Prayer for my husband

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blossom1989

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My husband and I are having trouble raising our 18 month old toddler boy. My husband was raised in a broken home with an abusive father. He holds alot of resentment & anger . Lately in this past year . He has been having off behavior. Angry outburts mood changes & has picked up cigarette habit. He won't get up for work or go in super late . This happen every 2-3 weeks. Where his behavior completely changes. He will start being verbally abusive distant . I don't know whats goin g on. On the good weeks his great he gets up for work. Sometimes visit s us for lunch comes home takes out for a walk & dinner. His great talkative happy etc. I'm contemplating leaving him before our son gets older and really understands what going on. It's getting really hard living like this. Specially with our son wanting & looking for dad figure that goes distant from him and pushes him away. Can you please pray for us. Thank you!
 

levi85

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Father God bless blossom1989, her husband and their toddler. Lord let them leave peacefully and happily. Bring changes in her husband character, let him be no more abusive, but with respect and lkve towards his family. Lord bless 3 of them and remove all these negative things from her husband's life. Lord we agree with this prayer, please bless this prayer, in Jesus loving name, Amen!
 
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Zi

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So you judge him now and assume this will continue so you want to leave and protect you child? Are you qualified to see the future? You think you leaving because of your feelings is fair? What if stops but you're too busy being hurt? He's still a baby.. you expect your husband to be perfect, can't he experience life too and figure it out as he goes or he unlike the rest was given a manual and is just ignoring it?
My husband and I are having trouble raising our 18 month old toddler boy. My husband was raised in a broken home with an abusive father. He holds alot of resentment & anger . Lately in this past year . He has been having off behavior. Angry outburts mood changes & has picked up cigarette habit. He won't get up for work or go in super late . This happen every 2-3 weeks. Where his behavior completely changes. He will start being verbally abusive distant . I don't know whats goin g on. On the good weeks his great he gets up for work. Sometimes visit s us for lunch comes home takes out for a walk & dinner. His great talkative happy etc. I'm contemplating leaving him before our son gets older and really understands what going on. It's getting really hard living like this. Specially with our son wanting & looking for dad figure that goes distant from him and pushes him away. Can you please pray for us. Thank you!
 
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Zi

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All I'm saying is let him be human and figure it out. We are quick to give up on people.. we keep love and acceptance conditional it's no way to learn or gain
 

KBond

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I would talk to him and give him the opportunity to improve before you leave...unless you feel you are in an unsafe environment. If he does not improve, tell him you will come back if he does improve. Remember that you have promised to love him for better or for worse. This is the worse. Kids really do need their fathers. Also consider that you may have to give up partial custody of your kid to someone you do not want to be around. Is it possible he is drinking or using drugs? His behavior seems inconsistent. That's why I ask. God can deliver him from whatever it is. Be patient for everyone's sake. Prayers for your situation to improve and for God to lead you in your actions and conversations.
 
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chaoticjoy3

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Have you ever suggested counseling to him? Sometimes, as newer parents, we can be overwhelmed by the responsibility that comes with these beautiful blessings. Maybe he is struggling with something like this, especially since this is new behavior that does not follow suit with who he was before. As moms, we get so busy taking care of these little people that we may forget that our spouses may be dealing with things we neglect to see, unintentionally of course. I will be praying for you and hope you can find someone to talk to who can give you advice on how to help your marriage and restore your relationship with your husband.
 

Sac555

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Dear blossom1989,
Have you thought about counseling? Focus on the Family has a help line that can connect you to ones in your area free of charge or even having a consultation with them. Here is their number. 855-382-5433. I hope you can find help there and some direction. They are highly respected and have lots of resources. Praying for you now!
 
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chaoticjoy3

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Dear blossom1989,
Have you thought about counseling? Focus on the Family has a help line that can connect you to ones in your area free of charge or even having a consultation with them. Here is their number. 855-382-5433. I hope you can find help there and some direction. They are highly respected and have lots of resources. Praying for you now!
Yes! They have a marriage intensive program that could be of help.
 

amurb

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My husband and I are having trouble raising our 18 month old toddler boy. My husband was raised in a broken home with an abusive father. He holds alot of resentment & anger . Lately in this past year . He has been having off behavior. Angry outburts mood changes & has picked up cigarette habit. He won't get up for work or go in super late . This happen every 2-3 weeks. Where his behavior completely changes. He will start being verbally abusive distant . I don't know whats goin g on. On the good weeks his great he gets up for work. Sometimes visit s us for lunch comes home takes out for a walk & dinner. His great talkative happy etc. I'm contemplating leaving him before our son gets older and really understands what going on. It's getting really hard living like this. Specially with our son wanting & looking for dad figure that goes distant from him and pushes him away. Can you please pray for us. Thank you!
Lord God I pray for wisdom for the woman and a very hard decision she needs to make. I pray that she will be led by your spirit to do the right thing for her and her son's safety. In Jesus name. Amen!
 
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blossom1989

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Thank you for your advice. He is not a drinker & he doesn't do drugs. I have asked him about drugs because his behavior is inconsistent like you mentioned. He says no. I asked about maybe him having a mental disorder. He completely changes even the way he looks at us. If I think about leaving is for safety. I fear things getting worse.
 
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winnieoy

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Dear Blossom,
You might have to have him see a doctor about his erratic behavior. I will pray for you and your little one that he does not start hurting both of you physically. I pray that god cast out whatever is inside of him and bring him back to his loving self. Amen
 
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winnieoy

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Dear Blossom,
The reason why I suggest medical advice is I worked in behavioral health and I have seen different levels of behavior. Sometimes we need to use medical intervention to control certain behavior. Blossom, he needs you know more than ever to pray for him to seek medical intervention.
 
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Ugly

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So you judge him now and assume this will continue so you want to leave and protect you child? Are you qualified to see the future? You think you leaving because of your feelings is fair? What if stops but you're too busy being hurt? He's still a baby.. you expect your husband to be perfect, can't he experience life too and figure it out as he goes or he unlike the rest was given a manual and is just ignoring it?
People from abuse often repeat abuse. People who abuse Rarely change. These are facts.
While I do believe she needs to stay, for now, and see if she can get him to counseling and make some changes, which is still possible this early on. But she Does have a responsibility to.plrotect her child as well.
Sometimes people need consequences to prompt change. Consequence doesn't happen by leaving things the same.
 
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My husband and I are having trouble raising our 18 month old toddler boy. My husband was raised in a broken home with an abusive father. He holds alot of resentment & anger . Lately in this past year . He has been having off behavior. Angry outburts mood changes & has picked up cigarette habit. He won't get up for work or go in super late . This happen every 2-3 weeks. Where his behavior completely changes. He will start being verbally abusive distant . I don't know whats goin g on. On the good weeks his great he gets up for work. Sometimes visit s us for lunch comes home takes out for a walk & dinner. His great talkative happy etc. I'm contemplating leaving him before our son gets older and really understands what going on. It's getting really hard living like this. Specially with our son wanting & looking for dad figure that goes distant from him and pushes him away. Can you please pray for us. Thank you!
Wait for him to be in one of his good moods, and ask what's going on. Quite often husband don't like to worry their wives with job problems and such. But if he talks about it he has you on his side to find ways to easy some of the burden on him. The problem is if we don't know the burden we can't help.
 
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winnieoy

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Hi Ugly, I am not suggesting that she stay with him, and I fully agree she does have the responsibility to protect her son and herself and she needs a plan. Also, what I was saying is that he might need medical, behavioral and psychological intervention/treatment to control his behavior. And lots of prayer.
 
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I’m so sorry to hear about your situation, girl. My heart ached as I read your post, and I wish I could give you a hug. I know I’m so sorry to hear about your situation, girl. My heart ached as I read your post, and I wish I could give you a hug. I know how difficult and frustrating it must be for you to go through this. I just said a prayer for you and your husband, asking the Lord to surround you with His comfort and peace, and provide the help you need at this time. Have you ever considered talking with a counselor? Do you think that's something that might be helpful for you personally? A good counselor might be able to give you some solid guidance. Do you think your husband might consider going with you? I know it’s not easy right now, but stay strong. Hugs & prayers!
 
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MollyConnor

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Hi sister! I'm sorry about your family. Have you tried talking to your husband and telling him how all these things make you feel? Tell him it makes you feel insecure and that you want what's best for your child. Tell him that he needs to let go of the bitterness. It's in the past and it's only hurting him.

Also pray...pray pray pray! Thank God for what you have, but ask him to be present in your life. Ask the Lord for his will. His will is perfect and good.