Restoration of My Marriage and Family

Hello,

My name is Eric, I would like to ask if my brothers and sisters in Christ would offer their prayers for my marriage and family. I began a previous thread explaining that my wife had left me after 13 years of marriage. We are both 34 years old, we are literally 2 days apart, I'm 2 days older than her. We met when we were 7 years old, we have 7 children together. My wife and I struggled to make God first and ultimately ended up living with strife in our marriage. My wife's name is Veronica, she has explained that there is not a prayer in this world that would bring her back to our home again and that my efforts I'm making are too little and too late. I myself have also brought this to The Lord. The Lord has begun His good work in me, drawing me back to Him, I would not have preferred it to be this way but He has rescued me from myself which I know was a miracle in itself. As I mentioned we have 7 children together, my wife has kept 4 with her and I have 3 with me. My children who are with me, 12, 11, 8, all share with me how much they want their mommy to come back home. I have come to The Lord to strengthen me for them which He has but I still struggle with this as I don't believe The Lord has separated us for good. I'm the store manager of a retail store and the job became over demanding. The job offer came as a blessing as it was a good fit for my career path with my experience and it also fit well for my family financially due to us usually struggling financially year after year. We moved to this area which is further from her family, she bonds much closer to her family than I do with mine. I ended up working up to 100 hours at work each week but did all I could to keep my family taken care of financially, meanwhile my wife was at home caring for 7 children alone. I figured we were both working as hard as we could to keep our family taken care of. I began to feel resentful because my family pretty much forgot about me and weren't so happy to see me anymore. In between time my wife and I would argue just over the stress alone. On Sunday's because we were so far from our Church while I was at work she would dedicate time with our children to watch Church service on TV. I believe she was reaching out to The Lord for help but I would reject it out of resentment. Nearly 3 months ago we had our final argument, she took all our children and their things and left while I was at work. She moved in with her sister who has a deep hatred for me due to my wife spending more of her time with me than with their sister who lost her battle with breast cancer 2 years ago which my wife has given in to the guilt her sister has made her feel. My children shared with me how her sister who is two years older than us convinces her everyday not to come back home to me. Since my wife left she has spoken very little with me until recently. She has told me that there is another man she is getting involved with and she will not turn from that because there are too many scars she has with me that can't be healed and that all I do is remind her of these scars. I haven't felt as much pain ever in my lifetime. What's hard to understand is I forgive her for having done that. Since I've given this to The Lord He continues to lead me to His words about faithfulness in marriage and restoration. I decided to seek counsel to help me to deal with abuse I suffered when I was a child which I feel may have had a negative impact on my marriage. I never hit my wife but our arguements were very damaging. I don't believe The Lord is done with her and I don't believe He is done with this marriage, I do believe The Lord wants her back as He has taken me back but she has closed her heart to anything I have to say and most likely anything The Lord has to say as well, I believe she may feel The Lord let her down including me mostly. I apologize for the rant but I still have so much hope and faith in our marriage, she has told me to move on but I have no interest or intentions to pursue another. I love my wife very much and I love the work The Lord is doing in me during this time. Thank you for taking the time to read our situation. God Bless

It is hard to read like this kind of post... The pain and the hurt...

Dear Lord protect my brother's family make this family whole again. Touch the heart of his wife Lord remind her of her commitment she made to her husband. In Jesus name! Amen


This too will pass your family will live happily again ..be strong brother Eric for your family continue to trust the Lord . I will include your family in my prayers everyday. God be with you.

In the end I think that it was to much for her and she took what seemed to be an easy way out. I hope that it has not reached the point of actually committing adultery with this other man, if so that will most likely prove to be devastating to the marriage. You're not ranting but you are in a lot of pain and suffering, besides that you're overworked. I have said a prayer for your situation but I'm afraid that you're in for a long rough patch of road.

Hi Eric,
I can definitely relate to your situation and my heart pours out to you with so much empathy. I can also relate to your absolute positive faith-based outlook and the inner strength you are able to muster from within to persistently regroup and stay motivated.
I'll pray for you and your family... God Bless

Father God we pray for EricJ79 and Veronica, let you bring them together and bind them with your love. Let no power of darkness separate them and destroy their peace , joy in the family. Lord destroy all the plan of devils, bless them and you be glorified in their life a, marriage and family. Lord bless this EricJ79 family. Lord we ask let EricJ79 and Veronica , be together and bless your name, Lord please bless. In Jesus Holy name, Amen!

I’m so sorry to hear about your situation, Eric. My heart ached as I read your post. I know how difficult and painful it must be for you. It’s good you’ve decided to seek counseling. Please know that we’ll continue to pray for you and your family, asking God to bring healing and hope to your relationship. Your situation may seem impossible right now, but stay strong. Sending prayers your way!

Ultimately…you have to trust in God, that He will exercise his will according to His plan and His manner of execution! What I mean, give it to God, Trust in Him, and it will unfold as He has willed it. I know, sucks, but often times (me included) we look at tragedy and strife as nothing but awful and there is no silver lining. My wife cheated on me almost ten years ago, it took us almost three years to recover, and today, believe it or not, we’re much happier and have such a better relationship now more than ever! Put all those things aside, the sister, her dating again, encourage her to seek counseling with you, take the negativity and give it to God. Continue praying, as I will do for you as well, and work on yourself. Truly be critical of yourself, if there is a fault or catalyst, just as I had to do with my wife, I found out there were several different reasons or faults of my own that contributed to her poor decision making paradigm, I’m not making excuses for her or excusing her, but we all contribute to the ride we’re on, both positive and negative. Take responsibility for YOU, work on YOU, spiritually and physically, and keep praying about your marriage and that your wife’s heart will soften! If I’ve learned anything over this last decade, and this won’t make you feel any better except to give you hope, is that the some of the toughest times I’ve had to endure were for my betterment…forging the impurities from my system and I can look back and see God’s purpose, but going through it…well, I couldn’t see the proverbial light at the end of the tunnel, as I’m sure you’re having trouble seeing as well. Stand firm, respect her needs right now, be a servant, not only to her, but your family and most of all, to God!

Lord almighty, bless this man with courage, strength, grace, and overwhelm him, his family, and his wife with your Holy Spirit Jesus! Soften their hearts, help them to comprehend their path quickly, heal their marriage in a manner only you can Jesus, protect their kids and strengthen them in the process while rebuilding this marriage! God, only you have the power, I ask in your son’s name to have mercy on this man and his broken family, heal them and bring them back together! Amen.

Been trying to submit my response to you two times now and it keeps on closing, so now you know the devil does not want me to reply! gave me tears, because I am in the same situation not that matters but threes a difference you are a man and I'm the lady. I am only 20 years of age, and been married for 10 months now. my husband was sent somewhere else to work right after a church retreat where we declared him for Christ. I bet your hurting so much that you truly do not even know if she will come back, but she will I say and God says once two become one there isn't no man or devil who can separate what God brought together in two! yes this is a big part of your fault but same for the lady. Just like it is mine but even bigger my husband things gota happen sometimes, so we'll see God is the only one we have to love and praise. See I put so much love into a man. instead of God instead of praising God I praised my husband and I've reliazed before I am his. We are Gods first! your marriage will be restored, keep fighting, keep fasting, and I really will pray for you just like you do for me please. I trust in God and I'm amazed how I had the opp to hear from your story that is so much similar to mine to understand that the devil is not playing with anyone and I'm grateful and I know for a fact if your faith , your prayers and trust is in Lord, first all our desires will come to us. don't loose hope, keep holding on!

Doesn't anyone know what a paragraph is anymore?

Praying now !!