I'm stressed watching my husband

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happyface

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My husband is poorly, it breaks my heart he's fighting. Talking about buying a narrow boat is his dream, but he's no where near fit enough and neither am I, due to my own ill health with feet and mental health problems. It's breaking my heart he's never happy, watching someone suffer is tiring and sufficating at times. I'm fully aware of what's happening but I get so tired mentally. I can see him being snappy and he can take it out on me. It's so hard. None understands cancer until they have looked after someone with it, so many unwanted symptoms he has from peeing alot to not eating.
 

blue_ladybug

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Happy, if I recall correctly, Rod had a poor attitude and behavior even BEFORE he found out he has cancer. There are many here who have gone through cancer, and are currently going through it..

Any disease makes a person scared, angry, etc. I was scared crapless when I had it. I questioned why I got cancer, when I don't smoke or drink or anything. I asked God "why me". Why me and not my sister who smokes like a chimney.. Rod is angry because he is helpless to do anything to fight this cancer. It's too advanced and he knows that. He knows he's dying and can't change that.

If he has dreams of buying a boat, or moving, or whatever, don't take those dreams away from him. Don't tell him it's impossible, even though he is. Those dreams give him something to look forward to, even though he knows he is going to die..
 

crmvet

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Philippians 4:13
 

Sac555

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Life is hard for sure. Glad we get to look forward to a place with no more tears, disease, etc! I have experienced what you are, and all lI know is it is worth it to look at each new day as the Lord says to...There are mercies new everyday; always be thankful; keep asking Him, and always pray. Praying for you!
 
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have you ever thought that maybe 'he's' tired and suffocating for having to watch YOU suffer?

don't ever 'give-in', this is our battle, and this is where Jesus Comes IN'...
 

littlestarsmum

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I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going through, friend. My heart goes out to you, and I wish I could give you a hug. Though I don’t have words to convey my care and concern, I just said a prayer for you, asking the Lord to surround you with His loving presence and provide the comfort, strength, and help you need at this time. I know it’s not easy, but stay strong. "The Lord is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in Him." (Nahum 1: 7). Sending hugs to you!
 

levi85

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Father God bless Rod and Happyface, in this matter and you be glorified. In Jesus Holy name, Amen!
 

happyface

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What all beautiful people you are. I'm so touched to see so many caring people. God bless you all. Xxx
 

happyface

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Tonight I'm in shock my husband has shed blood in his bowel movement, he's wanting toilet all the time. My own mam wasn't there for me today, I knew this was building up. It's hard.
 

blue_ladybug

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He belongs in hospice care..or better yet, the hospital. His symptoms are only going to worsen until he's gone.. :( Just keep trusting in God, Happy..


Tonight I'm in shock my husband has shed blood in his bowel movement, he's wanting toilet all the time. My own mam wasn't there for me today, I knew this was building up. It's hard.
 

KALYNA18

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The Lord will give you strength happyface. {The joy of the Lord is our strength.}Nehemiah 8:10
 

blue_ladybug

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Thank you for the rep comments.. :)


He belongs in hospice care..or better yet, the hospital. His symptoms are only going to worsen until he's gone.. :( Just keep trusting in God, Happy..
 

happyface

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It's blood he had in his urine not bowel, but it's gone now. I'm upset because Rod doesn't like where we live at all due to not knowing anyone, I would love to be in a area I feel happy. Our neighbours are troubled and smoke cannabis. I'm praying a suitable bungalow comes up with the council and before Rod gets to poorly. We can then be nearer my parents hopefully. I cry because I do feel alone and anxious because of where we live.
 

tourist

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I will continue to pray for you and your husband for your situation to dramatically improve. I know that you're worn out both physically and mentally. You are in need of rest and a place of peace and tranquility. May God be with you on your journey.