My husband has a bad spending problem. He doesn't tell me what he spends on. When he gets paid every Friday we are broke Monday. This is really playing a huge role on my depression. We have had many discussion's about this and yet nothing has changed. It's like he doesnt understand that it's OURS and not just his. I can't even get insuranxe and a tagbfor my car because of this so that I can get a job for myself. I so badly want and NEED a job. I've prayed on this a lot. We've been together for 5 and a half years and married for three. I really really need all the prayers I can get. His name is Kyle. He is such a wonderful person and husband. He is my best friend. This is the only problem we have. I never ever thought money would be an issue. Please please pray for us. God bless you all. Thanks for the prayers in advance.
I'm in deep serious financial woes in my marriage.
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Is he willing to listen? You could tell him that the money issues will likely lead to bigger issues down the road—wage garnishment, credit issues when you go to buy a house (or a different house, if you have one already), even marriage issues. Then see if you can either work out an arrangement with him to more responsibly handle the income from his job, or see if he'll go to to a counselor with you to get advice.
I don't know if these things will work. But it's worth a try. In the mean time, pray. I am. Godspeed to you in your endeavors!
I don't know if these things will work. But it's worth a try. In the mean time, pray. I am. Godspeed to you in your endeavors!
a true, Godly, marriage is meant to be an equal union -
by his selfishness, it is the same as being a 'cheater'...
he is depriving you in order to satisfy himself, and what
ever he is 'spending' on, it can not be a good thing,
especially since he doesn't care about what you need,
money-wise, but especially your peace of mind..
you need immediate help by a Christian counselor, or you
will most definitely end-up in 'the poor-house'...
this is a terrible thing and very heart-breaking to read...
prayers sent!
by his selfishness, it is the same as being a 'cheater'...
he is depriving you in order to satisfy himself, and what
ever he is 'spending' on, it can not be a good thing,
especially since he doesn't care about what you need,
money-wise, but especially your peace of mind..
you need immediate help by a Christian counselor, or you
will most definitely end-up in 'the poor-house'...
this is a terrible thing and very heart-breaking to read...
prayers sent!
This is a frustration in a lot of marriages. There is usually one saver and one spender and its hard to balance that but it is possible. I’m glad you are praying because that is truly the only way to work through a lot of the obstacles that come up in marriage. God can direct you and help you come together if you are both willing surrender to Him. But for now, maybe you could figure out exactly how much you need in order to get your tags so that you can find that job and ask if he could give you that much on pay day. That way you will be able to pay for your needs until he comes around. Don’t give up, anything is possible with Him.
You are correct, all things are possible for God. Yes, in most marriages there can be frustrations, that's why it's best to place God in the center of the marriage. Communication is key in addressing any issue, particularly when it comes to marriage. You wrote an excellent response. Glad to have you as part of our family. Welcome to CC.
After I wrote this it snowed twice here in Alabama where it never does. Our pipes in iur home busted twice even though we were running the water. So our kitchen flooded as we slept and laundry room. This house was built in 1947. It is a very nice house, just old. Now were working on saving up to get the kitchen floor redone because it totally rotted it. There are holes starting to form. We have been holding on to that new fake looking floor, I forget what you call it, we got for super cheap when we first moved in. Thank the Lord for that. He knew we would need it. We're trying to find a wholesale place for the actual flooring. Everything is too expensive in this tiny town. And our kitchen is a pretty good size as is the whole house. Then, our refrigerator we just got 6 months prior almost started a fire on the wall so we just had to get a new one of those, shoveled out $300 for it. Again, thank the Lord it didn't cost more. These prices these days are super scary. Now were slowly getting the fridge back with food. We had soo much food that had to be thrown away. If he hadn't of gotten up to use the bathroom, he wouldn't have smelled and heard the crackling. Thank you GOD!! THINGS COULD BE SO MUCH WORSE! He got me a car on Christmas because I told him just leave the Cadillac be, it was too much money going into it just for it to keep running hot. He's a mechanic and had even replaced the whole engine with still no avail of the thing to work. And did numerous other things I have no idea what it's all called, lol. So got a $100 Geo Metro feom my friend so we can save the gas and tomorrow will be getting insurance if these people call me back. So every time something goes wrong, the Lord ALWAYS has our back. And no, he doesn't have a substance problem. I've dealt with that before with old boyfriends when I was younger and let them go. So I know all the signs and symptoms. I now know where the money is going but that's a private matter. He jusy assumes what I don't know won't send me into a panic attack. He's learning. He didn't have a dad to show him the ropes, he died when he was a baby in a drunk driver accident. And he didn't get what he needed feom his mom. I also have to remind myself of these things. But, Kyle has come a very long way and I'm proud of him for that. I can still use the prayers as they always help and there are a few of my family's issues holding me down. My cousin has turned my last living grandparent, my Pop away from the family and I sent my Pop a letter last Thursday and I'm sure now he doesn't care about me. The man accused me of stealing my grandmothers Bible after she passed, of all things. I'm sorry for the long comment but my heart aches and I have no friends to vent to lol. But it's less drama that way so hey, I AM NOT complaining. Jesus IS my friend, my big brother.