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JamesD

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My wife and I were married for 12 years. She was my high school sweetheart. I loved her with all my heart and I still do. I am in a lot of pain. I really need prayer. I am trying to contact her but she doesn't answer me. Is this God's way of telling me I should let her go? I feel lost and don't know what to do. Please pray I can find peace, joy and healing. Thank you.


Also, I thought I would point out that she left me for another guy. This breaks me even more.
 

blue_ladybug

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She made her intentions clear when she left you for another guy. Don't try to contact her.. Just pray for her, and pray to know where to go from here..
 

tourist

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She just didn't just leave but left you for another guy. Don't waste your time calling her, instead call a divorce lawyer. I'm not sure what God is telling you but it is clear that you are no longer important to her as her husband. Sorry about what happen, been there, done that, bought the T-shirt. Plan on moving forward without her.
 
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Stewart

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My wife and I were married for 12 years. She was my high school sweetheart. I loved her with all my heart and I still do. I am in a lot of pain. I really need prayer. I am trying to contact her but she doesn't answer me. Is this God's way of telling me I should let her go? I feel lost and don't know what to do. Please pray I can find peace, joy and healing. Thank you.


Also, I thought I would point out that she left me for another guy. This breaks me even more.



I am so so sorry this has happened to you.Oh dear oh dear.You must be absolutely devastated!!!
You haven't said when she left you??..I get the impression that it wasn't that long ago that she left you..
yes of course I will pray for you man..Of course you still love her and it must be hard not to try to contact her coz you have been married to her for 12 years and you say she was your high school sweetheart too...man it's not gonna be easy to let go.
The fact that she doesn't reply to your attempts to contact her must he killing you coz it makes you feel even more rejected by her.man..life can be so cruel at times.

God understands the intense pain you're suffering and draw near to him because your in a lot of pain right now and must be in a bad way.Yet the more you try to contact her..the more she may reject you and the more hurt you will feel and feeling unwanted and disregarded by her.Yes your right that the fact that she left you for another man will hurt even more as the guy now is experiencing affection from her ect which is what you crave from her.

Do you attend church where you can get support from them.???
I am concern about your welfare!!
 
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Stewart

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Hi me again there is a poem I added under the thread ."christian poems & poetry". Entitled "GOD KNOWS YOU PAIN" please please have a read of this poem....I will capture exactly how you feel at this time and you may gain even a grain of comfort from the words.We care about you bro and my thoughts are with you right now!
 

Socreta93

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Let her go, she clearly doesn't love and you deserve much much better than her. I know you still love her you should move on.
 

Desertsrose

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My wife and I were married for 12 years. She was my high school sweetheart. I loved her with all my heart and I still do. I am in a lot of pain. I really need prayer. I am trying to contact her but she doesn't answer me. Is this God's way of telling me I should let her go? I feel lost and don't know what to do. Please pray I can find peace, joy and healing. Thank you.Also, I thought I would point out that she left me for another guy. This breaks me even more.
Hi James,


I'm sorry to hear about your wife leaving you for another guy after 12 years.


Personally, if my husband left me for another woman, I would wait on God. Yes what your wife did is terrible, it's horrible, it's sinful, she broke her marriage vows, etc.


I believe that God calls us to forgive. God is all about restoration. He forgave us for a boatload and sins.


Yes you have grounds for divorce, but I would like to encourage you to wait upon God and see if He'll work a miracle in your marriage. I have heard where the injured party has prayed, waited upon the Lord, changed their own sins that might have attributed to the break up of the marriage and God worked mightily in their lives.


In one case, the husband waited over 2 years for his wife to change; God worked in his wife a change of heart and they both had a better marriage in the end. Not all will change, but it's worth it to wait because our God is a miracle working God. There is always hope if one is willing to forgive.


I would recommend finding a male prayer partner and a confidant so you can unload all you're going through. They can help you through it all and help you see things more clearly if they're objective.


I want to say kudos to you for loving your wife through thick and thin, for better and for worse. I know I would still love my husband if he cheated on me. I may get angry, hurt or whatever, but I would still love him.
 

levi85

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Lord we pray for JamesD, bless him with your peace, Joy and healing, at this time, when his wife left him. Lord we pray let his wife return and love him and respect him. Bless them to forgive one another, put the differences aside.Lord we pray let his wife answer the call and return to him soon. Lord we agree and pray let you bless JamesD, with his wife's return. In Jesus merciful name, Amen!
 
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joefizz

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Father God I pray unto you for ,James D,for he mourns for his wife whom has left him,and I pray you comfort him for he was married for so long that they were as one and now he feels pain for his other half's splitting of ways,Please God if the marriage is beyond repair then at the very least Comfort,JamesD in this time of sadness and loss,in Jesus's holy name I pray,AMEN.
 
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JamesD

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Hi me again there is a poem I added under the thread ."christian poems & poetry". Entitled "GOD KNOWS YOU PAIN" please please have a read of this poem....I will capture exactly how you feel at this time and you may gain even a grain of comfort from the words.We care about you bro and my thoughts are with you right now!
Hi brother Stewart. I will read it soon. Thank you for your kind words. Today I had dinner with my family and I felt a little better. I think I just need to get out of the house more and if I'm alone talk to God about all this.

Also, thank you to everyone else who has answered. I don't know if she'll ever want to come back to me. Maybe not. Right now I am open to her coming back but she's not budging. I can't just move on from her that easily. Hopefully, with time I will. She left me on Friday. So it's very fresh in my mind and soul. God bless you all for helping me out I really appreciate it.
 
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Stewart

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Hi brother Stewart. I will read it soon. Thank you for your kind words. Today I had dinner with my family and I felt a little better. I think I just need to get out of the house more and if I'm alone talk to God about all this.

Also, thank you to everyone else who has answered. I don't know if she'll ever want to come back to me. Maybe not. Right now I am open to her coming back but she's not budging. I can't just move on from her that easily. Hopefully, with time I will. She left me on Friday. So it's very fresh in my mind and soul. God bless you all for helping me out I really appreciate it.


Hi James D..at was just this Friday it is going to be fresh in your mind for sure and your dead right you just can't move on as quickly as that.Plus of course you heart is ope yo want her back and you need to give things a bit more time as nothing is impossible with God. May God cause the adulterous relationship she's having with this other guy quickly fall apart and god uses it to make her realise that she's made a terrible mistake and want to save the marriage.
I am sure in your heart you would do anything to get her back and only you and her knows the dynamics of you marriage and of course god.
Glad you felt a little better and have your family around you...It must be comforting to know that you have access to this forum of complete strangers who are here to support you via prayer and whatever advice we can give.
Please keep in touch with us and let us know how tings are..We won't be forgetting about you.Regardless of what's happened you have tremendous worth before God and regardless of why your wife left you..We all need gods grace,mercy and kindness in times of pain,heartbreak and need.
 

LookUp1430

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Very sorry your are going through this. Of course I will pray for you. Jesus told the story of the prodigal son. I'm sure the father prayed every day his son would return, and he did. Hopefully, your wife will return to your open arms too. Hang in there and give your pain to Jesus. He will comfort you during your time of need.
 
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JamesD

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I too hope she returns to me. I can't stand being without her. Today completes one week. I have flooded her phone with voicemails that I filled up her mailbox. I hope she soon realizes how much I love her and need her.
 

EarnestQ

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You didn't mention what you did to contribute to the breakup. Were you emotionally or physically abusive toward her. Did you honor, respect and love her the way Christ loves the church.

I am not accusing you of wrong, but the probability is that you are not perfect and need to change too. Whether or not she returns, you are responsible to God to change to become more like Him.

The more like Him you become the better the chance the marriage can be saved. And if it is too late, it is still the right thing to do.
 
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kittycat7

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"I have made you known to them, and will continue to make you known in order that the love you have for me may be in them and that I myself may be in them."
 
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Hi James,


I'm sorry to hear about your wife leaving you for another guy after 12 years.


Personally, if my husband left me for another woman, I would wait on God. Yes what your wife did is terrible, it's horrible, it's sinful, she broke her marriage vows, etc.


I believe that God calls us to forgive. God is all about restoration. He forgave us for a boatload and sins.


Yes you have grounds for divorce, but I would like to encourage you to wait upon God and see if He'll work a miracle in your marriage. I have heard where the injured party has prayed, waited upon the Lord, changed their own sins that might have attributed to the break up of the marriage and God worked mightily in their lives.


In one case, the husband waited over 2 years for his wife to change; God worked in his wife a change of heart and they both had a better marriage in the end. Not all will change, but it's worth it to wait because our God is a miracle working God. There is always hope if one is willing to forgive.


I would recommend finding a male prayer partner and a confidant so you can unload all you're going through. They can help you through it all and help you see things more clearly if they're objective.


I want to say kudos to you for loving your wife through thick and thin, for better and for worse. I know I would still love my husband if he cheated on me. I may get angry, hurt or whatever, but I would still love him.

I love your response to this prayer request, it's like gods confirmation to my own marriage.. you seem so full of wisdom I thank God for you <3 my husband is so broken has committed adultery numerous times but I am remainin by his side just as hosea did for Gomer that story gives me strength mind you I'm just shy of being 32 been married for 3 years , and I'm fighting for my marriage and partner through intercession n with love n forgiveness, just thought I'd share, have a good day
 

Zachary24

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I have prayed for you, my friend. God Bless you.