Having to take my mother to court to prove she is not competent

Having to take my mother to court to prove that she's not competent has been one of the most trying of all things in my life, so far.

At this point we have spent many thousands of dollars in court to try to stop my mom from firing me as her power of attorney (POA) and disinheriting me for the 5th time.

She has a history of severe mental instability that has just been made worse by the death of my father in 2015. Since then, for fear I would have her psychiatrically commited she has stolen my business smart phone (for fear I would record and sumbit to the authorities her rants and ravings) and fired me as her POA (twice in the past two years and disinherited me 4 times in the past 17 years.

My family cannot allow her to terrorize us with her threats and action and manipulations any more and thus we hired one of the best Estate Litagation teams in the country and as of April have had to go to court to prove she was not competent to fire me as her POA this past Winter. Her previous lawyer who handled her legal affairs refused to continue as her lawyer this past Fall and the only lawyer she could find to fire me has been a person my lawyer has out-and-out called a "shyster". The Judge in the case has already removed this lawyer of my mom's from representing my mother in this matter before his court and the judge assigned a lawyer for my mom that is highly respected in this Estate Litigation court.

We are struggling financially to have liquid assests to pay our ongoing legal bills (at the end of July 2017 here we expect another bill for at least $5K! S)

Please pray that we can see this battle through and that we can reconcile somehow with my mom and see an amicible/friendly solution to her bitter rejection of me. She is not well and we need the best Geriatric Psychiatrist in the area to be permitted to examione and assess her competency and give expert testimony on whether she was competent to fire me and disinherit me.

Blessings as you pray!

Please feel free to comment.

instead of spending vast amounts of $$$ - on determining what another person is
capable of, spend it on ways that will show her how much you Love her and care for her -
obviously there are multiple 'family members' involved, so, get them really involved and make
a family effort to appoint someone whom she 'trust's', and that can give HER some piece...

we know what we are talking about, been there...

Trust Jesus Christ to lead, and not man-made-mandates'...

LUKE 12:13-14-15.
And one of the company said unto him, Master, speak to my brother, that he divide the inheritance with me.

And He said unto him, Man, who made me a judge or a divider over you?

And He said unto them, Take heed, and beware of covetousness: for a man's life consisteth not
in the abundance of the things which he possesseth.

praying for you ALL,..

go instead for the 'Gold', what Jesus would have you ALL do together as a 'unit', if possible,
for Her, after all, she is why you are all here in the first place....

there are 'worldly-matters' and there are 'Godly-Matters'...

instead of spending vast amounts of $$$ - on determining what another person is
capable of, spend it on ways that will show her how much you Love her and care for her -
obviously there are multiple 'family members' involved, so, get them really involved and make
a family effort to appoint someone whom she 'trust's', and that can give HER some piece...

we know what we are talking about, been there...

Trust Jesus Christ to lead, and not man-made-mandates'...

LUKE 12:13-14-15.
And one of the company said unto him, Master, speak to my brother, that he divide the inheritance with me.

And He said unto him, Man, who made me a judge or a divider over you?

And He said unto them, Take heed, and beware of covetousness: for a man's life consisteth not
in the abundance of the things which he possesseth.

praying for you ALL,..

go instead for the 'Gold', what Jesus would have you ALL do together as a 'unit', if possible,
for Her, after all, she is why you are all here in the first place....

there are 'worldly-matters' and there are 'Godly-Matters'...

Exactly, I don't see much love at all in his post. Is she forceful about re-inheriting him, and making him POA, 'again', or is it the other way round? She fears he will try to get her committed, so exactly what does he mean when he says 'Having to take my mother to court to prove that she's not competent' if it is not that?

I appreciate you trying to be helpful, oldethennew, however I have prayed and sought the wise counsel of mentors and elders within my circle of trust. If I knew you I might solicit your advice, but the fact that you offer it so critically (I came here asking for prayer) and without you asking me for more information before offering me such critical advice, belies why I would not seek your counsel.

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Having to take my mother to court to prove that she's not competent has been one of the most trying of all things in my life, so far.

At this point we have spent many thousands of dollars in court to try to stop my mom from firing me as her power of attorney (POA) and disinheriting me for the 5th time.

She has a history of severe mental instability that has just been made worse by the death of my father in 2015. Since then, for fear I would have her psychiatrically commited she has stolen my business smart phone (for fear I would record and sumbit to the authorities her rants and ravings) and fired me as her POA (twice in the past two years and disinherited me 4 times in the past 17 years.

My family cannot allow her to terrorize us with her threats and action and manipulations any more and thus we hired one of the best Estate Litagation teams in the country and as of April have had to go to court to prove she was not competent to fire me as her POA this past Winter. Her previous lawyer who handled her legal affairs refused to continue as her lawyer this past Fall and the only lawyer she could find to fire me has been a person my lawyer has out-and-out called a "shyster". The Judge in the case has already removed this lawyer of my mom's from representing my mother in this matter before his court and the judge assigned a lawyer for my mom that is highly respected in this Estate Litigation court.

We are struggling financially to have liquid assests to pay our ongoing legal bills (at the end of July 2017 here we expect another bill for at least $5K! S)

Please pray that we can see this battle through and that we can reconcile somehow with my mom and see an amicible/friendly solution to her bitter rejection of me. She is not well and we need the best Geriatric Psychiatrist in the area to be permitted to examione and assess her competency and give expert testimony on whether she was competent to fire me and disinherit me.

Blessings as you pray!

Please feel free to comment.

Exactly, I don't see much love at all in his post. Is she forceful about re-inheriting him, and making him POA, 'again', or is it the other way round? She fears he will try to get her committed, so exactly what does he mean when he says 'Having to take my mother to court to prove that she's not competent' if it is not that?

My brother, if it were my mother I would let her do as she pleases, regardless of her level of sanity. I know this may be hard, but it is all about the money at this point. Relinquish the POA and wash your hands of the manipulative dealings and threats which are all about the money. Jesus said you can't love God and mammon.

I will pray for you Dave- I know there is a lot more to this story than what you are able to share. I will pray for peace in the family and for reconciliation in the family, regardless of your mom's sanity. I know you are trying to honor your mother, and please continue doing so my friend. Recognize that it isn't her who is creating all of this drama, it is our adversary.

Best of luck to you.
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I get more insight out of this post than the OP.