helpful- way too worldly. But I appreciate the prayers from all of my new friends here- I have faith that God will give me a miracle. I just have to wait on Him. God bless you all.
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    I am not moving out because I believe my marriage vows would not permit that- and I do not want to find her on the floor dead. But I appreciate the prayers from all of my new friends here- I have faith that God will give me a miracle. I just have to wait on Him. God bless you all.[/QUOTE]

    Hi, Didymus. Your commitment is commendable! I will definitely be praying for you and your wife. God loves you both with an incomprehensible love and cares intimately about your wife’s future and the quality of your marriage. May His grace and peace surround you, sustain you, and guard your heart and mind as you seek a way forward through this dark and troubling time. Stay strong, okay?
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    Thank you, Levi. I feel you love and faith- may it produce much fruit.

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    Yes I will Nicole. Thank you for caring and being a good sister in Christ.

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    Embrace the Grace and Rejoice in His Everlasting Mercy and Love.

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    Thank you my friend.

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