Hi Iris, Sorry you are going through this tough time. Your mom may be depressed. Maybe you could remind her of some of God's promises and just be there to support and listen. My mom was 85 when she broke her hip. She had lived alone and was independent but while in rehab she got a bit down and the staff saw her as a weak old lady so they didn't push her. My sister and I had expectations she would live independently again. I listened to her, but did not feed into her thoughts. She thanked me later and said I was her coach. She was a believer so I was able to tell her God had plans for her and that even though she was feeling pain, felt weak etc. tomorrow would be better. She lived to age 92. Lord, use this time to show Iris' mom you are in control and only you can bring her true joy in the midst of hard times and give Iris wisdom to know how she can be used.