Please pray for my marriage to be saved

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Soho

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I'm not sure what's going on, maybe it's been going on for awhile and I've been too busy to notice it. I feel like my husband and I have lost our bond. I'm questioning it more now than ever. We don't have much to talk about anymore, I feel like we've become strangers in a way. He has given me & provided me with more than I ever dreamed were possible but the one thing I'm longing for most is his love and affection. I've written him a letter pouring out my feelings to him, even purchasing two books, one for me & one for him by Dave & Ashley Willis thinking we could start fresh. But he kinda brushed it off. I'm not sure if it's just too late and we've just grown apart by now. I love my husband but I've lost that closeness with him. I feel like we are strangers to eachother. I feel like as a husband if he loved me he'd want to do something to save us. I mean I don't even know what to think anymore. I know there are things I need to change also, he's constantly saying I'm negative but I feel like my negativity comes from feeling unloved & unwanted by him. I don't know what else to do. I have no one to then to because the outside world thinks everything is perfect, but I feel so lonely, so alone when I should feel anything but this way.
 
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Ariel82

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Will keep you and your family in prayer.
 
levi85

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Lord we pray for soho, and her husband, please bind them with the love, yes Lord heal their relationship, and bless, so that they enjoy their relationship together. Lord work in their lives, let them both understand your will, and glorify your name. Lord bless soho and her husband, in Jesus loving name, Amen!
 
PennEd

PennEd

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Soho said:
I'm not sure what's going on, maybe it's been going on for awhile and I've been too busy to notice it. I feel like my husband and I have lost our bond. I'm questioning it more now than ever. We don't have much to talk about anymore, I feel like we've become strangers in a way. He has given me & provided me with more than I ever dreamed were possible but the one thing I'm longing for most is his love and affection. I've written him a letter pouring out my feelings to him, even purchasing two books, one for me & one for him by Dave & Ashley Willis thinking we could start fresh. But he kinda brushed it off. I'm not sure if it's just too late and we've just grown apart by now. I love my husband but I've lost that closeness with him. I feel like we are strangers to eachother. I feel like as a husband if he loved me he'd want to do something to save us. I mean I don't even know what to think anymore. I know there are things I need to change also, he's constantly saying I'm negative but I feel like my negativity comes from feeling unloved & unwanted by him. I don't know what else to do. I have no one to then to because the outside world thinks everything is perfect, but I feel so lonely, so alone when I should feel anything but this way.
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I'm truly sorry for your pain. I pray the Lord will strengthen your marriage, and that your husband will see what a beautiful gift he has been given
 
PennEd

PennEd

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Here is a wonderful teaching series. In this episode please take notice of the wife's story about her grandmother.[video]https://youtu.be/CwivHjumKbI[/video]
 
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DaTK

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I prayed for this in Jesus name amen
 
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littlestarsmum

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I’m so sorry to hear about your situation, friend. My heart ached as I read your post, and wish I could give you a hug. It's pretty obvious that you want to have a good marriage. I just said a prayer for you and your husband, asking the Lord to bring healing and hope to your marriage. Do you think it would help to speak with a counselor? It might be worth trying. I know your situation isn’t easy right now, but I do believe there is hope. Sending hugs & prayers your way!
 
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kvolm2016

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I am sorry for the sadness you are feeling about your marriage and I applaud you for seeking advice and for having a desire to work on making it better. I was in a similar situation and I also tried getting my husband to read/learn some new strategies for our marriage. But I came to realize that it was not that he didn't want to learn to make our marriage better, he just didn't want to learn by reading about it. Are you familiar with the concept of Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman? It was helpful for me so I wanted to mention it to you as well.
 
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Soho said:
I'm not sure what's going on, maybe it's been going on for awhile and I've been too busy to notice it. I feel like my husband and I have lost our bond. I'm questioning it more now than ever. We don't have much to talk about anymore, I feel like we've become strangers in a way. He has given me & provided me with more than I ever dreamed were possible but the one thing I'm longing for most is his love and affection. I've written him a letter pouring out my feelings to him, even purchasing two books, one for me & one for him by Dave & Ashley Willis thinking we could start fresh. But he kinda brushed it off. I'm not sure if it's just too late and we've just grown apart by now. I love my husband but I've lost that closeness with him. I feel like we are strangers to eachother. I feel like as a husband if he loved me he'd want to do something to save us. I mean I don't even know what to think anymore. I know there are things I need to change also, he's constantly saying I'm negative but I feel like my negativity comes from feeling unloved & unwanted by him. I don't know what else to do. I have no one to then to because the outside world thinks everything is perfect, but I feel so lonely, so alone when I should feel anything but this way.
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**** (praying)----- don't bother you husband too much---- pray and trust God to bring his heart back to you---- be there for him--- if you smother him he will push off...
 
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iveseenworse

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i pray your love and marriage is restored an.d rejuvenated
 
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JustWhoIAm

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Love? Yes.

My advice is that you just keep the faith. My prayer would be that God would grant you wisdom and love, from your husband or from the divine.
 
blue_ladybug

blue_ladybug

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Change your attitude. Help yourself, and God will help you. :)
 
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Tinkerbell725

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Don't focus on his shortcomings as a husband because you will always be frustrated and it will only lead to complaining which husbands hate. And besides, you can't control him. Focus on what you can control, and that is your own shortcomings and on how you can improve your role as a wife.
 
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Breakthrough

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I'm sorry about your situation. I came across this article and thought it might interest you. How Can We Keep from Drifting Apart? | Focus on the Family
Have you considered marriage counseling? I know Focus on the Family has free counseling service that can provide you guidance and resources. If you want to talk to a Christian counselor, call 855-382 5433.
Meanwhile, I'm lifting you up in prayer. God bless.
 
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jenniferand2

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Sit down take your own inventory of what you would like to change.... If you have to trap him in the bedroom half naked I am sure that will get his attention..... If he values your marriage he will listen. Problems arise when people forget to spend time with their spouse doing adult things like going on a date. It is going to take both of you to repair what is broken. If he is checking out and does not want to fix things then he needs to be upfront with you and tell you why.. I think he needs to hear yu feelings out and you need to her his. So agree to sit down for x amount of time uninterrupted. means no cell phones etc... Talk to each other. Make rules up like I am allowed to say how I feel and you can only respond in a positive attitude. THis will avoid you arguing instead... Must keep voice volume normal while talking etc...
 
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