Having to take my mother to court to prove she is not competent

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oldethennew

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recently I asked hub to help me find my 'glasses', for the both of us, this is an 'on-going thing,
he was in another room, and I was ready to step into the shower - long story short,
when I turned the water on, I realized that I HAD MY GLASSES ON'...
we both got a good laugh out of this, but, sometimes it makes
you WONDER?!?!:):rolleyes:
 
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Didymus

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So you'd be fine with your mom living in a house with nothing in it, because that's what the crazy in her told her to do?
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If she was sane enough to know what was going on with her estate and sane enough to "sell her stuff spitefully," yes I would. I'm not judging you or what you have been through but families I know who have forcefully committed a loved one have never seen a positive outcome. Maybe your experience was the exception. My mother was institutionalized for the last four years of her life because my father couldn't take care of her any longer (she wandered). When we checked her in, she had no idea where she was and there was no way she could argue about her placement. I guess that's where I place the benchmark for incompetence. It kind of sounds like Dave's mom is still aware of what's going on, and doesn't make good decisions based upon emotions or anger. It just doesn't sound like she is completely loony, as she has a good idea of what she owns and how she can use it to create drama.

I'm going to respectfully abstain from this discussion because I believe this is a spiritual issue and that the money is a part of the problem. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. Good luck Dave- I will be praying, and I wish you the very best.
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dave_in_KWC

dave_in_KWC

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Depleted, it is so refreshing to see your response which I think is in such an experienced and wise way.

The legal team we have has done similar cases to ours numerous times and took on our case confidently believing they could help what is a terrible and sad situation. My mother's irrational hatred and fear of me is well documented medically and she has turned on various medical authorities while she has been in hospital, as well. In the past two years, she has been involuntarily committed to hospital for psychiatric and abusive behaviour (toward me).

The problem is whether or not the judge will see her as just psychiatrically unstable or actually incompetent. We believe she is extremely vulnerable to being used by the lawyer she employed (our legal team is warning him because even though the Judge has kicked this lawyer off as her representative in our case with my mom, he is still taking care of the legal issues associated with selling her house and he likely changed her will, too (she has changed the will on me and removed me from he will and replaced me 4 times already). Her previous lawyer fired her because of her irrational behaviour.

I just wish we didn't need to take her to court to get this mess sorted out. I so wish my dad was still alive, he was the only one who could get her to act rationally, and he could only do that on occasion.

We are so sad about all this, it is a terrible mess and very expensive! But if I hadn't acted she would totally decimate the estate that my dad built for her care!
 
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dave_in_KWC said:
Depleted, it is so refreshing to see your response which I think is in such an experienced and wise way.

The legal team we have has done similar cases to ours numerous times and took on our case confidently believing they could help what is a terrible and sad situation. My mother's irrational hatred and fear of me is well documented medically and she has turned on various medical authorities while she has been in hospital, as well. In the past two years, she has been involuntarily committed to hospital for psychiatric and abusive behaviour (toward me).

The problem is whether or not the judge will see her as just psychiatrically unstable or actually incompetent. We believe she is extremely vulnerable to being used by the lawyer she employed (our legal team is warning him because even though the Judge has kicked this lawyer off as her representative in our case with my mom, he is still taking care of the legal issues associated with selling her house and he likely changed her will, too (she has changed the will on me and removed me from he will and replaced me 4 times already). Her previous lawyer fired her because of her irrational behaviour.

I just wish we didn't need to take her to court to get this mess sorted out. I so wish my dad was still alive, he was the only one who could get her to act rationally, and he could only do that on occasion.

We are so sad about all this, it is a terrible mess and very expensive! But if I hadn't acted she would totally decimate the estate that my dad built for her care!
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You live in a more intelligent state than I do. Here no one can be placed involuntary.

It's so bad, about ten years ago my city started an initiative to get the homeless off the streets and give them homes. 90% got off the streets. The others would not specifically because they are fully insane, and won't/can't make that decision for themselves. And yet, by law, it is still only their decision to make.

I am praying for you, and I pray this cycle ends quickly.
 
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