Help my relationship

For over a year now my relationship with my children's father hasaid been going downhill, he seems to be acting like a single fatherless child. He's 28 we have 4 kids together, I'm 26 . He hangs out with 17 and 18 year Olds and lately has been acting like them, he ignores his kids, the kids are afraid to ask him to do anything with them because they know he'll either say no or yell at them because he doesn't have time between texting aND being gone all the time. It hurts me to see him treat our kids that way. He didn't use to act this way. He use to be a good dad and put his kids first. But for a year now it's all changing. I don't know what to do

Honestly, all you can do is pray for him. Also, with your kids, just try not to talk about him in front of them in negative light. It will only hurt you both in their eyes. I would make sure they are doing as much as they can at church and at school. Keeping them busy or having friends sleepover will help distract them from what they are missing. If he's hanging out with younger people, chances are he's probably up to no good. Hey, sometimes men don't ever grow up. No offense to those of you who do.

I'm sorry, but the above advise was just plain bad. "Just accept it and try to keep your kids too busy to notice their dad doesn't want to do anything with them"? Really?

Have you spoken to him? Sat down, calmly, without accusations, and just told him how you, and his kids, are interpreting his actions? Telling him they are afraid to ask him things. Key to this is not pointing fingers but explaining.
If so, and he continues, then perhaps it's time to get some marriage counseling.

What God has brought together, let nothing separate it! (Can't remember the verse) Lord I ask that You bring up the root cause/problem in this mans life! Lord I ask that's he sees his family as a blessing and not a curse, I ask that he opens up and shares what is going on inside to his wife and THEY can work through this. In Jesus name!!! Amen

Not sure if this is me or what but feel like it's the " midlife crisis" he's 28 with 30 knocking on the door. Again not sure if that is it. But our culture is driving us to grow up so fast that one day we wake up and feel like we missed it.

Nothing shall be impossible with God.

Lord please change Suzy4's husband and fill with love for his kids and ,his wife. Yes Lord we agree, with this prayer, please bless, in Jesus loving name, Amen!

Praying for him

Lord please heal this relationship, and help this man realize that he needs you, and needs to take care of his kids. In Jesus' name, amen.

My apologies. I misread. I thought they were divorced. Also, I never said accept it...And I figured she had already talked to him about it. That is not advice I would give to a married couple...Except for the part about praying for him.

No worries I sort of understood what you meant and I do continue to pray for our situation. As far as talking to him, he's very hard to talk to because he sees nothing wrong in anything he does so I usually say nothing just see how fast it gets before I finally break.

I will pray for you both. I pray that God shines a light on his actions so he can see them through your eyes and his children's eyes and how those actions are damaging the relationships he has with each one of his family members. I pray that he will change his hurtful ways and rely upon the Lord to guide him in establishing the proper role as a Christian husband and father in your home. I also pray that the Lord gives you the extra strength, patience, and all the extra love in your heart you can share with your children as our Lord works on your husband. Amen.