A pastor's son

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Ellsworth1943

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Spoke last night with a pastor friend in Texas. Seems his son has left a very stable and good paying job to work off shore on an oil rig for about the same income. He will work 28 days straight, not leaving the rig, and then be home for 28 days.
This will leave his wife alone to care for their 4 young children 28 days at a time. She is having a very difficult time understanding his decision. She is questioning his love for her and their children.
My friend is also having a difficult time with this situation. This job change was not necessary.

Please pray for this family.
 
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oldethennew

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Ells,

we are questioning why you chose not to answer our heart-felt 'private note'
to you and your wife about your future plans!
 
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In a typical work week you might get 2 days off a week. In a 4 week period of time that would be 8 days off. In this situation the pastor's son will have 28 days off instead of 8 to spend time with his family, and with the same pay as his last job. Seems like a no-brainer for me. That is a tremendous amount of extra time that can be devoted every 56 days (28 days on, 28 days off, verses 40 days on, 16 days off).

Your friend may be having a hard time but then, it's not his decision to make but his son, not his family but his son's family.

I do understand about the son's wife not wanting to be alone for that length of time but she should realize that what her husband did was probably out of love for his family. Hopefully, if he lives nearby he can check in on his daughter-in-law from time to time during the days that her husband is working.
 
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tourist said:
In a typical work week you might get 2 days off a week. In a 4 week period of time that would be 8 days off. In this situation the pastor's son will have 28 days off instead of 8 to spend time with his family, and with the same pay as his last job. Seems like a no-brainer for me. That is a tremendous amount of extra time that can be devoted every 56 days (28 days on, 28 days off, verses 40 days on, 16 days off).

Your friend may be having a hard time but then, it's not his decision to make but his son, not his family but his son's family.

I do understand about the son's wife not wanting to be alone for that length of time but she should realize that what her husband did was probably out of love for his family. Hopefully, if he lives nearby he can check in on his daughter-in-law from time to time during the days that her husband is working.
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Rig jobs also are mainly hourly, so he is probably getting the same base pay, but will get extra money in the form of OT and they usually pay for travel to and from the rig, helicopter time. that is extra pay as well.

Back when I did it, it was 14 on/14 off. We got paid reg time for 8 hours and anything after 8 was OT, we worked 12 hour shifts. We got double time for helicopter time traveling to and from the rig, which was usually about 1 hour in and 1 hour out.
 
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Ellsworth1943

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tourist said:
In a typical work week you might get 2 days off a week. In a 4 week period of time that would be 8 days off. In this situation the pastor's son will have 28 days off instead of 8 to spend time with his family, and with the same pay as his last job. Seems like a no-brainer for me. That is a tremendous amount of extra time that can be devoted every 56 days (28 days on, 28 days off, verses 40 days on, 16 days off).

Your friend may be having a hard time but then, it's not his decision to make but his son, not his family but his son's family.

I do understand about the son's wife not wanting to be alone for that length of time but she should realize that what her husband did was probably out of love for his family. Hopefully, if he lives nearby he can check in on his daughter-in-law from time to time during the days that her husband is working.
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It may be more days, but less hours. And young children not seeing their father for 28 days at a time does not seem good.
I was told that his son made this decision without even talking with his wife.
 
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Ellsworth1943

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oldethennew said:
Ells,

we are questioning why you chose not to answer our heart-felt 'private note'
to you and your wife about your future plans!
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Sorry I did not answer. I have received several notes that were very strange so I just stopped reading them.
Send it again and I will respond.
 
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Lord we pray bless the Pastor, his son's family in this matter. Let what to say you know the solution please help and find a solution to this problem. Lord please this prayer. In Jesus loving name, Amen!
 
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Ellsworth1943 said:
It may be more days, but less hours. And young children not seeing their father for 28 days at a time does not seem good.
I was told that his son made this decision without even talking with his wife.
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He definitely should have talked to his wife before accepting the position.
 
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