We are to judge ourselves. Am I being guided by my flesh (emotions, own understanding, intellect, philosophy, impulses, etc) or by the Spirit of the Living God (eternal Truth)?
I agree with you that people show love in various ways. But our dear sister
ManiaStar is depressed because she fears to even address this man about love. Ask her why she is afraid.
As for your question about the Holy City, start another thread regarding it. I don't want to hijack our sister's post.