My wife and our marriage

Please pray for us and my wife. She called wanting me to take Riley to school because her mom had a few mini strokes. She was going to take her in the morning, I said I would get Riley that she needed to take her mother to the hospital now. I could tell when talking to her that she looks at me with contempt and doesn’t trust anything I’m doing as pure. I really think she believes I’m a narcissist and that I’m out to get her. I offered to pick Riley up from school and pay for aftercare. She immediately got defensive and said her mom could if she was ok. I kindly said her mom didn’t need to drive if she was having strokes. She immediately said that she would call in to work. I took on another job to work less hours and she accused me of trying to screw her over because she wanted to divorce me. I don’t get that because the arguments we had before she left was over me getting another job to work less hours and her going back to work. I just pray to convince her that I love her and that I am not out to get her. I know she thinks this stuff from stuff she read on the internet and probably her mother and family convincing her. It hurts, it’s making me anxious. Please help me Jesus. Please lift this perception she has of me.

Dear Jesus bless this dear Brother as he faces his trials. Lord work in both his wife and himself to smooth the ruff edges that cause friction and may a spirit of forgiveness rule in both their hearts. Thank you Jesus that you are concerned about ever area of our lives and help this dear one to use this time to draw near to you. Thank you Jesus

Based on this and previous posts it seems that one of the reasons your wife was divorcing you was because you were working too many hours but really wanted the money that those extra hours earned.

I don't believe that her perception of you is going to change anytime soon, if anything, it seems to be getting worse.

My advice is to let her to what she wants by divorce as there probably not anything you can do to change things. Your wife sounds like she's high-strung and high maintenance. Your life might not be any happier if she does divorce you but after that may come peace in your life.

Your relationship with your daughter is not predicated on your relationship with your wife. These are two very different relationships with two different dynamics. My advice is to now simply focus on being a good father to your daughter and let your wife go her own way.

It sounds like basically you have had a crappy marriage. Don't feel bad about this because your not alone in this. I have traveled down your path too. At first the divorce was devastating, but after a couple years I realized it was a blessing from God. This may be true for you as well.

I know that it sucks but that's the way it is right now but it's up to you whether or not you let this situation destroy you or see it as an opportunity to move forward in your life in a positive direction.

Ummm I think you want coulters post

Thanks for your comment tourist. She is a bit high maintenance. Even so, I am still called by God to love her and fight for her through it all. I have made a lot of mistakes myself. I am learning some things through all of this. To respond with love and not react with bitterness. To choose to love her as Christ loves me, even when she is being this way. I am seeking God more than I ever have. I have to keep loving her and fighting for her. I hope and pray, for God to be glorified that we don’t divorce. I pray that God does a work in our hearts that people will give God the glory. I pray that our marriage will be an example of what a Godly marriage should be. I believe in accordance with His will, God is able and can heal and restore our marriage.

oops im in the wrong spot, i have prayed for you brother !

Dear Lord, I pray for this man who obviously loves his wife, that you would soften her heart, and bring healing to whatever has hurt her, help him to know what if anything that he can do to help the situation, and work mightly thru this whole situation for their good and your glory, amen.

Lord bless Roninbama and this prayer, in Jesus Holy name, Amen!

I pray that God touches the both of you and with His grace you both work together to restore this marriage and have it stronger than ever before. You are obviously in this for the long haul and that's commendable.

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I have prayed for you, Roninbama. I prayed that you wife and her whole family will have a positive view of you and your marriage and you will both see that marriage is an institution ordained and protected by God. Many time things work out mainly by prayer alone but as events unfold you have to trust in the Lord. May I ask if you are both Christians?I have prayed for you, Roninbama. I prayed that you wife and her whole family will have a positive view of you and your marriage and you will both see that marriage is an institution ordained and protected by God. Many time things work out mainly by prayer alone but as events unfold you have to trust in the Lord. May I ask if you are both Christians?

We are both Christian’s.

I asked because there is a weekend marriage getaway program called “A Weekend to Remember” sponsored by Family Life that are held in several locations all over the country. It might be worth it for you and your wife. My wife and I have always had a good marriage but the seminar really helped strengthen it. There are a lot of testimonies including people I know whose failing marriages made a complete turnaround. There was even one case of a couple who were literally slugging it out on the parking lot but went home loving one another. It will help set your view on marriage properly and each other’s role in your relationship. Google it and check it out. I just hope that your wife will agree to give it a try. Hopefully everything turns for the better.

I am so sorry you are going through this. I can sense the desperation in your post. Have you considered talking to your pastor about your situation? Perhaps the two of you can come up with a good way for you to better communicate with your wife. Maybe if your communication begins to improve she might be willing to attend counseling with you to repair and then strengthen your marriage.